Worst things said to you about your weight?

Nouurann
Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
All through out elementary and middle school, my parents would always tell me that if I didn't get skinnier, I'd have no friends in high school, boys wouldn't like me, girls would make fun of me, and I'll be forever cast into the "fat table" at lunch D: I'm semi-over it, semi-not, even though it's been a while.

& to lighten the mood :-) this morning I was talking to a close friend and he was telling me how I don't need to lose weight, and I responded with "I know I don't need to, but I still have some fat I'd like to get rid of" His words of support? "Nouran, lets look at cats. Everybody wants that cute, fluffy fat cat with some extra something thrown in there eating cat nip out of it's whiskers" It was actually really funny, but now I'm determined to NOT be that cat lol.
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  • ldula88
    ldula88 Posts: 169 Member
    I know how you feel. My mother once told me, when I was starting high school, that I would never have a boyfriend if I didn't lose weight. Thanks mom... Also being told "you'd be really pretty if you lost some weight." People are so mean sometimes, even if they mean well, lol.
  • loriq41
    loriq41 Posts: 479 Member
    I was told by a close family member that I better lose weight when my son was young because I wouldn't want to embarrass him...wow....one of the most hurtful things I have ever been told...cruel.
  • mstukofski
    mstukofski Posts: 14
    The worst thing ever said to me happened when I was in fifth grade. We were getting weighed for fitness day (121#) and one of the bully boys was near the scale and yelled : "elephant girl, watch out, she weighs 121". I was so embarrassed that this is the first time I considered myself fat and never shook that feeling.
  • tink11464
    tink11464 Posts: 119 Member
    Four years ago, my entire family and I were at a cousin's funeral and his ex-wife showed up. I didn't recognize her as she had lap band surgery and lost so much weight. My mom turns to me and says "Wow, you should get that done". Ummmm - okayyyy - already sad about losing a cousin and throw that in mom!! Some people just don't think before they speak!!!
  • Mokey41
    Mokey41 Posts: 5,769 Member
    When I was about 10 the kids at school told me that my mom was fat. To me she was just my mom so I had to go home and ask her if she was fat. I remember the look on her face but the up side was she realized that she was fat and lost quite a bit of weight. Sometimes the truth hurts but you can either let it get you down or face it and make the changes. If you want brutal honesty, just ask a kid!
  • _KitKat_
    _KitKat_ Posts: 1,066 Member
    The 2 worse things are:
    When I was a little kid my grandma told me "they would have to roll me to school if I didn't get thinner"; the thing is I was a tiny kid and only weighed 105 when I graduated, and I thought Grandma's were suppose to be nice and bake cookies or some *kitten*.

    2nd: My mother- law looked at me and said "Don't tell me your pregnant again"; I only have 2 girls both from my husband and I hadn't even gained my weight yet. Actually the other pic (5'4" 135lbs.) in my profile is when she said that to me. Plus WTF if I was, not her business. The funny part is at that time she was round in shape.

    If I wasn't taking responsibility for my own sloth-ish behavior, I guess I could blame the mean-*kitten* women in my life.
  • jeffd247
    jeffd247 Posts: 319 Member
    My daughter crying one day at the beach and said, "Some boys were calling you fat and being mean to you but they were bigger than me so I ran away".


    That was it for me. Not said to me directly, but that was my laying in a puddle of my own vomit because I just OD'd on heroin type of lowpoint.
  • sweetpea03b
    sweetpea03b Posts: 1,123 Member
    My senior year in HS... i think I was in a juniors size 13 at the time. I was trying on prom dresses and showing them to my BF... but not one that I picked out fit me. He said "well maybe if you lost a little bit of weight..." We didn't date very long thereafter. Looking back now I know that he wasnt trying to be mean... but it stung.
  • janetteluparia
    janetteluparia Posts: 318 Member
    You really don't have the body for a thong.....by my husband!! What an idiot!!
  • ViktoryaC
    ViktoryaC Posts: 124 Member
    I could write a book about these type of situations, having been on both sides of the thin/fat divide......I was 5'6 110 pounds until about a year and a half ago, now I;ve gained 64 pounds and 14 inches round my waist. Probably what depresses me the most is when people who always knew me skinny look shocked when they see me, and ask all these concerned questions. No, I'm not pregnant, yes, my thyroid is fine, I;m just fat now. A lot of co-workers used to be all jealous of my figure, now they laugh that Vicki sure got fat now, just like them! :sad: I ran into an ex boyfriend about 2 weeks ago who always used to put his hands around my 24 inch waist....he just stared at me and asked what happened. And my doctor and the nurse in his office are just convinced I;m a glutton who's letting herself get fat on purpose. Being fat is hard for everyone, but it's a special kind of humiliating when you were always a skinny little stick before....
  • vickish76
    vickish76 Posts: 80 Member
    Mine happened this week actually - my husband was commenting that his hair is getting thinner on top. (Since we're both in our later 30s) I told him we are both at that point in our lives that our bodies are changing and what was really important is that we love each other no matter what. To which he replied, "well, you can always do squats but I can't help that I'm losing my hair." Really wanted to punch him in his throat at that point...
  • Shibagurl09
    Shibagurl09 Posts: 3
    When I was at my heaviest I had someone ask me when I was expecting my baby! that was awful....

    then when I started losing weight I had some one say "You better stop getting so skinny, you might blow away when a strong wind comes"

    cant win either way....
  • ladybarometer
    ladybarometer Posts: 205 Member
    rat tat tat tat tat, Misty is fat.
    - my big brother :(

    He's much nicer now lol!
  • jennk5309
    jennk5309 Posts: 206 Member
    In about the year before I met my husband, I had three men who I went out with tell me that they really liked me but weren't attracted to me. They didn't say it was my weight, but I knew that's what it was. Even my husband struggled in the beginning with not feeling very attracted to me (which manifested as bedroom problems and which he admitted was because of my weight), but he really dug me so he stuck around. He doesn't have that problem anymore. I'd have stopped going out with him, but because of those three men before him, I knew it wasn't a problem that was going to go away unless I lost weight.

    (PS- please don't slam my hubby because of that- he didn't put me down or belittle me, he was just struggling and being honest about the root cause of those struggles.)
  • gabbygirl78
    gabbygirl78 Posts: 936 Member
    You would be beautiful if you would just lose some weight....:cry:
  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    Four years ago, my entire family and I were at a cousin's funeral and his ex-wife showed up. I didn't recognize her as she had lap band surgery and lost so much weight. My mom turns to me and says "Wow, you should get that done". Ummmm - okayyyy - already sad about losing a cousin and throw that in mom!! Some people just don't think before they speak!!!

    Ouch, talk about the wrong time and place D: My father told me I was fat at my 11th birthday party, and that I should let the other kids have my cake lol. Also, horrible timed.
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    The worst things actually haven't been said about me specifically (and there have been some cruel things said). Hearing what strangers really think about fat people or the "obesity epidemic" even when they aren't actually talking about anyone in particular just breaks my heart. One of the pages I follow on Facebook posted "Obesity is ______." Seeing how a crowd of random people finished that sentence makes me sad in a way that no one person talking directly to me could ever do.
  • LiliWray
    LiliWray Posts: 101 Member
    I was working at McDonald's at the time. I had a customer, an older gentleman, order from me and then he told me, "Honey, you'd be pretty if you lost all that weight and quit eating here."
  • AmyP619
    AmyP619 Posts: 1,137 Member
    I was called a "snowplow" by my middle school BF.... talking about me to his buddies... 12 year olds are so hateful. lol
  • clambert1273
    clambert1273 Posts: 840 Member
    my daughter (6 years old) told me "you have a fat tummy" and later that week said "mommy, your boobs are long and gross".... Yup that did it for me... lol
  • hyenagirl
    hyenagirl Posts: 206 Member
    "You're skin and bones! You don't eat enough!" I make it a point now to eat all my meals in front of people, otherwise they're convinced that I have some sort of problem not eating. When I go out, I usually wind up eating much more than the people calling me "skin and bones". I can really pack food away.
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    I wouldn't dwell on past insults and petty people. Do what is good for you and get on with life.
  • RachaelRenk
    RachaelRenk Posts: 116 Member
    I've been pretty thin most of my life until about a year and a half ago. I haven't heard anything really mean, necessarily, but because I'm not really used to this size I don't really like it when people compare now-me to then-me. My mom has made comments about "it's probably all the beer" and "you've gained weight", my boyfriend sometimes says dumb *kitten* things like "look at your big floppy titties!" (bounces them). I used to have super small boobs. No more. They aren't even floppy, they just aren't so close to my body anymore. That just makes me feel really self conscious of my weight and also worried that I have awful boobs because they're too big or something.

    Men, let me just say this now..."floppy" is probably one of the WORST adjectives you can use in reference to your girlfriend's body.

    Don't do it. Ever.

    He also also (jokingly, but not funny) made references to my "big round belly".
  • TeriOlsen
    TeriOlsen Posts: 1 Member
    I was asked if I was pregnant...at a bar...while drinking, and by an acquaintance. I thought it should be common sense that i was NOT pregnant with a beer in hand, just fluffy around the waist. But, nonetheless, that question was asked in a loud-let-me-talk-over-the-music manner and EVERYONE heard. Within a moments time all eyes lowered to my mid-section and I went to the bathroom and cried. It took another 18 months and 10 more pounds to finally wake me up. But now I am here and ready to kick butt...
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I took care of seniors for awhile when I was a college student and they would usually make some comment about my weight "You're a chubby little thing" or "Honey you could be in pictures, you're so pretty, you just need to lose some weight!" I always had a hard time letting that go, even though I knew they were old and sometimes confused. I think that's one reason I always preferred working with nonverbal people with autism instead of seniors, at that job!

    The worst, though, is when I was 13 or 14 yrs old. I was already at my adult height of 5'8", at about 180 lb and wore a 13 or 14 in most things. I didn't consider myself "fat" (in fact now at age 37 that's my goal weight for the next year or so). I went over to my stepmom's friend's house with her for a party. It was a sales party with really tacky bejeweled clothing...this would have been around 1990. Anyway, I was a goth/grunge kid so not interested in the bejeweled junk these 40 yr old women were. At one point during the party, the hostess turned to me and said "They have PLUS SIZES! I'm sure they have something to fit you!" I was so humiliated. There I was, in 8th grade and all of these women 30-50 yrs old were skinny and looking right at me. It was horrible.
  • ModernNerd
    ModernNerd Posts: 336 Member
    There's no winning my friends. I've always been pretty slender (I'm on here to put on a little weight and some muscle) but not unhealthy looking by any means. Last semester I had a perfect stranger give me the elevator stare before calling me a skinny b!tch. I gave her a wink and raised my 100000-calorie Starbucks drink to her. Kill 'em with kindness :wink:
  • jeffd247
    jeffd247 Posts: 319 Member
    My daughter crying one day at the beach and said, "Some boys were calling you fat and being mean to you but they were bigger than me so I ran away".


    That was it for me. Not said to me directly, but that was my laying in a puddle of my own vomit because I just OD'd on heroin type of lowpoint.

    And I should have said that, looking back on it now, I'm so glad this happened to me. What a wake up call.
  • tink11464
    tink11464 Posts: 119 Member
    Four years ago, my entire family and I were at a cousin's funeral and his ex-wife showed up. I didn't recognize her as she had lap band surgery and lost so much weight. My mom turns to me and says "Wow, you should get that done". Ummmm - okayyyy - already sad about losing a cousin and throw that in mom!! Some people just don't think before they speak!!!

    Ouch, talk about the wrong time and place D: My father told me I was fat at my 11th birthday party, and that I should let the other kids have my cake lol. Also, horrible timed.

    Sadddd - My mom also did this to my daughter in front of my daughter's cousins (my mom's other grandkids who are ALL thin - my daughter fights the same weight issues I do). My daughter was about 18 and took my youngest (who was 6) to my moms for the day to go swimming with all of their cousins. My mom ordered pizza and in front of everyone told my daughter she could only have one piece - I think I lost ALL my marbles that day - I never blasted my mom until that day - she absolutely crushed my daughter - and in front of all of the other kids!!! Just wrong - it's sad the way those who never had weight issues think!!!
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    The two that stand out most in my mind was

    1. I was swimming with my little brother and he dived under the water in front of me, came up and instantly said "Wow, Mum was right, you ARE really fat!" What made that so much worse was number 1, the look of genuine disgust on his face (can always rely on kids to be honest), and number two, the fact that my Mum hadn't said anything to me, which meant my brother had overheard her saying it to someone else.

    2. When I passed my driving test I went to collect my car that was being dropped off at my Nans house, and when they dropped it off my Nan said "I hope that comes with a strong suspension if Lauren is driving it."

    Yeah, my family don't mince their words. :laugh:
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    Four years ago, my entire family and I were at a cousin's funeral and his ex-wife showed up. I didn't recognize her as she had lap band surgery and lost so much weight. My mom turns to me and says "Wow, you should get that done". Ummmm - okayyyy - already sad about losing a cousin and throw that in mom!! Some people just don't think before they speak!!!

    I feel you. I've been lucky enough to have had relatively few comments said to my face about weight through the decades, despite having been fat for the good majority of my life ever since I was 5 years old or so. There are a few choices moments though that really stand out.

    My brother's brother (who is not related to me), who I hadn't seen in years, decided that the repass meal RIGHT AFTER MY FATHER'S FUNERAL was the perfect time to make a comment about how much weight I'd put back on, after having lost a lot a few years prior. Here I was crushed, grieving, trying to hold myself up, and he thinks the perfect mealtime small talk is to bring up how fat I've gotten. I was too far gone to even set his *kitten* straight.

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