Frustated...

Its hard , my husband needs to gain weight also and he eats junk food galore and wont listen when i say i dont want it in the house. He doesnt go about it as rudely as you just described but it is definitely annoying and HARD! Just think though how wonderful it will be when you lose all your weight and you look hot and stunning...maybe hubby might get a little scared...lol

Its totally understandable and reasonable to be frustrated and upset. You have set a goal and are working hard to achieve it. The unreasonable thing is that the man you are about to commit the rest of your life to is unwilling to support you and is open about shaming you. He should be proud that you are making changes in your life that will lead to better health and a longer life with him and your son. You guys are a family and you have to do things together.

It sounds like you need to have an adult conversation with him about a little bit more than ice cream.

I totally agree with 'Poodlepaw's comment. That is really insensitive and should be supporting you when you need it most. My family used to be like that to me a lot... CONSTANTLY pushing food in my face when they knew I was on a diet, or trying to talk me out of it. That's the worst feeling in the world. It sounds like you and your hubby need to have a serious talk about how this affected you... maybe see if you can get to the root (or 'rude' in this case!) of the problem. Why isn't he supporting you? Why would he use such harsh and abusive language. Maybe he doesn't fully understand your point of view or that what he said is counterproductive to you and your diet. I am very proud of you for your willpower and for standing your ground. That's huge and congrats to you!

so sorry your husband was so insensitive

but maybe you can use it to fuel you on!

when i was halfway through weight loss last time i was chatting to a guy online, met up with him and as we were sat having a coffee he asked 'so you work out most days...wow, you must eat alot!!' with a really insulting tone...i was offended but i took that and it gave me the determination to stick with it and lose the weight....i went on to hit my target goal of 126lbs and looked fab

My husband does the same thing, then we sat down and talked about it, it is his insecurities thats the problem, he is afraid I will get skinny and find someone else. I had to reassure him.

guess i just need to vent a little. finance wants me to go buy him and my son some ice cream. suggested they both go to sonic and get some, eat then come home. said something bout i aint got to eat it. told him i didnt think i had the will power tonight. then he went there...said well we aint the ones needing to lose weight, if anything we need to gain. i'm pissed and hurt.

Is that so? Well just you tell him that you don't have to go buy it either and if he wants it, to go and bloody well buy it himself.

Not only was he totally insensitive to your feelings and efforts, but he is being selfish. Ask him is he is going to support you or try to sabotage your efforts, if it is the former, tell him to walk his talk and not ask you to buy crap that you may be unable to resist.