Embarrassed to eat

jess17587
jess17587 Posts: 153
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I'm in college and when its lunch time / break time and this also happens in my own house and with my family!!!!!!!
I feel Embarrassed to be seen eating and to actually eat like it is a shame full thing to do even though everyone does it. I thought about liquid drinks instead of food but a slight problem I'm scared of liquid calories and scared of high sugar base things and I'm also scared of very dense calories so high sugar chocolate bar and nuts are out of the question....
So I realize this is an awkward situation so instead of working on the type of food I want help with how I feel and how to cope?

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  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    Seek counseling
  • egrusy
    egrusy Posts: 196 Member
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    I have to agree. It sounds like you have a very unhealthy relationship with food; extremely doubtful anyone on here can help much with that.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
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    What this person said. Food is not the enemy.
  • marie_2454
    marie_2454 Posts: 881 Member
    I used to feel like that too. I was a pretty big girl and I felt like whatever I was eating that people around me would be judging me. It took a while, but the truth is that most people don't care or even notice. A few years ago a friend posted a little picture on facebook about faking confidence until you don't have to fake it anymore. That's pretty much what I did with being embarrassed to eat in public and with working out at the gym. Try not to stress so much :)
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Think about this. How often are you looking around at other people in the room? How LONG are you looking at them?

    No one is paying attention to you :bigsmile: They're all there to do the same thing you are.
  • jess17587
    jess17587 Posts: 153
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    That's kind of ironic because I'm a inpatient in a eating disorders unit but I'm getting more leave prep for discharge so I'm scared if i talk to them that they won't discharge me but i know i can't lose any more weight because of my situation so i thought the people on here could help me
  • LishieFruit89
    LishieFruit89 Posts: 1,956 Member
    Seek counseling

    That's kind of ironic because I'm a inpatient in a eating disorders unit but I'm getting more leave prep for discharge so I'm scared if i talk to them that they won't discharge me but i know i can't lose any more weight because of my situation so i thought the people on here could help me

    We aren't equipped to really help you since 1. we aren't doctors and 2. you didn't give us all the info.

    Maybe you should be honest with your ED Unit there and stay in treatment for a little while longer.
    It seems you still need their help and there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing help.
    Your fear of eating is definitely something you need to address with them because when you leave and are surrounded by the rest of the world, that fear will keep reappearing and potentially grow larger which would more than likely reverse your recovery efforts.
  • jenniferb_00
    jenniferb_00 Posts: 81
    I hate eating in public. When i was at my highest and lowest wight thats one thing that never changed. I know how you feel. Honestly i usually just wait until i get home. I know thats not the best way to handle situations like this. Its hard I know, but maybe try with just small amounts of food or snacks, you don't necessarily have to eat a whole meal.
  • Mischievous_Rascal
    Mischievous_Rascal Posts: 1,791 Member
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    That's kind of ironic because I'm a inpatient in a eating disorders unit but I'm getting more leave prep for discharge so I'm scared if i talk to them that they won't discharge me but i know i can't lose any more weight because of my situation so i thought the people on here could help me

    We aren't equipped to really help you since 1. we aren't doctors and 2. you didn't give us all the info.

    Maybe you should be honest with your ED Unit there and stay in treatment for a little while longer.
    It seems you still need their help and there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing help.
    Your fear of eating is definitely something you need to address with them because when you leave and are surrounded by the rest of the world, that fear will keep reappearing and potentially grow larger which would more than likely reverse your recovery efforts.

    This - they're there to help you with this.
  • MyJourney1960
    MyJourney1960 Posts: 1,133 Member
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    That's kind of ironic because I'm a inpatient in a eating disorders unit but I'm getting more leave prep for discharge so I'm scared if i talk to them that they won't discharge me but i know i can't lose any more weight because of my situation so i thought the people on here could help me

    We aren't equipped to really help you since 1. we aren't doctors and 2. you didn't give us all the info.

    Maybe you should be honest with your ED Unit there and stay in treatment for a little while longer.
    It seems you still need their help and there is absolutely nothing wrong with needing help.
    Your fear of eating is definitely something you need to address with them because when you leave and are surrounded by the rest of the world, that fear will keep reappearing and potentially grow larger which would more than likely reverse your recovery efforts.
    this.

    Sorry you are going through this. in order to heal, you need to be honest - with yourself, with your doctors. please tell them what you said here.
  • jfauci
    jfauci Posts: 531 Member
    You are precisely where you need to be. Please, let your counselors know how you are feeling. If you don't and you fool them into discharging you too soon, you will be right back there. Good luck
  • jess17587
    jess17587 Posts: 153
    You are precisely where you need to be. Please, let your counselors know how you are feeling. If you don't and you fool them into discharging you too soon, you will be right back there. Good luck

    Thank you ALL so much and you are totally right i will only end up back there but the thought of staying a little longer just kills me instead i will let them discharge me early but i will talk with my cams team to discuss the issues I have because my unit wasn't going to let me out without them set up... Thank you all so much xxx
  • ckspores1018
    ckspores1018 Posts: 168 Member
    Seek counseling

    That's kind of ironic because I'm a inpatient in a eating disorders unit but I'm getting more leave prep for discharge so I'm scared if i talk to them that they won't discharge me but i know i can't lose any more weight because of my situation so i thought the people on here could help me

    Maybe the fact that you are afraid to tell them because they won't let you leave means that, despite the fact that you want to leave, you aren't ready.
  • GuybrushThreepw00d
    GuybrushThreepw00d Posts: 784 Member
    find a quiet corner. eat outside. eat in the toilet. just eat.
  • teamAmelia
    teamAmelia Posts: 1,247 Member
    find a quiet corner. eat outside. eat in the toilet. just eat.

    Eat in the toilet? Gross. :laugh: All joking aside, that still is gross. Don't eat in the restroom.

    Are you scared to eat in front of others because you're self-conscious that everyone knows that you have an eating disorder and are looking at you and judging you based on what you're eating. I think so. I'd talk to the counselor.

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