Receiving Hand me downs

Fridaklo77
Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
in Health and Weight Loss
ok, so this is random - but I wanted to get your guy's input. I have a friend that recenly has been losing weight. She was a bigger size than I was . I wore an 8-10 and she was a 14-16. So recently I have put on some weight, I am closer to a 12 now. She send me a dress by mail, a size 14 Extra Large strechy material. I felt kind of bad? But, am I just in denial? Or would you be upset too?

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  • Llamapants86
    Llamapants86 Posts: 1,221 Member
    I would be upset and use it as a wake up call. I know personally it took me dropping 20 lbs to actually fit into the clothes I was wearing, total denial on my part.
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    I agree, thanks! That is why I am working hard to track what I am eating and how active I am! thanks!!!
  • Saramelie
    Saramelie Posts: 308 Member
    I get it. At my highest I wore size 20. Now at 16. My friend gave me her size 20, and I felt bad telling her they are too big (she's bigger than a size 20). But I know she was just trying to be nice. 12 and 14 are really close, so your friend can't know. Just appreciated the gesture and let her know that you are currently below a size 14. I'm sure she's not trying to insult you.
  • wildeyezz
    wildeyezz Posts: 84 Member
    'Show' her that it's too big.
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    ok, thanks!
  • aakaakaak
    aakaakaak Posts: 1,240 Member
    You should be upset. Then you should get mad. So mad you want to fight. Hold onto that anger. Let it possess you. Then go to the gym every day and burn through that anger. Burn it all to the ground. Let it ooze out of your sweat. Then, if you can hold onto the anger long enough, you'll fit into a size 6. :smokin:

    ...just don't get mad at your friend.
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    yaaay! Size 6 sounds good. IM GOING TO GO WORK OUT HARD lol
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    My friend gave me a bunch of cloths when she lost weight (size 14 to an 8). I was grateful for them. Some fit some didn't..

    Use it as a wakeup call....

    PS my friend is now giving me her size 8s cause I used it as a wake up call..
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    I am awake ! That is why I signed up for this site and staying active...But, I have to be consistent. thank yo uall for your input
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    Did she ask if you wanted it first? Did she mean it kindly? If not I'd tell her I'd hold the dress for her until she needs it again. :laugh:
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    my friends and i have good taste so i would be happy to receive first pick of their hand me down is they lost a lot of weight. same goes on my end, i have some pretty fabulous dresses that i plan on letting my friends have first pick before i send stuff to goodwill.

    but yeah if my friends were offering me some walmart type stuff i'd be very very upset and would have to rethink the friendship :laugh:
  • ktsimons
    ktsimons Posts: 294 Member
    You should be upset. Then you should get mad. So mad you want to fight. Hold onto that anger. Let it possess you. Then go to the gym every day and burn through that anger. Burn it all to the ground. Let it ooze out of your sweat. Then, if you can hold onto the anger long enough, you'll fit into a size 6. :smokin:

    ...just don't get mad at your friend.


    LOVE this!!!
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    walking along : No she didnt ask me, she just said, she had a very nice dress that WOULD FIT ME PERFECT. she mailed it to me?
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    I would be a bit offended and I'd let her know it's too big and would she mind if you donated it or something.

    I had a sister-in-law who would sneak in little jabs like that. Once she borrowed several pairs of good jeans then didn't return them for months. When I asked if she was ever going to return them, she said, "Well, I wasn't sure who to return them to..." Her other sister had handed them down to me when I had lost weight. Her implication was that I had regained some weight and the jeans probably wouldn't fit me, so she kind of wanted them herself now. I told her I did want them back because I had every intention of wearing them again. Ugh. :grumble:
  • Fridaklo77
    Fridaklo77 Posts: 124
    Walking along: Wow, thats a big time jab! She was pbly jealous..... Oh! the things we have to deal with as woman, DRAMA! LOL thanks for listening.
  • fruttibiscotti
    fruttibiscotti Posts: 986 Member
    You should be upset. Then you should get mad. So mad you want to fight. Hold onto that anger. Let it possess you. Then go to the gym every day and burn through that anger. Burn it all to the ground. Let it ooze out of your sweat. Then, if you can hold onto the anger long enough, you'll fit into a size 6. :smokin:

    ...just don't get mad at your friend.


    LOVE this!!!

    ^^^ like! Then thank your friend for the wake up call.

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