"you look sick"

I've had the "What have you been doing to lose weight?" in a manner that insinuates drugs are involved. Just love it.:noway:

Oh, I remember the days when I was fit enough for fat people to tell me I was looking sick or too thin. *sigh*. In reality back then I still had love handles and was about 11% bodyfat. That was 12 years ago though. Maybe someday I'll get that same compliment again.

I would really take it as a compliment or jealousy. Assuming you aren't ACTUALLY too thin. Negative people HATE it when other people succeed.

Never been told that

I get it too.
If I know the person well and/or just don't feel like getting into it I have, in the past, simply shrugged and said "I think maybe people forget what normal looks like."

If I know the person less well and don't give a **** what they think, I just say "Yeah, I eat less food and run alot. seems to be working out OK." and then brush them off.

I'm more healthy and fit than I've been since high school. The only person that gets their input on my health considered is my wife. Screw anyone else.

I had that from a client. She told me: "You've lost weight...was it intentional? You look very...gaunt. I thought you were sick."

Pleasant woman :noway:

Get used to it. Some people don't like change. They'll never accept the newer, leaner you because the saw you "filled" your whole life. Screw them.

However... if they ask how, so they can do it too, I will tell them.

The problem I run into is people expect some magic pill helped me along. No one wants to hear Watching what I ate, Hitting the Gym, and Time.

I actually got told I look like a holocaust survivor too via my mother, about 2-3 years ago, because I got into weight training and looked amazing. I just kind of looked at her like this:


Be a confident and sassy diet king/queen!

Awwww...I'm sorry about this, as if it were me, depending on the source...it could possibly be concerning to me:flowerforyou:

The GREATER majority of all of the people I've seen personally that lose weight, not only look so much better (more beautiful or handsome and super healthier and just plain admirable to me), but they also look so much younger and stronger after losing weight to me as well. Now I have seen some people lose weight (say 20-50 pounds) after being slightly or a bit overweight (not obese) and wow...they looked terrible, sickly and like someone said here--like they had aids or cancer or dying. One woman in particular I'm thinking of I ran into was thrilled to see me and to show me her new slim look and I smiled and said "way to go"...but in my heart (and hopefully NOT in my eyes) I was thinking--
:frown: :sick: :embarassed: :indifferent: because she looked absolutely terrible. I HATED that she asked me how did I think she looked, because I'm not a good liar (I've got a poker face, big time) when she asked me how she looked and I just gave her a hug and said congrats on your success...and told her that she's a sweetheart, and changed the subject QUICK. Most all formerly obese and overweight people that lose weight look super tremendous dropping down to a "normal or healthy" weight and size to me.

So, some people can and do look terrible when losing weight...but more often than not, they will look and feel even more fabulous than they did when they were fat/flabby and outta shape.

To each is own, however...I value people's opinions, especially loved ones and those I KNOW care about me--so if someone I "respect" tells me I'm not looking too good with my weight loss, rather than blowing it off--I'm going to "pray about it" and seek some help from one of my real life fitness pals (someone who is living a healthy lifestyle and looks fabulous & healthy to me) or personal trainer or something. Now if it's coming from someone I don't respect (say someone sloppy looking/obese/overweight and unhealthy) tell me that I'm not looking good after dropping weight in a healthy manner or someone with some kinda of negative agenda--Well, I'll thank them sincerely for their concern, ask them to pray for me and then ask them ...How you doing? And put the focus/change the conversation to and on them!

ETA: BTW, I took a peek at your pics and you look super terrific--high fives to you sir!!!!

I hear it the most when I don't wear make-up
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but sometimes, when i go through a rough patch, and I gain some weight back, older, overweight relatives say,

"oh thank goodness! you look more HEALTHY now! you were starting to look sick."

of course, when I first lost the weight, they told me I looked "great"

My goodness yes! I had multiple people tell me this! "You need to stop dieting, you look sick" but I feel great, I have more energy and trust me I haven't lost too much, still several pounds from a healthy BMI. I have lost it quickly though and lost a lot in my face. I was starting to get a complex so I asked my best friend because I knew she would be honest, she says I'm good, so no complex necessary I'm gonna keep on keepin' on...

I work with a guy who was average size and looked fine to me. He has since lost weight and his face, neck and head all look smaller and sunken in. I had to ask one of his friends if he was ok. I thought maybe he had cancer or something. And I'm not jealous of him. He looks sick.

If you don't feel like you look sick, I would just brush off the comments.

Yup, i have got this one once before when i had lost weight(twice actually) On both occasions(i was very young and immature), i took that as a sign that i should eat more and ended up spiraling out of control!
I also get, you looked better when you were chubby etc all the time.
Even now, i am starting to get this from my parents, while as i still have a lot of fat to lose. Now i just ignore :drinker:

Do you often hear this from people who are themselves thin? Or is it more from people who could stand to lose a few pounds? :huh:

I get something similar from time to time and it is nearly always from people who could stand to lose a few pounds themselves