Anyone have anxiety around others eating now?

I do, to some extent.

I bought a bag of clearance Halloween candy for little daily treats, put it in a basket on the counter, and was fine eating a piece a day while my husband was out of town. Once he got home, though, I realized that it makes me crazy to hear him digging around in it and to see him eating several pieces a day. I liken it to dogs with food aggression.

I'm working on it, though. Tell myself that it's OK that he gets 2.5 times the calories per day that I do. And that those aren't the last of that kind of candy in the world - I can always buy more.

No, but my wife eats bad and it makes me want to eat bad. Sometimes.

I do, to some extent.

I bought a bag of clearance Halloween candy for little daily treats, put it in a basket on the counter, and was fine eating a piece a day while my husband was out of town. Once he got home, though, I realized that it makes me crazy to hear him digging around in it and to see him eating several pieces a day. I liken it to dogs with food aggression.

I'm working on it, though. Tell myself that it's OK that he gets 2.5 times the calories per day that I do. And that those aren't the last of that kind of candy in the world - I can always buy more.

You should growl at him. Like a dog with a food aggression!

Some biting may help as well.

I was a previous binge eater.
I didn't have the concept of having some and leaving the rest for another day, like snacks.
I've now learned I can leave things in the pantry without having to eat them because they're there, and that I can save them for days that they fit into my goal.

But now every time someone in my house eats those foods, crinkles a chip wrapper, etc it gives me HUGE anxiety.
I usually leave and try to avoid it but if we're watching a movie or something it's a huge distraction.
Especially if they eat it all before I've had any, which makes me want to revert.

I've never had this problem until I started losing weight and changing how I eat.


Anyone else?

I don't know what it is, but I had this to a mild extent, too. I guess, I was always afraid of being hungry, and I also felt sorry for myself if I didn't get to eat something that others were eating. I'm pretty sure that I likened food to love and reward, as well as shame and self-loathing. So, what worked for me, was telling myself that skinny people who eat what they want in front of me were taunting me, and I refused to give in. If people brought food to the office, I decided they were trying to make me fat. LOL! Lastly, I recognized that misery loves company, so when my "fat" friends tried to pressure me into eating something (because it makes THEM feel better/not alone), I decided to remember a quote from "French Women Don't Get Fat," which was: "Let THEM eat cake." Have 2-3 small bites and savor them, and let the other people devour the cake, treat, or whatever.

One would think that the above methods would be psychologically damaging, but I recognized it as a game to keep my motivation going and keep it strong. It worked, too! At some point, you begin to recognize that what others eat is none of your business. When you know what/how much YOU can eat, that's where you gain control. It takes time, though. Keep at it, and you'll get "there."

Granted, even though you know in theory you can enjoy certain things in moderation, sometimes when the young super thin 20somethings at work come in with their coffee shop desserts and big *kitten* piles of fish and chips, I'm all like this:

I completely understand the anxiety! It can really get to me some days seeing as how both my husband and my female best friend are trying to gain weight while I'm trying to lose (my husband is 5'9" 140 lbs and my friend is 5'6" 105 lbs). I went to the movies with my friend this weekend where she ate popcorn on her own and afterwards ate 2 sushi rolls with beer (I had 1 sushi roll). We went to hang at my house where we watched tv with me in the middle. During this time my husband ate a big bowl of sugary cereal followed by a big bowl of ice cream and my friend devoured 3 full size candy bars and 2 Stellas over a couple of hours and then went to get McDonald's. I felt really defeated, but I just have to pick myself up the next day and be proud of my ability to control my own eating habits when being around them. Our situations are all very different and I am trying hard to avoid temptation without getting frustrated with other people for things that are not their fault in any way.