Does anyone no someone like this????

paulylovesme
paulylovesme Posts: 170
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My Aunt goes to Dr weighs well over 300#s. Cries to Dr that she doesn't know why she can't lose weight. Says all she eats is fruits and veggies. No sweets, bad foods ect. My mom is just like looking at Dr. not wanting to say anything. She is sitting there flat out lying to the Dr. but you can tell she genuinely believes what she is saying! Leaves the Dr. goes to directly to the Buffet sits down to 4 plates of meat plus sweet tea to drink. Not one Vegetable or fruit in site. Goes home and there are multiple packages of ice cream. She eats about a gallon a day. Plus all she drinks is sweet tea. Always has fast food wrappers but still dead pan looks at you and says idk y I cant lose weight! It is so frustrating. I want to help her but she is in such denial!! What would you do? Please keep in mind she just recently lost her mother who was also her room mate and best friend. And she is not 100% mentally stable. But damn does this frustrate anyone else??

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  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    you can't help her until she wants to be helped.


    oh, and you incorrectly used the homophone of "know" in the title...just pointing that out.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    *twitch*
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    *twitch*

    are you stalking me?

    not saying that's bad... just wondering :)
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,418 Member
    Stay out of it.

    Family is frustrating all the time. :laugh:

    People are frustrating.

    There. That's it.
  • iamanadult
    iamanadult Posts: 709 Member
    Know I don't.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    sits down to 4 plates of meat

    great protein intake!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I know people who I can sit and watch down four or five alcoholic drinks at a time and then they tell me the next day they only had one. And they believe that.

    Similar issue. Not much you can do about it.
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    Know I don't.

    Beat me to it :laugh:
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I don't no what's going on here.
  • richardositosanchez
    richardositosanchez Posts: 260 Member
    She's in denial and that's her problem, not yours. Like others said, there's nothing that you can do to help her until she is ready to help herself.
  • atb0821
    atb0821 Posts: 458 Member
    Denial is pretty powerful sometimes.

    I had a very overweight friend who complained about not being able to lose weight try to convince me that she literally only ate plain lettuce all the time. Like alllll the time. Then another friend staying at her house said in actuality she ate 2 bags of potato chips for breakfast.

    So...it is what it is I guess.
  • tmm_0127
    tmm_0127 Posts: 545 Member
    Denial. :( Admitting there's an issue is the first step to recovery from anything, and no one in the world can make her admit it. She has to want to change.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Denial is pretty powerful sometimes.

    I had a very overweight friend who complained about not being able to lose weight try to convince me that she literally only ate plain lettuce all the time. Like alllll the time. Then another friend staying at her house said in actuality she ate 2 bags of potato chips for breakfast.

    So...it is what it is I guess.
    Years ago on another weight loss site, a woman came on who weighed about 300 pounds and claimed she got to that weight by eating only one single turkey sandwich a day for years.
  • HealthyWarrior
    HealthyWarrior Posts: 394 Member
    I have a cousin just like that. Nothing you say or do will help them until they want to be helped. My cousin says she needs to eat all the time cause she is so hungry. Of course its all in her head. I can't exercise cause I'm too fat. Nope you can't exercise because you don't want to. Sadly till they man up they will continue down their own path of destruction.
  • JoyeII
    JoyeII Posts: 240 Member
    She has to help herself.

    The only think I might suggest is giving her a food diary. Maybe she doesn't realize how much she's eating?
  • ElliottTN
    ElliottTN Posts: 1,614 Member
    I would say take a quick trip over to the general weight loss forum. There are plenty of people living this reality right now over there. May be good to see what others are telling them.
  • paulylovesme
    paulylovesme Posts: 170
    you can't help her until she wants to be helped.


    oh, and you incorrectly used the homophone of "know" in the title...just pointing that out.


    LOL OMG I did. Super embarrassed now. ;)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    you can't help her until she wants to be helped.


    oh, and you incorrectly used the homophone of "know" in the title...just pointing that out.


    LOL OMG I did. Super embarrassed now. ;)
    Don't be.

    I write and edit for a living and have done that myself. Sometimes the fingers work more quickly than the brain.
  • paulylovesme
    paulylovesme Posts: 170
    Know I don't.


    way to point out a mistake :) I usually type faster than I think so I make mistakes often. Thanks for making me feel better about it. Because God KNOWS NO one else has ever done that!
  • paulylovesme
    paulylovesme Posts: 170
    you can't help her until she wants to be helped.


    oh, and you incorrectly used the homophone of "know" in the title...just pointing that out.


    LOL OMG I did. Super embarrassed now. ;)
    Don't be.

    I write and edit for a living and have done that myself. Sometimes the fingers work more quickly than the brain.

    Thanks for not judging me :) lol
  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    Denial is pretty powerful sometimes.

    I had a very overweight friend who complained about not being able to lose weight try to convince me that she literally only ate plain lettuce all the time. Like alllll the time. Then another friend staying at her house said in actuality she ate 2 bags of potato chips for breakfast.

    So...it is what it is I guess.
    Years ago on another weight loss site, a woman came on who weighed about 300 pounds and claimed she got to that weight by eating only one single turkey sandwich a day for years.


    What if it was one of those 6-foot turkey sandwiches? :wink:
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    Give her a food diary as a gift. Hopefully she won't lie on it to herself.. :\
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    you can't help her until she wants to be helped.


    oh, and you incorrectly used the homophone of "know" in the title...just pointing that out.


    LOL OMG I did. Super embarrassed now. ;)
    Don't be.

    I write and edit for a living and have done that myself. Sometimes the fingers work more quickly than the brain.

    Thanks for not judging me :) lol
    People really were just joking around. Don't take it seriously or personally. :-)
    What if it was one of those 6-foot turkey sandwiches?

    True, true. lol

    But she insisted it was a normal-sized one on regular bread. Now maybe she put 6 feet worth of turkey between the pieces of bread?
  • dbmata
    dbmata Posts: 12,950 Member
    Video tape her.

    Upload to youtube.

    Post it anonymously on FB, with her tagged.

    She'll get it, or not.

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