Weighing more than I look :(

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  • maconk22
    maconk22 Posts: 18
    I think most of us fall in this catergory. I weigh 166 pounds and I get this frequently.....but I am only 5'1. This is heavy for me. I dont ever want to be my ideal body weight (which is 127) but I would love to get back to 145-150 AT LEAST!

    Dont let it offend you...take it as a compliment. Only YOU know what the scales say!! :wink:
  • Beth720
    Beth720 Posts: 661 Member
    Yeah. No one ever believes how much I weigh. Usually even at the doctor's office I have to tell them to move the big weight on the scale up another notch.

    And yeah...the whole shape and size thing is so frustrating. I felt (and in pictures looked) smaller than my educational assistant last year, but her pants were the same size or a size smaller than mine! I would feel so defeated when she would say 'Oh, these 12s are too big' or something. I have finally just convinced myself to worry about ME and know that I'm doing what's right for ME. (I also know that with my e.a. last year it's definitely a frame thing - because of her weight she has all kinds of joint issues and she's a type 2 diabetic,,,things I don't have to deal with.)
  • Aeriel
    Aeriel Posts: 864 Member
    I think one of the issues is that people, including myself, have no idea how to translate a scale number to a visual number. I never thought I looked really heavy (even at my highest, 234) and thought where is the 80 pounds that I am supposed to lose? I couldn't see it. Now looking back at pictures, after losing my most recent 44 pounds (I'd lost 20 before that) I can see exactly where that weight was! :grumble:

    Now I am sitting at 170, with good muscle tone and still some fat to lose. However, I am now fitting in size 11 or 12 pants, bought a size 8 dress with a flowing skirt that looks amazing and I am in size M or L shirts instead of 18/20 pants, XL or 2X shirts and no dresses! :smile:

    Every one says...you must be done. You don't need to lose any more. You can't possibly be 170! Well, as others have said, I am still in the overweight category, barely, for my height (5'8"). I am aiming for 150 but I am flexible and comfortable enough with myself and my body that if I look good at 160, I'll stop. The biggest thing is to be happy with yourself. It doesn't matter what others think, just what you know and how you feel about yourself.

    I lost this weight for myself, not for anyone else, but I will admit that it made me feel wonderful the other night when my husband said I looked fantastic. I blushed and said thanks, I am glad you think I look good, so do I. And he clarified that no, he said fantastic.....there's good, there's great, there's really great, and there's amazing.......but I am looking fantastic, which tops them all!

    Thanks for the wonderful ego boost sweetheart! :happy: :blushing:
  • H_82
    H_82 Posts: 418 Member
    I'm in the same boat. People always think I'm 20-30lbs lighter than I am. Of course I never argue w/ them or tell them my actual weight, I just smile inside :wink: I think it has a lot to do how ya dress, too. Obviously, if ya wear tighter clothing - where stuff is oozing out, ya look heavier. But if you dress for your body, ya look great! I just take it as a major compliment. But there are always those nosey people out there that just really want to know what you weigh, for jealousy reasons, or whatever. I say screw them! :laugh:
  • Beth720
    Beth720 Posts: 661 Member
    I'm in the same boat. People always think I'm 20-30lbs lighter than I am. Of course I never argue w/ them or tell them my actual weight, I just smile inside :wink: I think it has a lot to do how ya dress, too. Obviously, if ya wear tighter clothing - where stuff is oozing out, ya look heavier. But if you dress for your body, ya look great! I just take it as a major compliment. But there are always those nosey people out there that just really want to know what you weigh, for jealousy reasons, or whatever. I say screw them! :laugh:

    Really baggy is just as bad as too tight in terms of making you look big. I've got a friend who's slimmed down A LOT lately (she's in a really dance-heavy show and she's actually having to eat a ton to keep from gaining weight), but when she was heavy it was always wide-legged black pants (or maybe a skirt) and a tunic of some type that made her look so much heavier than she was.
  • Pandemonium
    Pandemonium Posts: 63
    I have definitely got that before where some would think I was lighter than I actually was.

    I found that a lot of people who do not guess right seem to have no concept of how to judge a person's weight. As well as, people no matter their height, have different factors to consider when thinking about one's weight. There's age, gender, height, and genetics all play a factor into one's weight.

    I'm sorry you feel upset by this, but stay positive, work hard, eat right and the pounds will start melting away.
  • sbilyeu75
    sbilyeu75 Posts: 567 Member
    I've always been glad that I weigh less than I look. But weight is just a number, it's the bodyfat and measurements that mean something.
  • 00trayn
    00trayn Posts: 1,849 Member
    I'm in the same boat. People always think I'm 20-30lbs lighter than I am. Of course I never argue w/ them or tell them my actual weight, I just smile inside :wink: I think it has a lot to do how ya dress, too. Obviously, if ya wear tighter clothing - where stuff is oozing out, ya look heavier. But if you dress for your body, ya look great! I just take it as a major compliment. But there are always those nosey people out there that just really want to know what you weigh, for jealousy reasons, or whatever. I say screw them! :laugh:

    Really baggy is just as bad as too tight in terms of making you look big. I've got a friend who's slimmed down A LOT lately (she's in a really dance-heavy show and she's actually having to eat a ton to keep from gaining weight), but when she was heavy it was always wide-legged black pants (or maybe a skirt) and a tunic of some type that made her look so much heavier than she was.

    I totally agree, the way you dress yourself really makes a difference too. I've been completely avoiding any tops that aren't fitted around my stomach (not too tight since I have a bit of a muffin top I'm getting rid of still), but enough that my shirt comes in below my boobs. If I wear flowy tops that drape down off my size 38C, I look HUGE!!! I've given away all my tops that do that (its the style I used to wear all the time). And having pants that fit right go a long way, otherwise my butt looks big in droopy pants. People don't believe I'm in size 10 (now 8) jeans when I tell them what size I used to be and what I am now. In tops I'm a small or medium in just about every store (still a large in some juniors but they run smaller).
  • Yarnpiggie
    Yarnpiggie Posts: 181
    I'm in the same boat. People always think I'm 20-30lbs lighter than I am. Of course I never argue w/ them or tell them my actual weight, I just smile inside :wink: I think it has a lot to do how ya dress, too. Obviously, if ya wear tighter clothing - where stuff is oozing out, ya look heavier. But if you dress for your body, ya look great! I just take it as a major compliment. But there are always those nosey people out there that just really want to know what you weigh, for jealousy reasons, or whatever. I say screw them! :laugh:

    Really baggy is just as bad as too tight in terms of making you look big. I've got a friend who's slimmed down A LOT lately (she's in a really dance-heavy show and she's actually having to eat a ton to keep from gaining weight), but when she was heavy it was always wide-legged black pants (or maybe a skirt) and a tunic of some type that made her look so much heavier than she was.

    I totally agree, the way you dress yourself really makes a difference too. I've been completely avoiding any tops that aren't fitted around my stomach (not too tight since I have a bit of a muffin top I'm getting rid of still), but enough that my shirt comes in below my boobs. If I wear flowy tops that drape down off my size 38C, I look HUGE!!! I've given away all my tops that do that (its the style I used to wear all the time). And having pants that fit right go a long way, otherwise my butt looks big in droopy pants. People don't believe I'm in size 10 (now 8) jeans when I tell them what size I used to be and what I am now. In tops I'm a small or medium in just about every store (still a large in some juniors but they run smaller).

    It's very funny because I finally gave in and bought a new pair of pants. I have been avoiding this solely because I don't want to buy new clothes for every size I go down. As it is getting colder, though, I am having to give up my capris for more winter clothes. Every time I wear this new pair of pants people tell me how skinny I am starting to look. I have decided they are MAGIC pants. lol
  • Pandemonium
    Pandemonium Posts: 63
    It's very funny because I finally gave in and bought a new pair of pants. I have been avoiding this solely because I don't want to buy new clothes for every size I go down. As it is getting colder, though, I am having to give up my capris for more winter clothes. Every time I wear this new pair of pants people tell me how skinny I am starting to look. I have decided they are MAGIC pants. lol

    I was thinking the same thing. I am avoiding buying new clothing all together if I can help it. I was thinking of buying pants that have draw strings in them so I can pull the string as I get smaller.
  • missspacecadet
    missspacecadet Posts: 13
    I know EXACTLY how you feel, when I used to weigh like 150-ish, I would wear a size 7-9, and people would always tell me I looked a lot smaller than that, now that I'm at 127, I don't see too much of a difference, yet. I can't wait to be skinnier! I can see my clavicle bone more clearly now, and my ribs. But my thighs aren't budging. I've been doing yoga (does that tone your body? I don't want to build muscle I just want to be a little more toned)

    I want to be a size 0-2. :) It will happen, I'm very determined.
  • Yarnpiggie
    Yarnpiggie Posts: 181
    I know EXACTLY how you feel, when I used to weigh like 150-ish, I would wear a size 7-9, and people would always tell me I looked a lot smaller than that, now that I'm at 127, I don't see too much of a difference, yet. I can't wait to be skinnier! I can see my clavicle bone more clearly now, and my ribs. But my thighs aren't budging. I've been doing yoga (does that tone your body? I don't want to build muscle I just want to be a little more toned)

    I want to be a size 0-2. :) It will happen, I'm very determined.

    Okay I have no desire to be as small as you but go you! Something jumped out in your post though that gave me a giggle. I was walking to the restroom one day and saw the very smallest glimpse of my clavicle. It was like it was playing peek-a-boo with me, but my mouth dropped open. Never in my life has that happened. lol!
  • sillygoose1977
    sillygoose1977 Posts: 2,151 Member
    I'm the same way but I prefer it . Would you really rather have someone say "Gee, I would have thought you weighed a lot more than that"??
  • NZblue
    NZblue Posts: 147 Member
    I'm 5 foot 2...... And I weigh 179. Most people can't believe that I don't fit into the clothing at certain stores. So people just carry their weight differently. For example, I can fit small dresses, but when things are fitted on my hips, I've got a problem. =)

    Don't stress about scale numbers. The way your clothes fit is the best way to go. =)

    My scales are telling me I've put on a kilo. My clothes are telling me I've lost one. =)
  • LuckyLeprechaun
    LuckyLeprechaun Posts: 6,296 Member
    I think the reason this is so prevalent is because so many people lie about their weight. So when we see a woman who SAYS she weighs 120, but she really weighs 145, our eyes see what that looks like and in our heads we label that look as "120" when in reality she weighs more and is a lying liar LOL. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    I was easily 210-ish at the time, and when I went to the DMV to get my license, the guy said to me Oh No, that's not true,...I'm gonna put you down for 175, but I doubt you even weigh that much... He may have been just flirting, but as a society I think the rampant lying about weight has skewed our idea of what different weights look like.

    Also, where you carry it makes a big difference as well. I could lose 40 lbs if I just lopped off these big ladies I'm carrying around LOL
  • H_82
    H_82 Posts: 418 Member
    I think the reason this is so prevalent is because so many people lie about their weight. So when we see a woman who SAYS she weighs 120, but she really weighs 145, our eyes see what that looks like and in our heads we label that look as "120" when in reality she weighs more and is a lying liar LOL. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    I was easily 210-ish at the time, and when I went to the DMV to get my license, the guy said to me Oh No, that's not true,...I'm gonna put you down for 175, but I doubt you even weigh that much... He may have been just flirting, but as a society I think the rampant lying about weight has skewed our idea of what different weights look like.

    Also, where you carry it makes a big difference as well. I could lose 40 lbs if I just lopped off these big ladies I'm carrying around LOL
    I can honestly say that my weight hasn't changed since I was 16.... on my license that is :laugh:
  • nicolas1984
    nicolas1984 Posts: 1 Member
    i have it sort of the other way people think i am heavier than i am
  • LotusF1ower
    LotusF1ower Posts: 1,259 Member
    Does anyone else have this problem? I'm 5'3 and 236pds. People say I only look about 180-190. I am a size 14-16.

    It's always been something that has upset me, especially when I see and hear of people my height who are only like 160. It's really frustrating!

    Eh?? Well that's good isn't it??

    Better to look less than you really are than look more than you actually weigh!

    Imagine, for instance, weighing, say 150lbs and then somebody comes up to you and says "good grief, I thought you weighed 200lbs!"

    Now THAT would really be a pisser!
  • Beth720
    Beth720 Posts: 661 Member
    Okay I have no desire to be as small as you but go you! Something jumped out in your post though that gave me a giggle. I was walking to the restroom one day and saw the very smallest glimpse of my clavicle. It was like it was playing peek-a-boo with me, but my mouth dropped open. Never in my life has that happened. lol!

    I just really noticed my collarbones and the little divot behind them the other night and was dancing around my apartment like a wild woman! SOOOOOO excited about it!!

    I'm down to a L in running tights - I haven't tried the M in the brand that claims my height/weight would put me in the M - and a L in most running tops! That makes me feel really good. And today I caught a glimpse of myself in the subway door window on my way to run, and for the first time I really started to feel...not skinny for sure, and not even really *thin* per se, but...not large. :)
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