How to stay motivated when you are feeling alone?

PrismaticButterfly
PrismaticButterfly Posts: 2
in Motivation and Support
I've been on my weight loss journey since November and I'm pretty much still a big girl, however I can tell from my clothes that I am losing weight. Shirts and jeans that clung to me no longer do so and it makes me feel really good about myself. The thing ive noticed though is that most of the people who usually talk to me has distanced themselves lately. Even my male best friend whos loved me regardless of how i looked. He would sometimes joke with me saying he was going to fatten me back up if I ever lost to much weight. I know hes been going through some issues lately, but its never stopped him from talking to me before, now the only thing he does is like some of my statuses on Facebook..

I also have very similar issues with a girlfriend of mine, we can talk allday about her life and changes, but the moment i mention my weight loss she ignores it and talks about something else. Its just weird.... The one that hurts me the most though is my mother. Sometimes she is VERY VERY supportive of me telling me how im losing weight and how does it make me feel, but when I acknowledge my own weight loss, she will make a face, or scoff If i tell her my clothes are getting bigger.

It just makes me feel odd as if I'm doing the wrong thing by changing myself for the better. I've been overweight all my life and found comfort through eating. I'm just so sick of being overweight, I'm 22 years old but i feel older because im always having health issues. I just want to enjoy my youth feeling happy and healthy. I haven't even lost enough weight to tell the difference yet, but I already have people acting strange, So what will happened when i actually do lose the weight?

I cry alone in my room sometimes because I thought people would be overjoyed of my changes, but its the opposite. I'm losing my motivation to even keep going, but Im not going to stop.. this is for me and my life. I just would like to know how to get out of this funk, and what did you guys do to keep you motivated. Thanks in advance.

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  • UndoneTwo
    UndoneTwo Posts: 41
    Oh honey, how tough! My guess is that your success may be bringing up other people's insecurities. That happens a lot. It may be nice for you to find some friends who are also on a weightloss journey who can share in your successes! I'm not saying to dump your old friends at all, don't get me wrong. But it sounds like this is an area where, for whatever reason, they are not being able to support you. If you can, tell them that this is how you are feeling. But remember, like you said, this is for you. This is not for them. I wish they were there cheering you on. For what it's worth, I, as an internet stranger, am VERY proud of you for making positive changes in your life and for sticking to them even when times are tough. If your friends are not responding positively when you talk about your weightloss, find other people to celebrate it with!! Hugs and keep your head up!
  • PrismaticButterfly
    PrismaticButterfly Posts: 2
    Thank you so much for this! It really made me smile! :) I'll do just that <3
  • shafstar
    shafstar Posts: 36
    Congratulations.... stick to what you're doing

    Take a picture put it on the wall - 0 friends 0 likes

    Take a picture in a years time when you're a size 8 - 243 friends 3432 likes 2321 friend requests
  • kagevf
    kagevf Posts: 509 Member
    my rule...distance yourself from negative people, including your love ones. The only thing I can think of is because they are jealous. They are jealous because your doing something about it and its outside their comfort zone. No matter what you accomplished, you wont be able to please them, they will just keep pulling you down. So stick with people that are happy with your success and always supportive and cheers you on. Heck! im gonna put my cheer outfit on and wave my pom-poms for yah. Lets get that sexy back and fit on those skinny jeans!
  • dejavuohlala
    dejavuohlala Posts: 1,821 Member
    You need to get some supportive friends on this site, but remember that when others are supporting you to always support in return, you are not alone with your journey if you want to friend me feel free but i only do mutual supprt
  • aprilyankee
    aprilyankee Posts: 345 Member
    Oh honey, how tough! My guess is that your success may be bringing up other people's insecurities. That happens a lot. It may be nice for you to find some friends who are also on a weightloss journey who can share in your successes! I'm not saying to dump your old friends at all, don't get me wrong. But it sounds like this is an area where, for whatever reason, they are not being able to support you. If you can, tell them that this is how you are feeling. But remember, like you said, this is for you. This is not for them. I wish they were there cheering you on. For what it's worth, I, as an internet stranger, am VERY proud of you for making positive changes in your life and for sticking to them even when times are tough. If your friends are not responding positively when you talk about your weightloss, find other people to celebrate it with!! Hugs and keep your head up!

    So true. You can search my fitness pal by zip code and find some local like minded people who will be supportive. I'm not saying drop all your old friends, just branch out and find some new ones to add to your circle. Losing weight is hard enough without outside forces bringing you down. No one of needs that kind of negativity. Stay positive and know that there are a lot of people who are cheering for you.

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