Is it lack of patience or is there something wrong?

nespinosa3
nespinosa3 Posts: 116 Member
edited February 8 in Motivation and Support
I've always had a lot of trouble losing weight, but this time I'm trying to do it in the healthy way and just change my lifestyle.
I spent most of October eating 1,200 calories a day and working out 4-5 times a week. It didn't work out at all. I'm pretty sure 1200 was very low for me, I felt sick and dizzy all the time. So I stopped, and around 4 weeks ago I started with a personal trainer twice a week, and still work out 3-4 additional times a week. The first week I lost one pound, the second week lost two, so I felt great. In the middle of the second week, he analyzed my nutrition with me and concluded that I was not eating enough. We calculated some of my numbers and based on these calculations, I burn ~2,300 calories a day, so subtracting 500 left me at 1,800. The proportions are 15% from fat, 40% from carbs, 45% from protein. This is a *ton* of calories compared to what I was doing before, so I take Whey Protein shakes to fill in. So third week comes by, I don't lose anything. My fourth weigh in is in 2 days and I'm sure I won't lose anything...again. I am sacrificing SO much. My friends go out to eat at restaurants and I don't eat (I just suffer the whole time I'm there), I;ve only had 2 cheat meals. I am only eating whole wheat, brown rice, grass-fed meats, etc, all the healthy stuff. Plus, 4 times a week I walk for 45-60 mins in fat burning mode.
I just get frustrated because people start seeing results immediately and lose 1-2 pounds each week consistently. So I wonder if my body is all messed up or if I still need to give it more time to get used to the routines...I just feel frustrated and sad all the time :(

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  • YouHadMyCuriosity
    YouHadMyCuriosity Posts: 218 Member
    Give it time to get used to a new routine. You may be retaining water from the new exercise, or a million other factors.

    One thing I would like to say- the fact that you are "suffering" by restricting eating out at restaurants and ONLY eating the "healthy" stuff could spell disaster down the road. If you always feel deprived, or feel like you are missing out, the temptation to quit will become overwhelming. I eat around the same amount as you, but I can almost always find room to eat something on a meal out within that number, if I am going out with friends. Maybe on those days, you can skip a protein shake and what you would normal eat for dinner, and order a sensible meal at the restaurant? Most restaurant chains post nutrition facts online. You can choose a reasonable dish that fits your calories, or choose one of your favorites but only have half and take the other half home for later!

    I point this out, because at one point in my life I would do just what you are doing, and I was MISERABLE. I became so obsessed with making sure that 100% of the things I put in my mouth were "healthy" that it became psychological UNhealthy, plus I didn't last long in having a healthier lifestyle. I got frustrated, and quit.

    Make changes that you can sustain. It sounds like you are on the right track to figure out what those are. If after a couple weeks you are still not seeing ANY downward movement, the estimations may be a little off. In that case, cut 150 cals/day for a while and see if that starts the scale moving.

    I am a very impatient person most of the time, and this has been a learning experience for me as well.
  • retiree2006
    retiree2006 Posts: 951 Member
    Give it time for your body to adjust to the changes. You need to be more "stubborn" than those pounds and one day you'll suddenly see a nice drop most likely. Once you decide giving up is not an option, you'll relax and take it as it comes.
  • p4ulmiller
    p4ulmiller Posts: 588 Member
    So I stopped, and around 4 weeks ago I started with a personal trainer twice a week, and still work out 3-4 additional times a week. The first week I lost one pound, the second week lost two, so I felt great. In the middle of the second week, he analyzed my nutrition with me and concluded that I was not eating enough. We calculated some of my numbers and based on these calculations, I burn ~2,300 calories a day, so subtracting 500 left me at 1,800. The proportions are 15% from fat, 40% from carbs, 45% from protein. This is a *ton* of calories compared to what I was doing before, so I take Whey Protein shakes to fill in. So third week comes by, I don't lose anything.

    Nothing is messed up. Read the bit I have quoted above.

    You were losing weight. Then you upped your calories. Then you stopped losing weight.

    Yes, it really is that simple. Forget what your PT told you - you can't apply the same formula to everyone; you need to figure out what calories you can take that make you lose weight and stick to that. Don't go off online calculators, go off what works for you.

    Well done on everything you've achieved so far. Happy if you want to add me as a friend.
  • p4ulmiller
    p4ulmiller Posts: 588 Member

    I point this out, because at one point in my life I would do just what you are doing, and I was MISERABLE. I became so obsessed with making sure that 100% of the things I put in my mouth were "healthy" that it became psychological UNhealthy, plus I didn't last long in having a healthier lifestyle. I got frustrated, and quit.

    I like you. :flowerforyou:
  • kgeyser
    kgeyser Posts: 22,500 Member
    Sick and dizzy is not good, and from what you've described, it sounds like you were exercising quite a bit. Why not split the difference when it comes to calories and try for around 1500 a day? The guides on MFP and that trainers use are just that - guides. You still have to tweak to find out what works for you and your lifestyle. Everyone goes through this when they begin a diet and exercise program, and often people will experience the same thing at least once through their weight loss journey as they lose weight, gain muscle, etc. No one loses weight every single week either; just read through the community and you'll see plenty of posts about stalling in weight loss. Don't get discouraged, I know it is frustrating but you're doing well. I've been at this for 7 weeks now with no changes, and if I'm not giving up after this long, you don't get to give up after 4 weeks when you've had results.
  • nespinosa3
    nespinosa3 Posts: 116 Member
    I should probably add more info...
    So I ate 1,200 cals/day for 2-3 weeks and realized it wasn't working...then just ate what I felt like (still healthy) without counting calories for another 2-3 weeks...and now even though the "target" number of calories is 1800, no matter how hard I try I *never* get there. I am usually eating somewhere between 1400-1600, and that's with 2-3 scoops of protein powder. I just don't know how to get 400 more calories while still following the serving sizes (1 cup for starch, 1 chicken breast, etc). I could get up there but that would mean eating like 4 chicken breasts each day. So yeah for now, I'm eating 1400-1600 and working out.
  • cafeaulait7
    cafeaulait7 Posts: 2,459 Member
    Avocados, pears, apples, unsalted nuts, sweet potatoes, etc. Make your own whole-grain bread in a bread maker :) Olive oil is extremely healthy, so sautee some fish or veggies in it and enjoy! There are also all kinds of great pastas that you could try.

    Your macros should be percentages, so don't worry about the actual numbers except for protein, to make sure you are getting enough of that. Well, I do make sure my good fat count is higher than bad fat, too, but if you are eating that clean you don't get the processed food that I eat in a day and probably don't have to worry about that :)
  • janupshaw
    janupshaw Posts: 205 Member
    If you have so much trouble reaching your daily calorie intake, why can't you eat when you're out with friends?
  • YouHadMyCuriosity
    YouHadMyCuriosity Posts: 218 Member

    I point this out, because at one point in my life I would do just what you are doing, and I was MISERABLE. I became so obsessed with making sure that 100% of the things I put in my mouth were "healthy" that it became psychological UNhealthy, plus I didn't last long in having a healthier lifestyle. I got frustrated, and quit.

    I like you. :flowerforyou:

    Thanks! :)
  • Switch your percentages of fat and carbohydrate, and see if the weight doesn't come off more easily.
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