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What does "gentleman" mean in this day and age?

leftyjace
leftyjace Posts: 304 Member
edited February 9 in Chit-Chat
I'm curious to hear both male and female perspectives on this.
Guys, what do you do as a gentleman?
Ladies, what says to you that a man is a gentleman?
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  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    A gentleman does not try to be a gentleman.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    My BF is a gentlemen...he's always very respectful, continues to open the door for me, hes protective, works hard, basically he's a kind loving man.

    Sure he has his moments where I want to slap his bald head, but for the most part he tries to be a good man.
  • leftyjace
    leftyjace Posts: 304 Member
    A gentleman does not try to be a gentleman.
    fair enough. change made to original questions.
    in that case, "try" was a word connotating effort - whether inside or outside the norm of behavior.
  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 741 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Not always being gentle...
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    That's a much better start.

    My dad is both gentle and very much a man. Kindness mixed with manly traits.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Has a job and doesn't borrow money from you.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    Not always being gentle...
    ohai
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    This is good.
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    As ludicrous would say

    Gentleman in the streets, but a geek in the den
  • ren_ascent
    ren_ascent Posts: 432 Member
    Someone who doesn't exude arrogance or who is wrapped up in self interests. In the day (I think) it was more of a social status title, gentlemen were well to do. Today it's just how the man treats people.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    It means what it means literally. A gentle man.
  • nightshiftzoomer
    nightshiftzoomer Posts: 38
    Kissing after sex
  • sassyrayofsunshine
    sassyrayofsunshine Posts: 499 Member
    A gentleman always lets a lady finish first :flowerforyou:
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    IN for respect.....strength of character (not arrogance)....knowing when to be strong and when to be gentle. I'm happy that I married a gentleman! :-)
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Someone who doesn't exude arrogance or who is wrapped up in self interests. In the day (I think) it was more of a social status title, gentlemen were well to do. Today it's just how the man treats people.

    I disagree that arrogance and self interest have anything to do with being a gentleman.
  • bf43005
    bf43005 Posts: 287
    Respect for yourself and respect for others. I feel like the rest falls into that.
  • BenjaminMFP88
    BenjaminMFP88 Posts: 660 Member
    I'd consider myself a modern day gentlemen. So long as my wife remains a lady, she experiences me as a gentlemen.
  • NinjadURbacon
    NinjadURbacon Posts: 395 Member
    A gentleman always lets a lady finish first :flowerforyou:

    Or more then once :wink:
    ladies first


    Honestly I am a door opener at all times. I pay for meals. Respectful.
  • Cali_Chica
    Cali_Chica Posts: 895 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    :flowerforyou:
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.
    this.
  • delicious_cocktail
    delicious_cocktail Posts: 5,797 Member
    Well he has to be stronger than most, have blue eyes, a deep voice, be bald, and always strive to put people at ease.
  • MeanderingMammal
    MeanderingMammal Posts: 7,866 Member
    Guys, what do you do as a gentleman?

    Treat people as one would wish to be treated
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    This.

    If you are only nice to people you are trying to impress, you are not a nice person.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    A gentleman is only rough when I request it. :laugh:
  • waltcote
    waltcote Posts: 372 Member
    :smile: What were those Boy Scout qualities that we were supposed to uphold. Trustworthy, loyal, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean and reverent Sounds like a gentleman to me.
  • karenmcwilly53
    karenmcwilly53 Posts: 41 Member
    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    This 110%
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Well he has to be stronger than most, have blue eyes, a deep voice, be bald, and always strive to put people at ease.

    Damn, 3/5.
  • TheRealParisLove
    TheRealParisLove Posts: 1,907 Member
    I watched a male co-worker struggle with changing the bottle on the water cooler the other day. He carried it over to the cooler and sat it on the ground for a moment while he caught his breath. I simply walked over and put the jug in place. It weighed about 80 pounds, but wasn't an issue for me. I'm a bar tender, I have to change out kegs all the time. A water bottle wasn't even a small challenge.

    Does this make me a gentleman because I assisted the weaker person?

    I also make more money than many men I know, so if a male friend and I want to go out, I will offer to pick up the tab. That would be the gentlemanly thing to do, right?

    Yes, I'm pretty sure that I am a gentleman. I have both physical strength and financial power over my opposite sex friends. That seems to cover the definition as I understand it.
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
    Has a job and doesn't borrow money from you.

    hahahaha

    sounds familiar
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