Dating a Food Lover! Help!

jenniferarnold619
jenniferarnold619 Posts: 68
in Food and Nutrition
So I've recently started dating a guy who loves food. He is one of those people who is active and in great shape and caloric intake is of no consequence. That doesn't really bother me, but what does is I am a food lover that DOES have to be mindful of what I am eating. Any useful suggestions on how to deal with this without hampering his enthusiasm?

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  • Confuzzled4ever
    Confuzzled4ever Posts: 2,860 Member
    um.. eat what you want? or eat small portions of whatever he cooks? Or ask him to explore healthy options of the foods he likes with you??


    Cooking together is so fun.. Trying new recipes together is even more fun. :~)
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Is he a discriminating food lover? Because I find sometimes being around someone like that is actually very helpful to me in becoming more choosy about what I indulge in.

    My husband is quite fit, but not "naturally" so (he lost a very large amount of weight a decade ago and has kept it off). So he does have to watch what he eats within reason. He is a food lover, excellent cook, etc. But he is so discriminating that there are a lot of times that he'll introduce me to something so amazing (Japanese plum wine, truly fresh cheese curds, homemade from-scratch dark chocolate pie with real whipped cream) it makes me not want to even bother with the imitations and "junk" that is readily available.

    Maybe that could be helpful, if your guy is sorta like that too? I may be confusing foodie with food lover. hehe
  • chezjuan
    chezjuan Posts: 747 Member
    If there aren't any medical reasons why you can't eat something, just practice portion control and eat a balanced diet.

    I'm a food lover, and throughout my weight loss and into my maintenance I didn't forgo anything. I am generally just careful about my portions (special occasions notwithstanding). I would keep an eye on my macros, but since I tend to eat a balanced diet anyway, they would generally fall into place, especially when viewed on a weekly basis.
  • jenniferarnold619
    jenniferarnold619 Posts: 68
    Fortunately, he does not seem picky and enjoys whatever I cook. Plus he is super appreciative. How can you not like that in a significant other?!

    The main thing I struggle with is the out of home choices. He is so generous and pays for everything. And so while we are out he may suggest going out to eat, getting ice cream, or offer to buy a funnel cake at the fair. Or my favorite, he remembers my love for roasted marshmallows and buys stuff for s'mores. It's his inner kid, which I sincerely appreciate, that I am struggling with. How do you affirm someone's kind gestures while trying to do what is right for you?
  • kaybeau
    kaybeau Posts: 198 Member
    you are gonna have to get him into the healthy, I love my food and manage pretty well my portions are masssive and I genuinly love everything but am even starting to prefer the fresh to the chocolate, the light to the pastry and generally get with him and all his activities
  • kaybeau
    kaybeau Posts: 198 Member
    oh and well done he sounds like a catch and a keeper
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Fortunately, he does not seem picky and enjoys whatever I cook. Plus he is super appreciative. How can you not like that in a significant other?!

    The main thing I struggle with is the out of home choices. He is so generous and pays for everything. And so while we are out he may suggest going out to eat, getting ice cream, or offer to buy a funnel cake at the fair. Or my favorite, he remembers my love for roasted marshmallows and buys stuff for s'mores. It's his inner kid, which I sincerely appreciate, that I am struggling with. How do you affirm someone's kind gestures while trying to do what is right for you?

    Tell him he's sweet enough for you, followed up by an even sweeter kiss :smooched:

    I just say "Oh thank you honey! I'm good, but I appreciate the offer"
  • illuvatree
    illuvatree Posts: 185 Member
    You don't have to eat what he eats. And as long as you're not looking at his food in disdain and commenting on how it'll result in a heart attack, you'll be fine.
  • redladywitch
    redladywitch Posts: 799 Member
    I don't really see the problem here.

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