Girl Game?

heart4home
heart4home Posts: 7
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My friend is getting into increasing her girl game ..... not 100% sure what that is but seems to be about finding out what men like (so looks / personality / skills) and doing that.

She sent me some article links as apparently I need to "up my girl game" because I am invisible to men. She gets asked out a lot more now but I don't know if it makes a long term difference - I mean if you hide part of your character because a man wouldn't find it attractive then you still have that part of your character.

Most of the advice is to lose weight, change your personality, grow your hair and learn to cook!!

Is the whole girl game something that people really do or is it more that people write about it on the internet but most people don't pay attention in real life?

http://www.justfourguys.com/girl-game-is-simple-yet-so-hard/

http://detination.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/ten-things-women-can-do-right-now-to-improve-their-attractiveness/

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2011/04/girl-game-have-long-hair/

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  • 1a1a
    1a1a Posts: 761 Member
    Ewww ewwww EWWWWWWWW *paws at eyeballs trying to scratch them out, wishes she could unread*

    These articles are rubbish, the advice is RUBBISH.

    Dating isn't a game, men aren't something you have to lure and catch. People make genuine connections with each other, sometimes there are mutual pantsfeelings and they become lovers. Just Ugh! If I had to 'catch' a guy that way he wouldn't be worth keeping.

    Peruse this site www.captainawkward.com , somewhere buried (I couldn't find it quickly but I know it's on there) is advice on how to find a romantic partner (if that's something you would like to do, we don't Have to be coupled to be happy, and plenty of people are paired off in bad relationships and miserable) - stuff like cultivating your own interests and getting out of the house, being Yourself!

    *Oh god, why did I look at the comments?!*
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    just be who you are. and wash. thats important too.
  • 1a1a
    1a1a Posts: 761 Member
    Washing is a pretty good bet, love is blind though. I dated a dirty punk for a while, he was sweet.
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    Uhm.. Why, is she trying to pick up random guys or what O.o
    What' the deal here? lol.

    ...learn to cook? YEAHHH... Okay, nope. Nope nope nope nope nope.
  • HarleyFatboyFan
    HarleyFatboyFan Posts: 344 Member
    You don't need girl game. You are attractive and have a personality that won't quit. As far as cooking, my nephew does all the house cleaning and cooking foe his family. His wife is a computer science engineer and she brings home the bacon

    I think these writer imagine the perfect relationship and try to write about it.

    If I had guy game I'd be dangerous! heeheee
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    success at "dating" isn't measured according to how many people of your preferred gender ask you out.... it's measured according to whether you meet someone you're compatible with, and then settle down with them in a happy long term relationship. (And you don't even have to "go dating" to do that...)

    LOL @ "girl game" never heard the term in my life before.... I mean there's some advice in terms of making yourself look presentable and not going around with a resting b*tch face because that scares people off (that goes for friendship as well as "dating") but any advice that amounts to changing your personality or pretending to be someone you're not is catastrophically bad advice. For a start, it's going to make you miserable. Who wants to pretend to be someone they're not? And how are you going to find someone that you are compatible with if you're pretending to be someone you're not? And say you do try to settle down, that person isn't in love with you, they're in love with this plastic personality that isn't you, well that's going to crumble sooner or later and result in the relationship breaking down.

    Be yourself. Yes, get a nice haircut that suits you, if you're into make-up then find a look that suits you (and by suits you I mean suits your personality not just your face bone structure). Yes lose fat if you have too much fat, but do that for yourself, i.e. for your own health and so you can feel good about yourself. Not to meet some ideal that some magazine says men prefer - men are individuals, they all like different things. So find one who likes you the way you are.

    Also, your friend being hit on more, probably that's because she's feeling more confident in herself, so she's projecting that confidence, and a lot of people are attracted to self-confidence and a person who's secure in their own skin. If you lack confidence, you can work on that, and you don't need to change who you are... true confidence is being happy with yourself as you are and having the confidence to be yourself.
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    Not saying you don't need to make an effort to look your best but seriously that is so stupid...
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    Be yourself and good personal hygiene.
  • heart4home
    heart4home Posts: 7
    I wondered if it was better advice than the sort that women give because men know what they want.

    I don't know if my friend is attracting more long term type men but she gets a lot more attention now. :/
  • ThePlight
    ThePlight Posts: 3,593 Member
    It's probably a good idea to go ask those XXX sites, tbh....
    They might have a few pointers for her... One of which might be "noodz or gtfo"..

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