Coworkers and friends not very supportive.

Don't eat their crap. It's always going to be bad.

Also, you cannot possibly "look like a man" by weight training alone. You don't have the testosterone for it. Avoiding weight training because you think you might "accidentally" get a power lifter's physique is like avoiding jogging because you might "accidentally" step out your front door and win the Bostom marathon one day.

Whenever I apply for a job, I know a major part of that job is providing moral support to my coworkers toward whatever personal pursuits they have in their lives.

Not unless you work in Human Resources. Your job is to do your job not be a soft shoulder for the jerk next to you.

Sorry sweetie, Nurses are the worst. Like all professionals in a high stress job they tend to acquire other unhealthy habits to self medicate their stress. They gossip, they are horrible with money, many smoke and most eat absolute crap. There is often a bizarre envy of anyone trying to improve their life or get ahead. I was immediately cut from the herd when i had the audacity to go back to school and get my NP. My parents taught me years ago the differences between friends and acquaintances. Friends never make you feel bad about doing something good for yourself. When you are with a friend you both become the best versions of yourself. They are right there cheering you on. If you want to achieve the ideal BMI for your ht why should anyone discourage you. A simple truth is that sometimes you outgrow your friends and they turn into acquaintances. I have a 100+ acquaintances but only 2 friends. Of course, I am assuming that you aren't preaching nutrition at them all the time LOL! As a Catholic I routinely have occasions to fast and abstain from pleasures( I.e. candy, fried food) as a way to be closer to God. This provides me with a ready excuse when I am presented with a gift of homemade fudge during the Holidays. I say thank you and ask if I can pass it along to a very poor working family that I care for. My advice is be gracious in your declines and don't give acquaintances to much information- it only invites them to comment and you don't need that negativity. Then you will be happy at work and in charity with your fellow man. That's what worked for me, good luck!

I used to take a plate of food, say thank you. Go to my desk, and throw it away when no one was looking, some people will not shutup, and when they know you are eating healthy, they try even harder. I know as a nurse, you probably don't have a cubicle wall to disguise the "throw away technique" :-), but when no one's looking throw a few pieces at a time in the trash rolled up in a napkin, it's sad that we have to go through so much (reverse psychology) on people but ultimately it's your decision. When you're super fat, they look at you like do you really need that?" when you start to lose weight, those same people will start to offer you food. It's irritating but I do understand you don't want to mess up your work environment by telling them if they want the chocolate ate, then they can always eat it themselves but if they continue on, you may just have to. Most of the time, you only need to set people straight once and they will shutup about it and go about their business. Sometimes "friends" are your "friends" for more than just because you are a "good person" when you start to change and grow, their security in having you be "a few lbs bigger than them" starts to make them feel insecure about themselves. Sometimes people keep us around for ulterior motives that we don't see until we start to change, then the real them starts to come out..

I had a cousin who was a bit smaller than me and our other cousin when we were teenagers, she was always so happy when we would go to a party and dance all night long, thinking that we made her look so good, when I started losing it was quite obvious she was NOT happy about it. When I invited my friends who were teeny tiny she would stand on the wall all night long looking crazy because all of sudden she wasn't the "smallest" in the group anymore. tsk tsk.

I think it is so awesome that your sweetie is supportive. So is my husband. That's the best cheering section of all.

I'm sorry they are bugging you!

I really wouldn't check calories on the backs of food somebody brought in to share, though, unless you can be very discreet about it. It's more because it's a gift, you know? It's rude (imho) to give off any signals that an offering might not be up to your standards.

I completely understand why it might not be up to your standards considering it's food, though! There are health issues involved, no doubt.

I really don't like people telling me what to eat or asking a lot of nosy questions about my food, either. I usually tell them I'm a big girl and really think I can decide what I want or don't want to eat without a lot of help, thanks That's after simply saying I'm not hungry right then (etc) doesn't work.

U have 2 choices

1-tell or coworkers to f*&k themselves
2-stop telling them anything. U work with them. Keep it that way.

My advice is not to discuss your efforts with people unless they ask, and then keep your answers as short as possible.

I think misery loves company! They aren't happy with their selves, so they don't want you to do better! Its not about them, its about you!! You need to stay strong for you and ignore the haters!!! Keep up the great work!! Good luck!!

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