I got asked if I was pregnant tonight!!!

This past Thanksgiving I told my sisters that I was pregnant. My 15 year old sister said "ooohh, I knew something was different but I didnt want to ask because you look like you just got fat."
I tried not to laugh as she went red and immediately tried eating her words and apologizing. I enjoyed watching her squirm for a few seconds before saying "it's okay, really, I think I just look like I got fat!"

Yes, that happened to me. I just said "The last time I was pregnant, it was with twins but only one ever came out." lol

So tonight at a dinner party that we go to every other Wednesday a friend brought another friend I hadn't seen in about a year. I don't believe I weight any more or less then when I seen that person last time and he truthfully asked if I was pregnant. I could tell he felt horrible when I said no and everyone in the room was like OMG!!! I know things like this shouldn't bother me but this will stay with me for a while. I'm going to try to use this as motivation towards my goal. Funny thing was one of the other girls at the dinner party announced she was pregnant.....the guy tried to save himself by saying he didn't know who it was just that he sensed it was in the air LOL

Have you ever been asked if you were pregnant before when you weren't and how did you handle it?

I'm so bad....I would've teared up just a tad and said dramatically, "Why HONEY this is YOUR baby! How could you be so horrible? Of COURSE this is your child YOU are the ONLY man I've ever been with in my whole life, and our love has produced this new little bundle of JOY. Honey you've been gone so long are you EVER going to come Home?". Put your hand to his chest, look up into his eyes and with a little catch in your voice, a hushed tone "My lawyer will get in touch with you for CHILD SUPPORT".

Then walk away. :laugh: :laugh:

i wish someone would ask me! guess even at 37 weeks its no bueno to ask the fat lady if shes pregnant

That is one of the rudest questions you can ask someone. I have been asked that about 10 times! People need to learn to mind their own business. If someone is pregnant and wants you to know they will tell you!!! It is okay to say "I don't feel comfortable discussing that with you."

I don't even know why someone would ask this, why does anyone care? It isn't a rare thing that someone becomes pregnant and asking certainly isn't going to make the baby come any sooner.

Two old women cornered me at my cousin's wedding to ask me if I was the bridesmaid that was pregnant. I was only 19 at the time. I was absolutely mortified. I think I just burst out laughing instead and didn't even respond to them. Luckily they had a mortified look on their faces, too, when they realized their gaffe. I don't understand why, but rude people seem to come out of the woodwork when there is a pregnant woman around -- whether real or imagined.

I'm surprised I was never asked. I carried most of my weight in my boobs and belly, I definitely looked pregnant at my heaviest.

Have got no idea why you are admitting this in public....

You have no idea because you're a boy! People will just think you're fat, no one will think you're pregnant.

I understand the theory behind the lady's post, clever clogs, but it's like you putting up a post, such as, for example: -

'I got told I was sexist today because I randomly use the phrase "You have no idea because you're a boy" '

Why would you put that sort of demeaning stuff up on a public forum?

This might come as a shock to you, but people use these forums for support. Hearing other people say 'the same thing happened to me once' means the OP gets to hear that no, it's not that she's spectacularly pregnant-looking, it's just that some people can't keep their intrusive questions to themselves.

If you can't understand that, then I have absolutely zero doubt you are one of the people who are so utterly out of tune with other people's feelings that you think asking someone if they are pregnant is anything remotely approaching a decent thing to do-- and it's not because you're a man. It's because you clearly have no idea how or why people interact with one another.

Have got no idea why you are admitting this in public....

You have no idea because you're a boy! People will just think you're fat, no one will think you're pregnant.

I had an elderly patient who isn't the kindest of people pat my belly and ask, "Twins?" I still use that as an example to new staff about how some people say very rude things. For me, I am always happy when someone does something like this to me...let's me know right up front what they are really like and I don't have to waste my time investing in a relationship with them.

So yes, men do get asked this, and it's much worse then when you're asking a women (which I wouldn't do) since there obviously isn't any way that is true. So in this case it is meant to be just cruel and hurtful. But, I am very overweight and I did that to myself. Yes, I am on the right road now and while I have a long way to go I am proud of what I have done and believe that I will accomplish my goals. However, can't we desist from sexiest comments like the above? Don't we all really have enough to deal with between our weight loss goals, exercising, families, work, etc without resorting to the constant useless comments like the above? Maybe we all need to grow up a little first if we don't want to be one of these rude people that everyone is quoting in these posts.

Just one man's opinion. I hope that all of us have a happy and safe holiday season.

Have you ever been asked if you were pregnant before when you weren't and how did you handle it?

No but there was a woman at a Christmas party at work that i attended last week who looked like she had lost a few lbs since the last time I had seen her. Lucky thing a gentleman should never comment on a woman's weight.....(like EVER even if shes smoking hot). It turns out shes actually 8 1/2 months pregnant and due in January. Ummmm I really had no idea and she seriously looked smaller.

Whew! Glad I didnt basically say to her (paraphrasing) "You look so much thinner now than before....you know, now that your 9 months pregnant and everything."

Suffice it to say, it should never be acceptable to ask questions or make comments about other people's size and/or weight. But then that would mean that everyone should show a little courtesy. Heaven forbid we be nice to each other!! ????

My sister has always carried all her extra weight around her middle. She has slim legs and no butt to speak of but she has what she calls a Buddha belly. She also has a beautiful complexion and even now that she is in her sixties there are no signs of any wrinkles. She was in her late fifties when someone asked her when she was due. I don't know what she said but when she told me about it she was still trying to decide whether to take the question as an insult or a compliment.