Pressure & Negativity from Family

Jkn922
Jkn922 Posts: 74
in Motivation and Support
Hi all,

I've been feeling insecure of my weight loss for a while. My highest point of the year is losing 19lbs when I got out of a low point in my life and successfully keeping a stone off since I started my journey in February. Now that I've managed to lose significant weight my family demand more, they put a lot of pressure to lose it which is hard to deal with coming from 5 people constantly then a few more later.

My mother takes pleasure in telling me I put on weight as it makes her feel better for not losing. That is all that is mainly discussed and frankly it's putting me off completely, I have less than 10lbs to lose now and also went through a phase of hair loss so I amped up calories to get my body back into full function so may have gained a few pounds. It's more of a self esteem thing but really really brings me down that's that what everyone cares about.

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  • RosaliaBee
    RosaliaBee Posts: 146 Member
    Have you told your mother how you feel about her criticisms and negative feedback?
  • Jkn922
    Jkn922 Posts: 74
    Yes I have told everyone but nobody takes any notice of the effect on me. First my grades weren't good enough, I fixed that and nobody says anything then suddenly my weight became the biggest issue.
  • Cinloykko
    Cinloykko Posts: 117 Member
    people are generally not okay with major changes and you wanting to lose weight and make yourself better is threatening to them....

    Remember that you are doing this for yourself. To hell with what haters say (even if they are family and friends). If they truly care about you, they will want what is best for you, which is for you to be healthy!

    Ignore the negativity or turn it into fuel. Think: You think I cant do it? Well, I'll show you!!! Just you wait and see!!! lol.

    I know its hard. it hurts when the people who are closest to you are the ones bringing you down. but try not to let it sabotage you!!! I deal with the same thing too and i have a LOTTTTTT left to go. We'll find a way around it.... Besides, you have all of MFP in support of you!!! make some friends here and stay motivated and get your support from this community. After all, thats why we are all here and responding to your posts and what not.... <3

    Hang in there!!! Rock on!!!
  • Semt3x
    Semt3x Posts: 23
    Jealousy in people is horrible, I literally avoid any communication about diet weight/loss gain and try keep it private
    Try and see it for what it is, jealousy
    You gotta do what makes you happy
  • CipherZero
    CipherZero Posts: 1,418 Member
    Tell her to get bent. There's no reason to nice to rude people, related or not.
  • Jkn922
    Jkn922 Posts: 74
    It was a personal thing and although my family have supported me in the beginning, they are way too involved. I don't ask for advice because they don't believe your hair can thin if you don't eat enough. Everyone is too far concerned about shallow things that don't concern me which irritates me a lot.

    I'm going to try not to react whenever says anything about weight till they stop talking so it'll be awkward.

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