women controlling emotions predicts marital satisfaction?

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  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

    WTF were you googling when you found that?
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    I think women just shouldn't get married.

    So men only? I think only a few states support that.

    Ours will next June!!
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Women can escalade or descalade

    I prefer my Durango :flowerforyou:

    I'm partial to my Explorer. :dictionaryforyou:1004443_216760361808985_1637042866_s.jpg
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

    WTF were you googling when you found that?

    stifling, woman, smothering, emotional, marriage, dead.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    I think women just shouldn't get married.
    I'm in to watch two men go down the isle. Nothing wrong with that.

    which one? the isle of sodor?
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    this thread made me so emotional, I fourple posted!
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

    WTF were you googling when you found that?

    lol good question
  • MM_1982
    MM_1982 Posts: 374
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

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    Cliffs?

    (You don't expect me to read all of that, do you?)
  • cruiseking
    cruiseking Posts: 338 Member
    Ice Queens win the battle of the sexes!
    They usually end up on the outside looking in.
  • kyleekay10
    kyleekay10 Posts: 1,812 Member
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

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    Cliffs?

    (You don't expect me to read all of that, do you?)

    It's literally only eight sentences.

    Nine if you count the "all rights reserved" bit.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24188061

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    Cliffs?

    (You don't expect me to read all of that, do you?)

    It's literally only eight sentences.

    Nine if you count the "all rights reserved" bit.

    Yeah...

    "Emotion regulation is generally thought to be a critical ingredient for successful interpersonal relationships. Ironically, few studies have investigated the link between how well spouses regulate emotion and how satisfied they are with their marriages.

    We utilized data from a 13-year, 3-wave longitudinal study of middle-aged (40-50 years old) and older (60-70 years old) long-term married couples, focusing on the associations between downregulation of negative emotion (measured during discussions of an area of marital conflict at Wave 1) and marital satisfaction (measured at all 3 waves). Downregulation of negative emotion was assessed by determining how quickly spouses reduced signs of negative emotion (in emotional experience, emotional behavior, and physiological arousal) after negative emotion events.

    Data were analyzed using actor-partner interdependence modeling. Findings showed that (a) greater downregulation of wives' negative experience and behavior predicted greater marital satisfaction for wives and husbands concurrently and (b) greater downregulation of wives' negative behavior predicted increases in wives' marital satisfaction longitudinally. Wives' use of constructive communication (measured between Waves 1 and 2) mediated the longitudinal associations. These results show the benefits of wives' downregulation of negative emotion during conflict for marital satisfaction and point to wives' constructive communication as a mediating pathway. "

    All in all it reads as a great argument for "fake it till you make it" or just "faking it" in general.

    ETA: but yeah, srsly only a few sentences.
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    Like most studies (humanities) like this, context and your personal frame of reference is key here.

    Essentially its saying to not let your emotions rule you, especially the negative ones.

    Now, if your from the generation that was taught that your emotions are the most important thing in the world and everyone should work around them, then this article will sound highly offensive.

    If you were taught that your emotions are indeed YOURS and not some reality, then the article starts to make sense.
  • sakuragreenlily
    sakuragreenlily Posts: 334 Member
    These results show the benefits of PEOPLES' downregulation of negative emotion during conflict for marital satisfaction and point to PEOPLES' constructive communication as a mediating pathway.

    Now it makes sense. Everyone feels emotions.

    :3 I'd marry you... Don't tell my fiance, lol
  • FatHuMan1
    FatHuMan1 Posts: 1,028 Member
    These results show the benefits of wives' downregulation of negative emotion during conflict for marital satisfaction and point to wives' constructive communication as a mediating pathway.

    This is like the polar opposite of bro-speak. And I can't understand either.

    It's means: women, control your crazy and your marriage will be happier.


    Ha! As if THAT''S going to happen. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • p4ulmiller
    p4ulmiller Posts: 588 Member
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  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Well clearly if either partner is a needy, self absorbed drama *kitten*, the marriage might suck just a bit.
  • crash_aly
    crash_aly Posts: 112
    You mean having calm, respectful dialogue with your partner will make your relationship last longer than emotion fuelled rants?

    Holy *kitten*!!!!!!

    Haha. Yea, apparently marrying someone who is emotionally intelligent and controlled increases your odds of a long and happy marriage. Who would have guess!? I have some friends that I need to have read this article...and I say that as a long FEMALE friend.

    Heck, I have guys friends who I should have read this because I am pretty sure they think all women are crazy and might find it entertaining!

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