Eating Disorder Help

MeowMeowMeow92
MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
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I don't know what to do. I have just been diagnosed with EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified). I am scared. I can't force myself to eat because of the voices in my head, telling me that I am worthless, fat, that I am disgusting and don't deserve food. How do I make them stop?
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  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
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  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    See a therapist. Seriously.

    You know this, though, because you have been here for a long time.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Seek help from a psychiatrist. If you are currently seeing a counselor, then I'd ask them for recommendations for support groups both offline and on.
  • charismanoodles
    charismanoodles Posts: 343 Member
    Get professional help, reach out to others in recovery of eating disorders and support each other, seek family + friends to express your feelings too; it's important to vent.
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    I already see a therapist?
  • hotmomma0612
    hotmomma0612 Posts: 651 Member
    I already see a therapist?

    Maybe find one that specializes in EDs?
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I already see a therapist?

    Glad youre seeing a therapist. Dont think there is much advice we can offer you here except hope you get some good help and find the healing you need.
  • j6o4
    j6o4 Posts: 871 Member
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.
  • tayteetots
    tayteetots Posts: 114 Member
    Based on your BDP I would recommend finding a therapist that does either dialectical behaviour therapy or psychodynamic psychotherapy (Psychoanalytic). DBT is often the most recommended therapy to help BPD but psychodynamic psychotherapy has better long term outcomes.


    *Edit* I'm going to assume that you're not actually hearing voices and this is your own self-talk. Just try to monitor what you say to yourself and bring it to your counsellor to get help working through it. They can probably help you with some CBT type work to help you with your self-talk.
  • funkyspunky872
    funkyspunky872 Posts: 866 Member
    I already see a therapist?

    Maybe find one that specializes in EDs?

    Definitely this. There are probably several psychologists in your area that specialize in eating disorders. If your therapist isn't already one, ask him/her for referrals. Most therapists will be willing to help you find a new professional to work with.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I'm sorry sweetie, but there is nothing that anyone here can do for you. We cannot tell you how to get better. But if you continue seeing your therapist and working on it, I have high hopes that you will be able to take control and be happy with yourself in a healthy way.
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    This does not help. An eating disorder is a mental illness, not someone who wants to be skinny.
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    Based on your BDP I would recommend finding a therapist that does either dialectical behaviour therapy or psychodynamic psychotherapy (Psychoanalytic). DBT is often the most recommended therapy to help BPD but psychodynamic psychotherapy has better long term outcomes.


    *Edit* I'm going to assume that you're not actually hearing voices and this is your own self-talk. Just try to monitor what you say to yourself and bring it to your counsellor to get help working through it. They can probably help you with some CBT type work to help you with your self-talk.

    I am doing DBT and schema with my current therapist.
  • DragonflyF15
    DragonflyF15 Posts: 437 Member
    Pretty much what everyone here has said. Seek a therapist that specializes in eating disorders, might need a psychologist as well who can prescribe some meds. Unfortunately as I'm sure you already know, you have some distortion going on in the brain and probably have some chemical imbalances. Finding a support group among peers can be helpful so that you know that you are going through this alone and will find many others struggling with the same struggles as you, as well as some who may be further along in recovery to help offer you insights and encouragement...hope! My thoughts are with you that you will find healing from this and work through whatever issues/triggers that is causing you to cope/react this way so that you can live a fulfilling productive life in peace within yourself~ >hugz<
  • j6o4
    j6o4 Posts: 871 Member
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    This does not help. An eating disorder is a mental illness, not someone who wants to be skinny.

    Yea but if you keep that in mind, it might inspire you to eat. :flowerforyou:
  • tayteetots
    tayteetots Posts: 114 Member
    Pretty much what everyone here has said. Seek a therapist that specializes in eating disorders, might need a psychologist as well who can prescribe some meds.

    Psychologists cannot prescribe meds. They are not medical doctors, only psychiatrists.
  • jamiem1102
    jamiem1102 Posts: 1,196 Member
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    Uh....
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  • mingecrackers
    mingecrackers Posts: 152
    Okay, first off - what are you trying to achieve in this thread?
    What are you looking for? You need to pinpoint it.
    Are you looking for people to help you work through the 'what's going on and whys' of your disorder, or are you looking for kind words and the general fuzzy feeling of 'you're not alone'?
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Do you tell your therapist how often you turn to online strangers for help? It's vital you do--you clearly would benefit from more comprehensive, and frequent, therapy. They will always be able to help you more than a forum can.
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    Okay, first off - what are you trying to achieve in this thread?
    What are you looking for? You need to pinpoint it.
    Are you looking for people to help you work through the 'what's going on and whys' of your disorder, or are you looking for kind words and the general fuzzy feeling of 'you're not alone'?

    I am trying to figure out how to get help.
    And maybe find some people with real life experience to make me not feel so alone.
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    EDNOS is a very broad category. Along with therapy (and potentially medication) maybe you need a "cheerleader" in your life. Personally I decided as an adult it was time to put my big girl panties on, suck it the hell up and just do what was required to lose weight. I may not be 100% happy all the time now, but I can live with myself and the negativity isn't as loud.
  • tayteetots
    tayteetots Posts: 114 Member
    Based on your BDP I would recommend finding a therapist that does either dialectical behaviour therapy or psychodynamic psychotherapy (Psychoanalytic). DBT is often the most recommended therapy to help BPD but psychodynamic psychotherapy has better long term outcomes.


    *Edit* I'm going to assume that you're not actually hearing voices and this is your own self-talk. Just try to monitor what you say to yourself and bring it to your counsellor to get help working through it. They can probably help you with some CBT type work to help you with your self-talk.

    I am doing DBT and schema with my current therapist.

    That's good :)

    Otherwise I would recommend finding out the number for your local distress line (most areas have one) they're probably a better source for community referrals for where you can go in your area. Plus, usually they're available 24/7 if you ever need help.
  • j6o4
    j6o4 Posts: 871 Member
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    Uh....
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    Dont act like the amount of muscle you have wont effect your bodyfat percentage.
  • mammamaurer
    mammamaurer Posts: 418 Member
    Okay, first off - what are you trying to achieve in this thread?
    What are you looking for? You need to pinpoint it.
    Are you looking for people to help you work through the 'what's going on and whys' of your disorder, or are you looking for kind words and the general fuzzy feeling of 'you're not alone'?

    I am trying to figure out how to get help.
    And maybe find some people with real life experience to make me not feel so alone.
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  • cafeaulait7
    cafeaulait7 Posts: 2,459 Member
    I needed antidepressants. It turns out that my 'low self-esteem' was bad wiring in the brain ;) I was constantly trying to ignore the ridiculous ruminating thoughts I had even though I knew I wasn't meaning to think them, if that makes sense. In any case, medication stopped the incessant self-hatred sounding thoughts I had! I was still depressed and still needed therapy, but I tell you 90% of it was my stupid head playing those thoughts again and again no matter how much I tried to change them.

    It was a bit like magic :) Don't be afraid of trying medicines, imho. Research and be smart, but be smart in both directions and keep an open mind to it, too, I say. Of course I would say that with my personal experience :D

    Take care.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Okay, first off - what are you trying to achieve in this thread?
    What are you looking for? You need to pinpoint it.
    Are you looking for people to help you work through the 'what's going on and whys' of your disorder, or are you looking for kind words and the general fuzzy feeling of 'you're not alone'?

    I am trying to figure out how to get help.
    And maybe find some people with real life experience to make me not feel so alone.

    I am sure your therapist will have some suggestions on how to get help. If not, see your GP.
  • kaitlinallard
    kaitlinallard Posts: 2 Member
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    This does not help. An eating disorder is a mental illness, not someone who wants to be skinny.

    Yea but if you keep that in mind, it might inspire you to eat. :flowerforyou:

    I don't think you understand how eating disorders work.
  • MeowMeowMeow92
    MeowMeowMeow92 Posts: 26
    Muscles need calories. If you dont have enough muscle, you will end up looking flabby.

    This does not help. An eating disorder is a mental illness, not someone who wants to be skinny.

    Yea but if you keep that in mind, it might inspire you to eat. :flowerforyou:

    I don't think you understand how eating disorders work.
  • FireflyJay
    FireflyJay Posts: 19
    "I don't know what to do. I have just been diagnosed with EDNOS (eating disorder not otherwise specified). I am scared. I can't force myself to eat because of the voices in my head, telling me that I am worthless, fat, that I am disgusting and don't deserve food. How do I make them stop?"

    I'm not a therapist or anything so just giving out an opinion and I see from reading the posts that you are seeing one but maybe if you start seeing the positives in the foods it could help change your thoughts about them and yourself mentally. I don't know your background or anything so don't know how much you know about nutrition but perhaps start to look at the nutrition values of the food and not that its a 'bad' food or a 'good' food but like 'i just gave my body this much energy', 'i just gave it some vitamin C, protein, etc' and how your wonderful body is going to benefit from the yummy nutritionists foods because you do deserve food and you are not worthless :)
  • AccioFitness
    AccioFitness Posts: 244 Member
    I have little advice that hasn't already been said, but I wanted you to know I can relate. I am in long-term recovery from my own EDNOS. I would exercise to exhaustion and limit my food intake to the bare minimum. I wasn't considered anorexic since, but the need to control what I ate encompassed my life. I also have ment health issues, although they don't emulate your own.

    The best advice I can give is to continue pursuing professionals for help. The therapist you see currently may have ideas on what would work best for you. Exercises to do while in therapy with them, or things you can do at home. Group therapy can be helpful if you are to a point in your recovery that being around others in a similar position helps you. Having people who "get it" to talk to can be a huge relief. Having friends/loved ones you know being aware of your ED and acting as cheerleaders to help you focus on your goals can help too. It can also be very helpful to make goals. Even if it's just "I will eat 500 more calories this week" or "I will limit my Internet interaction with others who promote EDs". Make goals, keep them, make new ones, and then keep going.

    I wish you the best of luck. *hug*
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