56lbs to lose :( really need support

Hi
I just added you.
Good luck!

It just clicked for me one day after seeing a picture of myself posted on facebook. It really is what goes in your mouth and what you burn off. Set your goals and go. Add me if you need some motivation.

Hey!

I was 5'8" and 245lbs and it was hard to break the cycle for sure! (and even harder to keep going once it's broken!)

There's no real 'how do you do this' pep talk because everyone's motivation is different! I started with walking to earn treats, like if I walked down the mountain I lived on and back up again for Chinese food, I could have some. Then, slowly, I made the connection that I felt better when I walked, so I'd walk for my groceries, and then when I was bored I'd walk, and I ended up walking pretty much everywhere... which was great when I was in college, but when I moved back home, my boyfriend didn't like walking so I stopped and gained 20lbs back, and here we are again and I just got back from another walk.

My boss challenged me to a weight-loss competition, and so I'm doing it again. Most people find it helpful to have someone else there so you can motivate each other. Is there anyone close to you looking to lose weight? Or someone who's a healthy weight that exercises regularly that you can tag along with? It's always easier with someone helping you along, especially to start.

Personally, I try to model my mindset towards people I'd like to emulate... mostly fictional ones actually, since they're usually able to do ANYTHING. I sometimes guilt myself into disaster mode, thinking how useless I'd be to my loved ones if something terrible happened because I'd be out of breath at the first block.

Most important is to force yourself to go on a schedule, so you feel like you're *supposed* to be exercising right now instead of sitting down. ... wait, no, most important is to never feel bad about yesterday. If you miss a day or have a bad day and just eat a tub of ice cream and wallow, feeling bad about it isn't going to do anything but convince you to do it again. Yesterday is over, make it about having a better day today!

Hope that rambling maybe helped a little. You can definitely do it, and it's definitely daunting, but if you set yourself to it, it'll slowly come off.

We have all been there, it is a vicious cycle for sure :flowerforyou:

It is just a thing of taking each day at a time.

What helped me was planning my `eating` day the night before...use the database put in your foods and work out the calories.

Most important is to try to get in the exercise that you need to be incorporating. Add that exercise to give you some extra calories.

Believe in yourself, if we can all do it, then you can do it too xx

Hello I have the same issue all that I do is come home in deal with drama I did recently lose 15 pounds but now I just about gained it all back was at 227 went down to 212 now im back to 218 in im 5ft10 in im ashamed with the way I look but like I said my life is just filled with nothing but drama then I have stuff working on my conscious in i just cant deal with it so what do I do I decide to eat down 3000+ calories in gain all of the wheight just about back in 1 day maybe if everyone would stop giving me so much drama I could get my life together in finally get out of the obese range all that I understand about wheight loss is you create deficits from your bmr in so what that means is you eat anywhere from 250-1000 calories 250 being 1/2lb 500 being 1lb 1000 being 2lbs less then your bmr heres a very simple way of calculating it take how much you wheigh times 12 then create a deficit of no more then 1000 calories thats the fastest amount of wheight loss you shoud have which is 2lbs a week you should exercise on an empty stomach before you eat breakfast just drink a bottle of water that way when you eat you wont be burning off any calories from your food doesnt matter what your routine is in when you eat just exercise before eating youll still burn off fat you should never drop below 1200 calories your wheight loss will probablly become slower as you lose wheight but dont give up in remember dont restrict your calories anymore then 1200 well best of luck.

Like everyone else, know how you feel. Big news though - other people don't really care about the way you look, they're too busy thinking about themselves. You are your own worst enemy. Be kind to yourself. Make a plan, do your best to stick to what you can!

Hello - I understand how you feel completely! And the best advice I can give is don't give up - it will take you a while to lose 56lbs. Set smaller goals - I did 3.5lbs goals (a quarter of a stone).... and treated myself to something when i got there. Some times that was every fortnight, sometimes that was once a month.... but keep going. Your body will feel so much better, and you will be able to look in the mirror and think - "ye gods, is that me? I look fantastic!!"

I am in a similar spot. I have a lot of weight to lose, and was just diagnosed with diabetes. I really felt sorry for myself and then I got really mad at myself for letting things get this out of control. I made goals, and decided to be in charge again. I was not going to let my attitude, or behavior become that way again. I also tried to get friends motivated to support me and themselves. I have two friends that walk with me and check in with me about my choices. This website is also really beneficial because I enter everything I eat and all of my exercise and I am able to see exactly where I need to improve. My biggest issue is getting enough calories, but staying under my goal for sugars and carbs....the balance is really tough. I have a cool 100 to lose still and I have already lost 16. But I have a weekly goal and worry about it just one week at a time, but I do hope to have lost it by next June. So, I have a goal of 100 pounds in about 32 weeks. I can do it if I lose about 3.5 pounds a week. So my goal is short term and long...I am just a plan kind of person. Right now I am losing about 5 pounds a week on average, but that is because I just started getting my metabolism going and once I equalize this will drop and I may have to look at my goals again. Anyway, you are not alone. You have to make this journey about you and you as a whole. Good luck

Loved reading all these motivating replies I've got a bit less to lose, but face the same challenges

I am 5'7 and my starting weight was 272. I had a binge eating disorder so I sought therapy. I had to deal with issues in my head and understand personally the reasons why I was eating (it was not about the food-shocker).

Then we got into talking about movement. Notice I am not saying exercise. I mean movement. Getting up, walking, parking further away, etc. I was psychologically conditioning myself into the start of an exercise program. Then I started exercising. I kept trying different things to find out what I really loved.

Well I started running when I hit 253 pounds! Yep! Well running might be a normal weights person fast walk LOL but for me I felt like Forest Gump--" I was runNING! That really started shaping my body. I am now 227.

Then I started lifting weights and I got to MFP and I document EVERYTHING I eat. It doesn't go in my mouth without getting documented. The good, bad and ugly. That way if I don't lose I just have to look at my food diary and I will know why. It's no mystery.

Weight loss is also not linear. There will be weeks that you may not lose. But the visceral fat is disappearing. That is the dangerous fat that surrounds your organs.

You can do this. But make no mistake sister, you are going to have to make yourself a priority. And the very fact that you are here shows that you are. Congratulations. That is a major first step. You can do this. Now go own it!