Worst things said to you about your weight?

When I was in high school, I was about 25 pounds overweight. My brother was very judgmental and asked me why I didn't just lose the weight and not have to deal with that problem any more. "Just think how much your life would be better," he said.

Also when I was in high school, my best friend told me that someone said to her (about me): "She looks anorexic on the top, but then she has these really big hips."

When I was in grade school, I spent the night at a friend's house. A few days later, my friend told me her mother commented about me: "She'd look a lot better if she did something with her hair and lost a few pounds."

When I was in my early twenties, I was very thin. My brother commented that he had never seen me so thin. He was complimentary, and I couldn't stand it. When I was a bit overweight, he wasn't as nice to me.

My in-laws gave me a Suzanne Somers diet book one Christmas. Also one Christmas, my parents gave me an Atkins diet book.

When I was in my very early twenties, I worked at a restaurant while going to school. One night I was hanging out at the cook's house, along with some others. He commented to me that I was perfect looking except for my thick calves. If I toned down my calves, I would be a knockout.

One of my old boyfriends told me a friend of his commented about my large butt. He told me he told that guy that there was more to grab onto. Gross.

A few Christmases ago, the in-laws got us all quilted LLBean vests. For my husband, me, sister-in-laws, etc. The girls (in their twenties and thirties) all got small size vests. They were all thin. I got a 1X size. So they guessed my size was 1X?!! Actually I was probably a 2X at that point. I hated the vest.

Last time I visited my mother, she made lasagna and served me the tiniest piece I had ever seen.

I met a man once who invited me over to his house in the mornings to do aerobics. "We can get you in shape in no time," he said. Barf.

At my weekend job (I no longer have), a woman decided I might like her daughter's hand-me downs. "She's a larger gal, like you," she said. On four or five occasions, she gave me a garbage bag full of ugly plus sized clothing. I gave them all to Goodwill.

My mother openly commented to me about how fat my cousin has gotten, and what a shame it is that she ruined her once beautiful figure. Should I get the hint?

People are so insensitive and judgemental. I think maybe a part of me rebels against my family and others who have been so crititcal of me all my life. Now that I am "fat", it is a slap in their face. I am just now realizing this. I know it is not healthy.

At my skinniest: "Anorexic *****"
At my fattest: "Fattie"

When I was about fifteen, my mum once took one of my favourite dresses from my closet and told me I wasn't allowed to wear it anymore because, "Well, it just ... *clings* in some places and it's not very flattering, now, is it?" Yes, it was a fitted dress and yes, my butt and hips were somewhat bigger than they had been a year ago when I bought the dress because, you know, puberty. However, I was actually pretty much bang in the middle of a healthy BMI for my height at the time.

When I was nineteen, I was a bit heavier -- I was getting close to the top of the healthy weight range for my height. I was cast as Desdemona in Shakespeare's "Othello" and was over the moon. Not long after, my mum started dropping all these hints that I should get out and exercise or change my eating habits. I called her out on it and she goes, "Well, it would just be nice if you were trim when you play Desdemona."

She also told my sister, who is in amazing shape and was preparing for a physique competition at the time, that she getting a bit bulky, it's not as if she *needed* all those muscles anyway, and maybe she should tone down her workouts. And believe me, my sister was not bulky at all -- just incredibly lean with amazing muscular definition.

Can't win sometimes...

After I lost some weight a friend of my commented and said that she didn't think I had needed to lose weight but now that I had I looked way better.... i know she was trying to spare my feelings by not saying I looked fat before. But...ouch.

The worst thing said to me about my weight would be all the men that tried hitting me with lines such as "Baby You Thick!" As if its a good thing that I am overweight and unhealthy. Its not attractive, and its not flattering when someone hits on you using a line calling out one of your biggest internal struggles

Essentially how every family reunion goes:

To my sisters - "Goodness, you've grown up to be so gorgeous!"
...aaaaand then feebly to me shortly following the classic 'once-over' - "Oh. Oh yes. You're pretty too".

Sheesh. I'd prefer being ignored.

My dad's favourite line: "Should you really be eating that?" (Meanwhile, he's eating off everyone else's plate as well as his own.)

the worst were the things i told myself

People asking me if I was pregnant when I barely had a belly. My father telling me I'd be a really attractive woman if I would lose 30 lbs.

I was at the beach with two skinny friends last summer, we were having a great day until some boys showed up. They were absolutely horrible to me and one of my friends after we refused to tell them our bra sizes (throwing clumps of sand into our hair and food, yelling mean things etc) and flirted with the more outgoing friend of us three. To cut a long story short, when we weren't being completely ignored by our friend and the boys or having sand thrown at us, one of the boys called me fat. The friend who was flirting with them heard and told me to ignore them, but anyway. Super embarrassing and kind of ruined the day a bit.

the worst were the things i told myself

Unfortunately, this is the most telling of all. The dreaded inner dialogue afterwards.

My mum telling me that my current bf (of over 5 years) would leave me if I didn't lose weight, because "he's in a band so other girls are interested in him too"

my ex told me I was too fat to *kitten* - nice eh!

saw him recently and he told me how ffantastic I was looking - yet I am the same size as when I was with him!

the worst were the things i told myself

Oh yes I can definitely relate to that one.

Also:
My ex boyfriend "I don't like fat people" (meaning me?)
"Don't moan at me when you're fat" (whilst I ate a chocolate bar/crisps/ice cream/etc.)

My mum "Yes, you've definitely got cuddlier" (on my birthday!!)
"I think it's all the drink with you" (making me sound like an alcoholic as well!)

I remember the first time I ever felt subconscious about how I looked. I was probably 11 and looking back I wasn't fat....just not skinny. I had a new pair of jean overalls that I thought were pretty cool (lol). My best friend wanted to try them on and after she did they were really loose on her cause she was quite skinny. She was laughing and saying how big they were. They were hanging off of her. I remember very clearly the rush of feelings that have never left me of feeling fat and uncomfortable in my body. Such a small thing but it really changed the way I felt about myself. I think I went from being a happy kid to a insecure teen in seconds, Weird. I've never told anyone that story before.