Worst things said to you about your weight?
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When I was in high school, I was about 25 pounds overweight. My brother was very judgmental and asked me why I didn't just lose the weight and not have to deal with that problem any more. "Just think how much your life would be better," he said.
Also when I was in high school, my best friend told me that someone said to her (about me): "She looks anorexic on the top, but then she has these really big hips."
When I was in grade school, I spent the night at a friend's house. A few days later, my friend told me her mother commented about me: "She'd look a lot better if she did something with her hair and lost a few pounds."
When I was in my early twenties, I was very thin. My brother commented that he had never seen me so thin. He was complimentary, and I couldn't stand it. When I was a bit overweight, he wasn't as nice to me.
My in-laws gave me a Suzanne Somers diet book one Christmas. Also one Christmas, my parents gave me an Atkins diet book.
When I was in my very early twenties, I worked at a restaurant while going to school. One night I was hanging out at the cook's house, along with some others. He commented to me that I was perfect looking except for my thick calves. If I toned down my calves, I would be a knockout.
One of my old boyfriends told me a friend of his commented about my large butt. He told me he told that guy that there was more to grab onto. Gross.
A few Christmases ago, the in-laws got us all quilted LLBean vests. For my husband, me, sister-in-laws, etc. The girls (in their twenties and thirties) all got small size vests. They were all thin. I got a 1X size. So they guessed my size was 1X?!! Actually I was probably a 2X at that point. I hated the vest.
Last time I visited my mother, she made lasagna and served me the tiniest piece I had ever seen.
I met a man once who invited me over to his house in the mornings to do aerobics. "We can get you in shape in no time," he said. Barf.
At my weekend job (I no longer have), a woman decided I might like her daughter's hand-me downs. "She's a larger gal, like you," she said. On four or five occasions, she gave me a garbage bag full of ugly plus sized clothing. I gave them all to Goodwill.
My mother openly commented to me about how fat my cousin has gotten, and what a shame it is that she ruined her once beautiful figure. Should I get the hint?
People are so insensitive and judgemental. I think maybe a part of me rebels against my family and others who have been so crititcal of me all my life. Now that I am "fat", it is a slap in their face. I am just now realizing this. I know it is not healthy.0 -
Increasingly worse along with increasing weight!
Guy towards end of high school, comparing me to other girls (one of who went on to be a model):
"You're alright... you're a bit chunky, but you're alright."
The girl I was replacing in my new job, she'd sent an email about me which wasn't deleted when I took over her PC:
"the fattest thing I've EVER SEEN" (and there's no way... I was a good 40kgs less than I am now!)
Later in the same job by a business consultant:
"you would be an amazing looking girl if you lost some weight"
After joining a weight loss program, losing 20kgs, falling off the wagon and coming back 6 months later:
I can't recall the exact words, but I'd put on so much weight in that time that she had to double-check I was who I said I was, and that she had the right file open.0 -
At my skinniest: "Anorexic *****"
At my fattest: "Fattie"0 -
The girl I was replacing in my new job, she'd sent an email about me which wasn't deleted when I took over her PC:
"the fattest thing I've EVER SEEN" (and there's no way... I was a good 40kgs less than I am now!)
Ouch. That one would've made me burst into tears.0 -
When I was about fifteen, my mum once took one of my favourite dresses from my closet and told me I wasn't allowed to wear it anymore because, "Well, it just ... *clings* in some places and it's not very flattering, now, is it?" Yes, it was a fitted dress and yes, my butt and hips were somewhat bigger than they had been a year ago when I bought the dress because, you know, puberty. However, I was actually pretty much bang in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height at the time.
When I was nineteen, I was a bit heavier -- I was getting close to the top of the healthy weight range for my height. I was cast as Desdemona in Shakespeare's "Othello" and was over the moon. Not long after, my mum started dropping all these hints that I should get out and exercise or change my eating habits. I called her out on it and she goes, "Well, it would just be nice if you were trim when you play Desdemona."
She also told my sister, who is in amazing shape and was preparing for a physique competition at the time, that she getting a bit bulky, it's not as if she *needed* all those muscles anyway, and maybe she should tone down her workouts. And believe me, my sister was not bulky at all -- just incredibly lean with amazing muscular definition.
Can't win sometimes...0 -
Strangers on the internet still inform me that I'm fat, despite finally not being fat for the first time in years. And they usually appear to weigh more than I do! It's a bummer, but at least the people I know in real life have been supportive and encouraging.0
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After I lost some weight a friend of my commented and said that she didn't think I had needed to lose weight but now that I had I looked way better.... i know she was trying to spare my feelings by not saying I looked fat before. But...ouch.0
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When I was 16st in 2010, my sister would take great pleasure in inviting me around for dinner and then make all kinds of nasty comments in front of my daughter and then partner such as "No leftovers, when you're around, hey? haha!" "Don't worry, he'll it.....won't you?" and other such "Wow, you're really fat!" comments.
Now, everybody is telling me that I'm too skinny, while offering me cakes, biscuits and asking me if I want to go for a takeaway for lunch with them!!!??0 -
The worst thing said to me about my weight would be all the men that tried hitting me with lines such as "Baby You Thick!" As if its a good thing that I am overweight and unhealthy. Its not attractive, and its not flattering when someone hits on you using a line calling out one of your biggest internal struggles0
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I was asked if I was pregnant...at a bar...while drinking, and by an acquaintance. I thought it should be common sense that i was NOT pregnant with a beer in hand, just fluffy around the waist. But, nonetheless, that question was asked in a loud-let-me-talk-over-the-music manner and EVERYONE heard. Within a moments time all eyes lowered to my mid-section and I went to the bathroom and cried. It took another 18 months and 10 more pounds to finally wake me up. But now I am here and ready to kick butt...
I hear ye ! Some drunk guy tried to CONVINCE me I must be pregnant and then kept accusing me of lying to him when I kept telling him I was not !!0 -
Essentially how every family reunion goes:
To my sisters - "Goodness, you've grown up to be so gorgeous!"
...aaaaand then feebly to me shortly following the classic 'once-over' - "Oh. Oh yes. You're pretty too".
Sheesh. I'd prefer being ignored.0 -
whilst to my knowlege I haven't been abused for my weight it never ceases to amaze me how lacking in self awareness that people can be that these words actually fall out of their mouths. I cannot comprehend the idea that I would look at someone and openly give mt opinion on their size. It's your business and whilst I would always advocate a healthy weight and being active how dare people take those sorts of liberties.
rant over x0 -
My dad's favourite line: "Should you really be eating that?" (Meanwhile, he's eating off everyone else's plate as well as his own.)0
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A doctor, when I was undergoing a pre cancer op lower abdominal check, said, "how am I to be expected to find anything through all that!!
In the intervening years I have discovered Salicylate Sensitivity, and though it can be expressed in so many different ways in any one person and different people, the principal way it expressed itself in me has been my weight. I was bloated, oversized unhappy and uncomfortable.
Years on the only explanation for my being substantially smaller at 14 st 7 lb earlier this year than I was three years ago at exactly the same weight in the same clothes, is the reduction in dietary salicylate, environmental salicylate will always be a problem.
Weight loss has always been a struggle, weight loss was a way of life, debilitating when I did everything right and became more ill, fat, miserable0 -
the worst were the things i told myself0
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My daughter at around the age of 6 asked me if I was wearing a thong because my bottom was too big for normal underwear!!! My husband was nice enough to leave the room before being consumed by fits of laughter.0
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People asking me if I was pregnant when I barely had a belly. My father telling me I'd be a really attractive woman if I would lose 30 lbs.0
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Well I've always been a skinny girl.. I was born tiny and I still am. Plus my parents never kept any sweets around the house and I'm kind of a lazy eater... In high school a "friend" spread rumors about me having eating disorders.
She was so surprised when after high school I didn't want anything to do with her.0 -
I was at the beach with two skinny friends last summer, we were having a great day until some boys showed up. They were absolutely horrible to me and one of my friends after we refused to tell them our bra sizes (throwing clumps of sand into our hair and food, yelling mean things etc) and flirted with the more outgoing friend of us three. To cut a long story short, when we weren't being completely ignored by our friend and the boys or having sand thrown at us, one of the boys called me fat. The friend who was flirting with them heard and told me to ignore them, but anyway. Super embarrassing and kind of ruined the day a bit.0
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Not said to me directly (although there was a lot of bullying in my old school - and I was never overweight, just "unusually" shaped with a questionable sense of style), but what hurt me the most was random people shouting at me in the street, mostly about my big butt. Used to happen loads, including people yelling out of cars driving past fairly quickly. I thought I must be a monster if I looked fat enough to make complete strangers shout at me.
It took me 28 years to realise that (despite being pale like a sheet of paper) my being 50% black probably contributes a few inches to my bum, and that big bums are actually A GOOD THING.
I like big butts and I cannot lie... :happy:0 -
the worst were the things i told myself
Unfortunately, this is the most telling of all. The dreaded inner dialogue afterwards.0 -
i am skinnyfat and when i started weight training... mum told me, if i got any bonier, she would send me away to a clinic. :grumble: :grumble: (i was gaining... not that she cared)0
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My mum telling me that my current bf (of over 5 years) would leave me if I didn't lose weight, because "he's in a band so other girls are interested in him too"
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Oh where to start....
I was over weight since I was very young (that's about 15 years of bullying) so I have a lot of nasty stories to tell.
Off the top of my head:
Some guy to his friends "haha! I just bit the whale"
"You would actually be pretty if you lost all the weight"
"You are disgusting, go kill yourself"
"You are awesome but you are too fat for me to date"
Then the insults shouted from the car of course
Its kind of made me very offish with people especially guys. But you really have to take this all, deal with it and make it into something positive. :flowerforyou:
*My favorite thing is the guys that used to bring me down are now the guys trying their luck with me. Never happening sweetie0 -
my ex told me I was too fat to *kitten* - nice eh!
saw him recently and he told me how ffantastic I was looking - yet I am the same size as when I was with him!0 -
My younger sister and I weighed about the same amount, she may have actually weighed more by 10-20 pounds. When I told my mom that I should challenge her to lose weight with me, my mother's response "She's not fat like you". Now I go see my mom less and less, tired of being insulted.0
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the worst were the things i told myself
Oh yes I can definitely relate to that one.
Also:
My ex boyfriend "I don't like fat people" (meaning me?)
"Don't moan at me when you're fat" (whilst I ate a chocolate bar/crisps/ice cream/etc.)
My mum "Yes, you've definitely got cuddlier" (on my birthday!!)
"I think it's all the drink with you" (making me sound like an alcoholic as well!)0 -
I had a really bad day and was sat on my bed crying and my then BF chose to tell me "I don't find you attractive any more, now that you're big" - he was the one who insisted on us eating junk (saying sometimes "it's this or nothing").
Thing is when I first met him I was really skinny - I looked ill, when I gained a bit of weight and looked better he said to me "sometimes I look at your body and like it, but sometimes it doesn't make sense" - I mean WTF!!!0 -
I remember the first time I ever felt subconscious about how I looked. I was probably 11 and looking back I wasn't fat....just not skinny. I had a new pair of jean overalls that I thought were pretty cool (lol). My best friend wanted to try them on and after she did they were really loose on her cause she was quite skinny. She was laughing and saying how big they were. They were hanging off of her. I remember very clearly the rush of feelings that have never left me of feeling fat and uncomfortable in my body. Such a small thing but it really changed the way I felt about myself. I think I went from being a happy kid to a insecure teen in seconds, Weird. I've never told anyone that story before.0
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I had a really bad day and was sat on my bed crying and my then BF chose to tell me "I don't find you attractive any more, now that you're big" - he was the one who insisted on us eating junk (saying sometimes "it's this or nothing").
Thing is when I first met him I was really skinny - I looked ill, when I gained a bit of weight and looked better he said to me "sometimes I look at your body and like it, but sometimes it doesn't make sense" - I mean WTF!!!
What an *kitten*. Thank God you're shot of him !0
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