What does "gentleman" mean in this day and age?

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leftyjace
leftyjace Posts: 304 Member
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I'm curious to hear both male and female perspectives on this.
Guys, what do you do as a gentleman?
Ladies, what says to you that a man is a gentleman?
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  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
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    A gentleman does not try to be a gentleman.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
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    My BF is a gentlemen...he's always very respectful, continues to open the door for me, hes protective, works hard, basically he's a kind loving man.

    Sure he has his moments where I want to slap his bald head, but for the most part he tries to be a good man.
  • leftyjace
    leftyjace Posts: 304 Member
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    A gentleman does not try to be a gentleman.
    fair enough. change made to original questions.
    in that case, "try" was a word connotating effort - whether inside or outside the norm of behavior.
  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 755 Member
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    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
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    Not always being gentle...
  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
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    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    That's a much better start.

    My dad is both gentle and very much a man. Kindness mixed with manly traits.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
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    Has a job and doesn't borrow money from you.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
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    Not always being gentle...
    ohai
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
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    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    This is good.
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
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    As ludicrous would say

    Gentleman in the streets, but a geek in the den
  • ren_ascent
    ren_ascent Posts: 432 Member
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    Someone who doesn't exude arrogance or who is wrapped up in self interests. In the day (I think) it was more of a social status title, gentlemen were well to do. Today it's just how the man treats people.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
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    It means what it means literally. A gentle man.
  • nightshiftzoomer
    nightshiftzoomer Posts: 38
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    Kissing after sex
  • sassyrayofsunshine
    sassyrayofsunshine Posts: 499 Member
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    A gentleman always lets a lady finish first :flowerforyou:
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
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    IN for respect.....strength of character (not arrogance)....knowing when to be strong and when to be gentle. I'm happy that I married a gentleman! :-)
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
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    Someone who doesn't exude arrogance or who is wrapped up in self interests. In the day (I think) it was more of a social status title, gentlemen were well to do. Today it's just how the man treats people.

    I disagree that arrogance and self interest have anything to do with being a gentleman.
  • bf43005
    bf43005 Posts: 287
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    Respect for yourself and respect for others. I feel like the rest falls into that.
  • BenjaminMFP88
    BenjaminMFP88 Posts: 660 Member
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    I'd consider myself a modern day gentlemen. So long as my wife remains a lady, she experiences me as a gentlemen.
  • NinjadURbacon
    NinjadURbacon Posts: 395 Member
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    A gentleman always lets a lady finish first :flowerforyou:

    Or more then once :wink:
    ladies first


    Honestly I am a door opener at all times. I pay for meals. Respectful.
  • Cali_Chica
    Cali_Chica Posts: 895 Member
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    I think it means more than the way you treat a woman. It's the way you treat everyone.
    You treat people with respect and you are a man honor.

    :flowerforyou:

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