"you look sick"

Yes! & it's comments like that that made me so self conscious of my new body. If anything I was more self conscious when I was thinner than when I was overweight. But without people telling me this, I wouldn't have turned to heavy lifting. So in a way I'm kind of thankful.

In my 20s, I once went from 299 to 227 less than a year, not even really on purpose, by drinking tons of Diet Coke and eating just eggs, mushrooms, shredded cheese, steamed rice with pepper and butter on it, and spring rolls. Very few calories and no exercise at all. EVERYONE thought I looked sick. I even thought I looked sick. My eyes were bugging out like Christina Ricci's but that isn't what I normally look like.

I've now gone from 307 to 262 over the course of about 3 years, and then 262 to 209 in the past 8 months. Counting calories, eating a huge range of food (mostly healthy but lots of treats too) and exercising. No one has said I look sick this time at all, and I don't think I look it either.

However, my husband went from about 400 lb to 220 lb when he was younger (and has kept it off for a decade) and people STILL tell him he looks sick. He is a pale, redhead guy and when he was 300+ lb he always had a very red, ruddy complexion and people aren't used to his nice creamy, barely rosy complexion when he is thinner. Also he's smaller, of course. :-)

I wouldn't worry about it if you are healthy!

Yes, indeed. Got called in to my dean's office after loosing 30 pounds: to make sure I didn't have cancer or something :embarassed: . Now, I hear 'you are too thin', 'don't loose any more weight'- and yes at my age (56) certain skin is now kind of wrinkly where it used to be smooth:sad: . I have decided I am ok :indifferent: with smaller, more wrinkled arms, ab and neck if I am healthier and feel good; even if it is a bit aging.

I've been told that I look sick and a few family members have made wise-*kitten* remarks about me having an ED, which I don't find particularly funny. They'd throw a damn hissy fat if I said something like "You look like you should have your own gravitational pull," so I don't think it's very respectful or considerate of them to make comments about me being thinner.

The reality is-how you look, how much you eat and how much you weigh is really none of their business. As long as it's healthy, I say screw 'em. Chances are, the people making such comments would probably benefit from looking at themselves in the mirror before passing judgment on others.

Just tell them "Nah, I'm not sick, it's just a normal side effect of all the crack and meth". Bet they don't comment again.

I've had the "What have you been doing to lose weight?" in a manner that insinuates drugs are involved. Just love it.:noway:

Oh, I remember the days when I was fit enough for fat people to tell me I was looking sick or too thin. *sigh*. In reality back then I still had love handles and was about 11% bodyfat. That was 12 years ago though. Maybe someday I'll get that same compliment again.

I would really take it as a compliment or jealousy. Assuming you aren't ACTUALLY too thin. Negative people HATE it when other people succeed.

Never been told that

I get it too.
If I know the person well and/or just don't feel like getting into it I have, in the past, simply shrugged and said "I think maybe people forget what normal looks like."

If I know the person less well and don't give a **** what they think, I just say "Yeah, I eat less food and run alot. seems to be working out OK." and then brush them off.

I'm more healthy and fit than I've been since high school. The only person that gets their input on my health considered is my wife. Screw anyone else.

I had that from a client. She told me: "You've lost weight...was it intentional? You look very...gaunt. I thought you were sick."

Pleasant woman :noway: