Always feeling guilty when I eat

WhisperAnne
WhisperAnne Posts: 453 Member
in Motivation and Support
No matter what I eat I feel guilty.Even if it's healthy food. What is wrong with me?

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  • uconnwinsnc
    uconnwinsnc Posts: 1,054 Member
    You have a disorder you need to overcome or talk to a doctor about.
  • WhisperAnne
    WhisperAnne Posts: 453 Member
    You have a disorder you need to overcome or talk to a doctor about.

    I don't starve myself or make myself throw up. I just feel guilty when I eat and get upset.
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    You have a disorder you need to overcome or talk to a doctor about.

    I don't starve myself or make myself throw up. I just feel guilty when I eat and get upset.

    You still have an unhealthy relationship with food. Whether you act on it or not.
  • cluelessang
    cluelessang Posts: 36 Member
    try www.oa.org. It has helped me
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    you need to improve your relationship with food.

    You MUST eat in order to thrive.

    You should not feel guilty EVER about consuming food. it's completely an utterly unhealthy.
  • TommyJensen1987
    TommyJensen1987 Posts: 95
    Do you stick with your calories and/or macro target?

    If so, you shouldn't feel guilty. Heck if you blow it, don't feel guilty - figure out what exactly went wrong/unplaned for and then work to fix that.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
    First of all, congrats on losing 130 lbs (assuming I read your profile right). No small task, and definitely something to be proud of.
    Is part of the reason you feel guilty is because you're afraid of re-gaining the weight? If so, it may help to know that you'd have to work pretty hard to do that. You'd have to eat 3500 calories over your maintenance to gain a pound of actual fat, and if you had the self-discipline to lose all that weight, I don't think that's something you truly need to worry about THAT much.

    I agree with the above posters that your relationship with food might need to be looked at. It's supposed to be fuel for your body. Your organs can't operate on wishful thinking :wink: If the guilty feeling about eating persists (even if you don't actually do anything like purging or eat like an anorexic), don't hesitate to seek professional help. There's no shame in it at all, and it can hopefully help you steer clear of a full blown eating disorder.
  • gmthisfeller
    gmthisfeller Posts: 779 Member
    I won't tell you how to feel. If you feel guilty, then you feel guilty.

    Do you want to change how you feel? Then you have to change your behavior; the behavior the engenders your feelings in the first place. You did not lose 130 lbs overnight --kudos for that!-- so you won't change your feelings overnight, either.

    Is there someone special in your life? Some young man or woman? Have them over for a meal, breakfast, lunch, dinner, it does not matter. Cook together the foods the both of you like. Take a couple of hours to do it, from cooking to clean up. Enjoy the other person, and the conversation. Rinse and repeat. After a while you will discover that it is not about the food, it is about people, and you will be on the verge of discovering that you eat to live, you do not live to eat. Easy? Was losing 130 lbs easy? You have to begin, and beginning with someone you care about, and who cares about you is a recipe for success.
  • WhisperAnne
    WhisperAnne Posts: 453 Member
    First of all, congrats on losing 130 lbs (assuming I read your profile right). No small task, and definitely something to be proud of.
    Is part of the reason you feel guilty is because you're afraid of re-gaining the weight? If so, it may help to know that you'd have to work pretty hard to do that. You'd have to eat 3500 calories over your maintenance to gain a pound of actual fat, and if you had the self-discipline to lose all that weight, I don't think that's something you truly need to worry about THAT much.

    I agree with the above posters that your relationship with food might need to be looked at. It's supposed to be fuel for your body. Your organs can't operate on wishful thinking :wink: If the guilty feeling about eating persists (even if you don't actually do anything like purging or eat like an anorexic), don't hesitate to seek professional help. There's no shame in it at all, and it can hopefully help you steer clear of a full blown eating disorder.

    Thank you so much, yes I'm petrified of gaining weight. Seeing this in print relieves me a bit. I know I wont get that big again ( I have a lot of will power) but still I don't understand my love/hate with food. I love food but dread counting calories all the time. I've been doing it for 6 years and for a few weeks I'm getting really angry and resentful towards food. I still eat healthy foods I've always eaten but I just wish I didn't have to keep track of everything.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
    First of all, congrats on losing 130 lbs (assuming I read your profile right). No small task, and definitely something to be proud of.
    Is part of the reason you feel guilty is because you're afraid of re-gaining the weight? If so, it may help to know that you'd have to work pretty hard to do that. You'd have to eat 3500 calories over your maintenance to gain a pound of actual fat, and if you had the self-discipline to lose all that weight, I don't think that's something you truly need to worry about THAT much.

    I agree with the above posters that your relationship with food might need to be looked at. It's supposed to be fuel for your body. Your organs can't operate on wishful thinking :wink: If the guilty feeling about eating persists (even if you don't actually do anything like purging or eat like an anorexic), don't hesitate to seek professional help. There's no shame in it at all, and it can hopefully help you steer clear of a full blown eating disorder.

    Thank you so much, yes I'm petrified of gaining weight. Seeing this in print relieves me a bit. I know I wont get that big again ( I have a lot of will power) but still I don't understand my love/hate with food. I love food but dread counting calories all the time. I've been doing it for 6 years and for a few weeks I'm getting really angry and resentful towards food. I still eat healthy foods I've always eaten but I just wish I didn't have to keep track of everything.

    What I'd recommend then is if you hate it so much, then don't. Track for 5 days this week. Track for 4 days next week. 3 the next, and so on. Weigh in periodically, and see how you do. Hang out in the "maintaining weight" forum and get some tricks and tips from others that are in maintenance.

    Just adjust your eating habits as you learn what your maintenance level is and where you need to stop. Don't be afraid of the water weight that will show up on occasion. Above all, have some fun and don't let the whole "keeping healthy" thing get you down. Life's supposed to be fun, and food is a part of life. It's definitely too short to be feeling guilty about something that's kinda required to stay alive :smile:

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