is this annoying?

So like, if you have friends on here like me (and i mean like friends on here, not so much real life people who have that emotional connection and concern)... do you find it annoying? Doyou find it irritating cheering people on, only for them to have somany set backs? Do their proclamations start to sound hollow? How can people like me who struggle a lot be less annoying? thank you xxx

no i dont fond this annoying because everyone needs support and community. setbacks are a part of life and something we all experience.

what i do find annoying though are whiners and people who arent self-motivated. i've deleted many people from my friend's list who needed constant external validation and would whine on their status about how they arent getting it. we all have our struggles and helping each other doesn't mean having to carry someone else.

so my advice would be to a) recognize that everyone has setbacks 2)learn from those setbacks and try applying the learnings to new situations 3)have your own internal motivators to keep you going 4)set small weekly goals to help keep you motivated. weekly goals can be things as simple as drinking x cups of water a day, working out 3 hours a week, hitting your macros 2 days, etc

I don't find it annoying at all. I encourage everyone regardless if they have set backs or not.
We all have our moments. I am here to help others by cheering them on. If you need a
supportive friend; feel free to add me.:flowerforyou:

I can see were it could be annoying. 70 lbs doesn't come off in 1, 2 or 3 weeks. 35 lbs does go on in that time frame either, unless you have a lard IV. A week or 2 of slip ups can cause 5 or 10 lb gain. Jump back on the wagon, and keep an eye on what you are eating, and how your clothes are fitting. Tough Love, much luck to you.

your "birdie" pic is the best laugh ive had all day! thanks

I dont find it annoying. thats what friends are here for. i mean we are only humans and often we give in to our weaknesses- we have a bad evening, day, week or a month. it happens. i myself had a tough week but people on MFP made it so much easier for me to get back in the zone. they cheered me on and acknowledged my little victories. i am trying to do the same.
in the end if somebody is annoying you, you can always defriend them...
i love supporting MFP friends

I think you should worry less about people who find you annoying and just be yourself. I'm sure there are hundreds of people who make "hollow proclamations" but I think if they really mean it, it isn't hollow at all. I would love to cheer you on even if you DO slip up often! I think for people who have more trouble sticking to a weight loss/management goal, it is good for them to get as much support as possible. Everything in my life where I have had the support of others has been easier than things I have accomplished on my own. People slip up for different reasons and while I firmly believe everybody is responsible for their choices and decisions, some people really do have an easier time saying no to cupcakes than others. If you'd like to cheer each other on, go ahead and add me as a friend! I've had a rough journey in life and my problems with food reflect that. So far I have a good grip on getting healthy, but it's only been two weeks. I could use some cheering on too.

No, I do not find that annoying. I don't even find it annoying when people reject advice I or others give. There is no single right way to lose weight. If what works for me doesn't sound like something you could live with long term, then you would be right to reject it.

Not at all. It's tough and we all have to do it in our own time.

As long as you're honest with yourself, I don't find it annoying.

Not trolling or looking for hate, just an honest question... i am trying to lose weight and change mylife, been slowly working my way down from over 400lbs, got to about 330lbs, then gained about half of it back... now trying to get myself refocussed! Basically, I try hard but I have a fair few slip ups- times when i gain a little back, time when i binge eat, times when i simply let things slip. I know weight loss is hard for everyone but I guess i just struggle especially... it is a looong road with setback on the way.

So like, if you have friends on here like me (and i mean like friends on here, not so much real life people who have that emotional connection and concern)... do you find it annoying? Doyou find it irritating cheering people on, only for them to have somany set backs? Do their proclamations start to sound hollow? How can people like me who struggle a lot be less annoying? thank you xxx

I have just recently stopped to cheer on a person in my FL, because I am certain that telling her " tomorrow is another day " is not helpful , especially if that day never seems to come. I still give practical advise and definitely have not stopped posting to that person, but I am no longer all cheerful and " don't worry about it, one day makes no difference ", because it has been many days.
With all due respect I would like to mentioned to you that gaining 35 pounds is an extra 122 500 calories above maintenance and unless you have emotional or physical health problems to gain that all back, a sad way to undo what must have been a major effort. And just boredom eating or eating because " I feel hungry and I need food or because I deserve it " is just nor worth gaining 35 pounds for. So if that might have been going on for quite a while, even though your friends might have supported you in friendly and cheerful ways, I probably would also take a step back. Not abandon you, but definitely tone down the " never mind one day does not make you gain " kind of attitude, because I do know from experience that one day times 30, 60 or 100 yes, do make a person gain weight.
Good Luck !
As far as advise is concerned; I don't care if people accept it or not, because it is their life and not mine.

It's an ongoing process, and people who "backslide" probably need the support more than those who just lose continuously.

I think some level of yo-yoing is not uncommon. In the past there were periods of feast and famine and the folks who could pack on the pounds were the ones who made it through the sparse times. So it's not optimal, but probably to be expected, that you will sometimes gain some weight back.

Unlike other "addictions," food addicts cannot cut all the food out of their lives, so it is much tougher to control. Someone who's addicted to alcohol can give it up cold turkey and in fact it's viewed as a really bad idea to let a recovering alcohol addict have any alcohol at all. Yet food addicts have to have some food. So it's probably the toughest addiction to deal with.