So Overwhelmed!!!

What I do is a buy a pair of pants a size smaller than where I am and work my way into them. I did that from a size 36W to a 24W now. I have a pair of 22s in my closet right now waiting for me. While I am concerned about my actual weight, I am more motivated to keep moving when I can have smaller clothes!

If it makes it easier and less of a hurdle, just focus on losing smaller amounts of weight - like 20 pounds at a time. Once you reach that goal, focus on the next one.

Break it up into smaller numbers! Like 10lb or 15lb... work towards them instead of what seems like a huge number! I personally set myself mini-goals and treated myself when I reached them (with new shoes, a haircut or something like that)!

I set benchmarks for things that show I'm making progress other than via the numbers on the scale. I started out with wanting to do 45 minutes on the recumbent bike at level 10 or greater; I'm now doing 65 minutes at level 14. I started out wanting to fit into my clothes better; I'm now finding those clothes getting a tiny bit loose. I started out wanting to move more easily; I'm now not only moving more easily, I can walk up the two flights of stairs to my apartment with a 25 pound bag of laundry and 10 pounds of groceries without having to stop or passing out at the top. And in the course of that, I've lost about 14 pounds. Focusing on the little milestones makes it easier for me to stay positive.

I'm with others...smaller goals. Also, big picture thinking...people get wrapped up in a number and forget that this is actually about being/getting healthy and fit...that is a process and lifetime endeavor and once you start to look at it that way, the number on the scale doesn't matter quite as much as being better today than you were yesterday and sleeping well in the knowledge that you will be better tomorrow than you were today.

Rock your nutrition and rock your fitness....over time, the rest just kinda takes care of itself. Remember there is no finish line...not 10 Lbs or 20 Lbs or 100 Lbs...there is NO finish line ever...your health, fitness, nutrition, and general well being are lifetime endeavors.

Chin up, that's only about 45 kilos!

I am in the same exact position! I have gone an entire year with no weight lost at all, I am so discouraged! Of course, I know the right thing to do, eat well and exercise, but I am letting me excuses get in the way of my successes.

I am not waiting until January 1st to try and get back on track though, I am starting today with a banana and organic crackers :happy: Let's see what happens the rest of the day.

I like to think of it with time goals. I have a soft goal, an optimistic goal and a hard goal, and they all vary according to a time table.

Say you need to lose 100 lbs. Think of a realistic burn rate. Say 1 lbs/week. So that should take you two years to reach. Aim a soft goal of 1.5 lbs/week (but smile at that and realize it's maybe not realistic), an optimistic goal of 1 lbs/week (which is your goal) and a hard goal of 0.5 lbs/week (which you MUST hit no matter what).

Break down your target month by month. Like by the end of January you should be 5 lbs less. That's your goal. What ever your weight is at the end of January, note the difference and aim a similar goal for the end of the next month. If it turns out you lost 10 lbs, don't take it for granted and blow your goals out of proportion. Just aim to keep that weight until the end of February. You might weight yourself two days later and be 2 lbs more, but it doesn't matter, because your goal is to be 10 lbs less total by the end of February, not to be 15 lbs less.

I did this last year and lost about 85 lbs so far. Today I'm 200, my goal is for end of February to be 185 lbs. That puts me at a burn rate of 890 calorie deficit per day, which I find easy if I'm not training hard.

My end goal was always 177 lbs, based on my lean body mass, but at 285 lbs initial, I just couldn't imagine that. I thought I have to go down to 270, then 250, then I got scientific about it and measured my averaged weight loss fluctuation over time, and found out I could burn 2,25 lbs/ week effortlessly for a while. It eventually became not possible to sustain that rate, and I hit a plateau for a while, but it didn't matter, because I was staying within my overall goal time frame.

As long as you are tracking an average weight loss over time, measure it and adjust strategy accordingly.

Good luck.

I'm with everyone else - definitely smaller goals, and more varied goals. When I was losing, I had goals of "1 stone lost" and "2 stone lost" (if you don't do stones, then "5 lbs lost" or "10 lbs lost" works the same.) I also had goals of getting below certain round numbers. So, scale-wise, I was reaching a goal every few pounds, one way or another. There was also the big achievement of getting into the "overweight" zone of the bmi, then "healthy". I now focus on body fat % rather than bmi, but at the time, that was motivating.

Then, there were the goals of fitting into certain clothes sizes, or even certain items of clothing.

Then, I started running, and there were the goals of "finish week 1 of couch25k", "finish week 2" etc, run a mile non-stop, run for 10 minutes non-stop. Run further, run faster...

Then I started lifting weights, and there are tons of goals there.

Perhaps most importantly, there are the goals and achievements that are related to how you're actually living. Some people celebrate number of days logging on MFP, or number of days without binge eating, or number of weeks where they have exercised at least 3x a week. The way to really be successful is to make true changes to how you're living, and that happens by making habits and sticking with them. So, make new habits, and celebrate sticking with them for x days, weeks, months etc

Try not to look at your goal weight as the be-all and end-all. On the one hand, as has already been said, this doesn't finish when you reach your goal. On the other hand, if you never reach your goal, that doesn't make all this hard work meaningless. You've lost 28 lbs, so you've already taken massive strides towards improving your health. Lose another 28 lbs, and your body will benefit even more. You'll feel better than you do now, so it'll be worth it. Then, it'll be worth it to lose the next chunk.

In maintenance, there are far fewer things to keep you motivated - no changes on the scale, or really noticeable changes in your body. You have to keep going anyway. I feel good each day though because I'm hitting my protein target (which I struggled with for a long time), because I'm exercising most days (when I used to be sedentary, and many around me still are), because every day I am developing a better relationship with food etc. This isn't just about weight, not just about numbers. Don't look at it as how far you've got to go, but how far you've already come, and how you are actively changing your life.

Try not to look at it as 100#.

A way I help my clients take the sting/stress out of a big goal such as that is to think of the 100 as being the top of a ladder, or a really big hill. Each small step towards that would be a rung on the ladder. Some days you will go up a step or two. Some days you may step back, but overall - you are still moving forward.

Small changes - say one thing each week. When you have mastered each change, add on a new one, but continue with the first one. Before you know it, there will be all sorts of amazing and new healthy habits being formed.

YOU CAN do this. You want it, just remember that.