Snapchat...Is this okay? What do you think?

llama_sammich
llama_sammich Posts: 124
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So, those of you who don't know what this is, it's an app on iPhone for you to send photos to friends that are only visible for a few seconds. There's a "best friend" feature, who shows up when you have exchanged more photos with that person than any others on your contact list that week.

Now, my boyfriend has it. He works in the oilfield so he travels a lot. When I got my iPhone, I got Snapchat, added him and saw that his "best friend" that week was this Sarah chick who is apparently a front desk girl at a hotel they often stay at for work. They've texted before, which I've told him I'm not comfortable with. Supposedly, she has a boyfriend. They're also friends on Facebook.. When I pointed out the Snapchat thing, he said only really gets things from a guy friend.

What kind of photos do you non-single guys exchange with non-single girls? Or would you even?

Do I seem like a crazed jealous person?
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  • iNkedFiTmama
    iNkedFiTmama Posts: 277 Member
    psssst. its not just for iphone. Umm.. It depends can you trust him? I snap chat my best friends brother? and I'm a married woman..but we both have 1 year olds born around the same time and he is basically a stay at home dad and I'm a stay at home mom so we both snap chat parenting shenanigans. Could be just random crap. Not all snapchatting is bad.
  • ItsMeGee3
    ItsMeGee3 Posts: 13,254 Member
    I'm still trying to figure Snat Chat out!
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    When I pointed out the Snapchat thing, he said only really gets things from a guy friend.

    So she's his number one Snapchat friend, but he says he only gets things from a guy? How can that not be a bald-faced lie? I mean, if his photo exchanges with her are platonic, why would he have to lie about it? It doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend - people cheat.

    Maybe it's just flirtatious, or maybe she meets up with him in an unbooked room at the hotel when the's there, I don't know. But I don't think you're a crazy jealous person, just a rightfully concerned person.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    He's cheating....dump him and let's KIK :love: :flowerforyou:
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    naked, of course.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    definitely naked photos...
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    I'm still trying to figure Snatch Chat out!

    this makes much more sense now.
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Punch her in the mouth, OP! And your bf!

    Don't forget yourself, too! Punch everyone!
  • da_bears10089
    da_bears10089 Posts: 1,791 Member
    Maybe you should take his phone, see if he has any screen shots saved of what she sends him. Then punch him WITH his phone.
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    In my experience, Snapchat has been just for sending naked photos that you don't want anyone else to see. Otherwise folks would text.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    In my experience, Snapchat has been just for sending naked photos that you don't want anyone else to see. Otherwise folks would text.

    Are you experienced?!?
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    ;)
  • DJMIKEY1
    DJMIKEY1 Posts: 523 Member
    First off he is lying, if she is on the top of the list she and he are exchanging photos more than anyone else on the list.
    Second if he lies about that, he is lying about more.
    Sorry but its the truth. Best of luck to you.
  • patrickblo13
    patrickblo13 Posts: 831 Member
    ;)

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    in the process of signing up for Snapchat
  • harshman18
    harshman18 Posts: 43
    with reason no total chill ain't right no matter what and i wouldn't trust him>>>>>>>>............
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Sounds fishy to me. :huh:
  • nelsoji
    nelsoji Posts: 79 Member
    My gut would say its not on the up and up - but you have to decide if some flirting while on the road (assuming he isn't actually physically cheating or whatever) is worth ending the relationship.

    Either way you might as well confront him and get real story - or as real as he will tell you and make a decision based on that
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    If you feel like you need to investigate either you are jealous or you don't trust him (usually for a good reason). Either way sounds doomed.
  • SamanthaD1218
    SamanthaD1218 Posts: 303 Member
    Nope nope nope I would NOT be okay with that. What is the point of Snapchat?? I'll tell you: to be able to send pictures that disappear after a few seconds (although I've heard you can screen-shot them, so they really aren't totally private). If he wanted to send normal pics, he could do it through text. I recently had a MARRIED guy friend ask me over and over to get Snapchat to use with him (he's kind of pervy) and he couldn't give me a good reason why he couldn't just send me photos via text if he wanted to.

    Yuck.
  • Moosycakes
    Moosycakes Posts: 258 Member
    If he's lying about things to you like some of the other people here are suggesting, then I would worry, but in my experience with my friends and boyfriend, Snapchats are generally not flirty. But then, everyone has different uses for it I guess.
  • cdmath
    cdmath Posts: 5
    Snapchat photos do not really delete; they just disappear. There is a way (I'm not sure exactly how) that they can be retrieved. I'm a teacher and we just had that lesson for our high school students.

    http://www.theguardian.com/media-network/partner-zone-infosecurity/snapchat-photos-not-deleted-hidden

    Here's an article about it that's pretty interesting. If he is cheating (and I think that he is), then you could find out for sure.
  • iLOVEbabySARA13
    iLOVEbabySARA13 Posts: 88
    If I caught my husband in a lie like that, on TOP of being sneaky in the first place, I'd beat his a**.
  • patfriendly
    patfriendly Posts: 263 Member
    snapchat is available on android phones too. I would be really suspicious of him. If you get a chance, get his phone and snap chat that girl saying hey I am bored. See how she responds.
  • Danny_Boy13
    Danny_Boy13 Posts: 2,094 Member
    It is hard to say but from the way you are telling the story it is not in his favor. I use snap chat for innocent usage. It can be entertaining and something different.

    My snapchat name is danny_boy79 if anyone wants to hit me up.
  • FerretBuellerr
    FerretBuellerr Posts: 468 Member
    Nope nope nope I would NOT be okay with that. What is the point of Snapchat?? I'll tell you: to be able to send pictures that disappear after a few seconds (although I've heard you can screen-shot them, so they really aren't totally private). If he wanted to send normal pics, he could do it through text. I recently had a MARRIED guy friend ask me over and over to get Snapchat to use with him (he's kind of pervy) and he couldn't give me a good reason why he couldn't just send me photos via text if he wanted to.

    Yuck.

    Yeah, kind of how I feel.

    Technology is just deteriorating actual social contact and communication and allowing sh*tty things like this to happen.
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    Or would you even?

    No, at 46 I don't see the point in it. :laugh:

    As for your guy...confirmed liar. I guess the cards are in your hands now as to what to do about it...
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    I'm still trying to figure Snatch Chat out!

    this makes much more sense now.

    I love you.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Nope nope nope I would NOT be okay with that. What is the point of Snapchat?? I'll tell you: to be able to send pictures that disappear after a few seconds (although I've heard you can screen-shot them, so they really aren't totally private). If he wanted to send normal pics, he could do it through text. I recently had a MARRIED guy friend ask me over and over to get Snapchat to use with him (he's kind of pervy) and he couldn't give me a good reason why he couldn't just send me photos via text if he wanted to.

    Yuck.

    You can download an app that intercepts the pictures before they are opened. This will permanently save them without the other person knowing. If you 'screenshot' them, it sends a message to the other person saying it was saved.
    Snapchat photos do not really delete; they just disappear. There is a way (I'm not sure exactly how) that they can be retrieved. I'm a teacher and we just had that lesson for our high school students.

    http://www.theguardian.com/media-network/partner-zone-infosecurity/snapchat-photos-not-deleted-hidden

    Here's an article about it that's pretty interesting. If he is cheating (and I think that he is), then you could find out for sure.

    This was never really true. They are hidden on your phone...UNTIL they are open, at which point they are completely deleted. The method of hiding them is really simple...they just add an extension your phone won't recognize. If you plug your phone into a PC (before opening the pictures in Snapchat), you can download the files with the appended extension, change it back to .jpg, and you now have permanent copies of any pictures.

    And before any of you comment on my extensive knowledge of Snapchat...I have a 16yr old daughter. It pays to keep up on this crap.
  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    I'm still trying to figure Snatch Chat out!
    Sounds fishy to me. :huh:

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