When others don't notice your loss...

gws is right - people who see you often - may not notice much. But just wait until you see someone who hasn't seen you for 6 months or so. This has happened to me as i have been away from tennis because of an injury. Now i am back playing and seeing people for the first time in 6-7 months and they are just amazed. Some don't recognize me.
Yes - i did this for myself. But honestly - its really great when someone else notices. And its about 30 lbs for me.
Stay with it - and believe me - they will notice. And when you get to your goal - you will get lots of comments.
They are often with a question - has this been intentional?
Its worth it - you are healthier - and stay the course - In the end - you win!

Yes I have lost 24 lbs. an has no one has noticed. But if I gained 24 lbs. the world would notice..

They'll most likely notice when you're back in Summer clothing. Try not to let it worry you and keep up with what you're doing.

Probably just means that they never viewed you as 'large' to start with!!


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Hi Jemie, I'm sorry to hear such negative responses from your colleagues, but I too am in the exact same situation at work where colleagues have said absolutely nothing to me about my weight loss either, but, I put it down to petty jealousies not that anyone else is vastly overweight and they all are slim (except for one person who is not) and she is very prickly and down right nasty when speaking to me since I have lost a stone and a half and I have gone down from a dress size 14/16 to a size 10/12, but I see that as HER problem not mine I am doing something she don't like and it's probably getting to her. I am half way there with my weight loss and have been a member of MFP since May 2013, so not quite as long as yourself hon. Please don't take their silences as a negative, turn it around into a positive because sweetie you are getting right up their noses! Its like being in a bucket of crabs really, those that climb up are always pulled back down by the others also trying to climb up, so eventually no-one escapes the bucket - be a starfish instead because you ARE a star. :flowerforyou: This is what its like in my office too because I work with mostly other females with only two males in our particular part of the office, so you can appreciate that 6 a women plus me making 7 and two males its not a very healthy work balance. But, I must say the other day my head boss, who is female and around the same height as me although she's slightly larger, complimented me when I was saying to the one lady who is my friend there because of an injury I had let things slip and I'd gained 4 pounds and was feeling bloated that day my boss said; 'Well, Michelle, you have done really well, I can see how well you have done with your weight loss and I must take a leaf out of your book come the New Year and shed some of mine' . :happy: I was so bemused to have received a compliment I didn't even thank her. So, there is hope for you, and I think you have done really, really well! Keep up the good work and don't let the B's get you down! xx :smooched:

Yes I have lost 24 lbs. an has no one has noticed. But if I gained 24 lbs. the world would notice..

EXACTLY ... i find people noticing even the tiniest bit of weight gain ... yet they don't always seem to notice huge loses ... this has always interested me

I lost 90 lbs in 2 years & received only a passing comment or two from people at work & those were people that I hadn't seen in quite a while who could not contain their surprise. After thinking on it some, I attributed it to a number of factors. #1 we live in a politically correct world now where comments in the office about other people's appearances are generally discouraged. After all, a compliment about how good you look now could be taken the wrong way ie., how bad you looked previously. Of course comments from members of the opposite sex are even more frowned upon due to sexual harassment in the workplace fears. #2, people are afraid there may be health issues involved that caused your weight loss & don't want to create an awkward situation by calling attention to it. #3, people may feel they don't know you well enough to make personal comments so they keep quiet. So in my case I tend to attribute the lack of positive comment to one of the above & not assume that there was a conspiracy to ignore my accomplishments. Besides, I notice the looks certain members of the opposite sex cast my way every now & then & I don't need the spoken word to appreciate that they approve of the change

Commenting on someone's weight loss can be a very tricky thing. I can't tell you how many people (here and elsewhere) have complained because someone tells them "you look good now" or "you've lost weight, you look so much better" or whatever. Some people are afraid to say anything incase you've been sick and didn't mean to lose weight. Some people just don't know what to say.

And of course, saying nothing is bad, too, because then people think you don't care or didn't notice or their effort is wasted. :ohwell:

I'm sorry you feel like no one has noticed. But it's very likely that they just don't know how to say it the "right" way and don't want to offend you.

Do you talk about diet and exercise at work? I think if people know that you're trying to lose weight they are far more likely to comment on your weight loss.
Someone at work joined WW last year and all we heard about was how many points there are in this or that, I'd like to eat this or that but I'm on a diet...... You know how it goes. Well, she was asked about her weight constantly, every pound lost was applauded and admired.
Now, I started my diet in June, I avoid talking about diets and I don't bleat about the things I can't eat (I think it's boring to the naturally thin and a tad inflammatory to the overweight!) and I don't think it's particularly obvious I'm on a diet.... So no one notices, I've lost about 35lb and two dress sizes and there's not been a single comment. But I really don't need cheerleaders, I'm doing this for me, for my health and well being. Yes, it would be nice to be encouraged along but that's what we're here for - you're doing an awesome job, in the right and healthy way - you rock!! :flowerforyou:

Question: Who do you work with, guys or gals?

Question: How often do they see you, they may not have notice if they work with you every day, vs, seeing you very 6 months.

Statement: Maybe you need to buy tighter fitting cloths, to show off your new curves.

I think you deserve a new outfit you feel great in!

I lost 30lbs off of my 130lbs(sickness) and not a single coworker commented. I think many simply didn't notice because I was still wearing clothes that fit my old frame and thus added weight to my new one.I think many feel that weight is such a sensitive subject they don't want to comment unless they know what's going on. Some will give you hidden complements like "that shirt looks good" but really mean "the new you looks great in that shirt"

Tell them and I'm sure that they'll see the difference- it gives them a trigger to comment on a gradual change that's been happening over time.

This group certainty noticed and they seem to think you're doing awesome!

Hi Jemie, I'm sorry to hear such negative responses from your colleagues, but I too am in the exact same situation at work where colleagues have said absolutely nothing to me about my weight loss either, but, I put it down to petty jealousies not that anyone else is vastly overweight and they all are slim (except for one person who is not) and she is very prickly and down right nasty when speaking to me since I have lost a stone and a half and I have gone down from a dress size 14/16 to a size 10/12, but I see that as HER problem not mine I am doing something she don't like and it's probably getting to her.

Honestly I would say its more because you said they're all slim... if they acknowledge your weightloss, they essentially have to acknowledge that you were overweight. Its far safer to not say anything until YOU comment on it and open it up for positive comments.

Commenting on peoples weight is a damned if you do, damned if you don't scenario. If you comment on their weight and they're unhappy, your a horrible person. If you don't comment on their weight and they are happy, your a horrible person. If you bite the bullet, open the dialoge and make it clear you're happy for feedback, you might find people aren't as petty and jealous as you think they are?!?!?

OK, today was so funny. One of my colleagues ran into my room, grabbed me by the arm and pulled me into her room saying "Come here!!" She then told me to take of my coat (we work in a school lab) and said in a awed voice "How much weight have you lost??" It turned out that she was looking for a photo on the computer and found one of me with the Chemistry leavers in July 2012 when I was about 200lb. There are almost no photos of me below the neck anywhere at all and I'd forgotten that this one existed, she was amazed that I had lost so much weight.
So eventually someone noticed - so nice to get a "Wow!"

Well unless your tiny a size 12 is a perfectly healthy size for an adult woman.

2kg a month is about what you'd expect to loose at being this close to/at a healthy weight.

That's a pound a week or around 3500 calories per week deficit (500 cals a day) less than yoru body needs.

You only get faster loss when you have a lot of weight to loose as the less you weigh the less your body needs to function.