Trusting a dietician.....

splixi
splixi Posts: 86 Member
I started my weightloss journey a while ago now and have lost a lot of weight and reached my target weight (and more). But like many people here we can get obsessive and not know when/how to stop. I've had a lot of problems because of this (that I won't go into)- but basically now my doctors want me to start learning to eat normally again. This scares me a lot! - i've spent so long counting every calorie that goes into my mouth and now I have to stop it. I'm being sent to a dietician who I assume will want to put me on a meal plan. I do NOT want to gain any weight and ruin all my hard work- should I just trust the dietician? People tell me they ask patients to eat a lot of food (like an unreasonable amount)....

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  • neanderthin
    neanderthin Posts: 10,207 Member
    Listen to what the dietitian has to say. It appears your Dr. has recognized an eating disorder and has referred you......People telling you that dietitians are making people gain weight is either paranoid or justified depending on the patient I would think.
  • A dietician is not going to get more patients or referrals by making them unhappy. You may be asked to step outside of your comfort zone in the sake of positive change. But I think if you embrace it and do as they tell you that you will prosper.

    I'm certain it is scary, but have faith and trust that these people have a lot of education and experience (often personal experience) that makes them more knowledgeable than us. Stay strong :)
  • splixi
    splixi Posts: 86 Member
    I might try to bargain with her. Because if she gives me something too hard then i'm just setting myself up to fail. I don't want to do this but I know that I have to because of my heart. I think it is just going to depend on how I feel on the day. If I even gain a tiny bit of weight I would no longer trust the plan. In my head it is all "people are trying to make me fat" - when I do know that they just want me to be healthy.
  • jess1992uga
    jess1992uga Posts: 603 Member
    I see a dietitian and trust is the hardest part. Also your fear of gaining and your fear of trusting someone with a degree in this is more evidence of an eating disorder. Trust me, I know because I have one. It's important if you want to be free of calorie counting and the obsession that you trust them COMPLETELY. Otherwise your obsession will still be in control, not you. If you don't want to stop calorie counting then don't go...you are just wasting your time and money. Reality is you won't change until at least a small part of you is willing to go to any lenghts to get better
    And they won't make you gain weight unless you need to
  • soupandcookies
    soupandcookies Posts: 212 Member
    I see a dietitian and trust is the hardest part. Also your fear of gaining and your fear of trusting someone with a degree in this is more evidence of an eating disorder. Trust me, I know because I have one. It's important if you want to be free of calorie counting and the obsession that you trust them COMPLETELY. Otherwise your obsession will still be in control, not you. If you don't want to stop calorie counting then don't go...you are just wasting your time and money. Reality is you won't change until at least a small part of you is willing to go to any lenghts to get better
    And they won't make you gain weight unless you need to

    Couldn't have said it better myself. You will have to be willing, and you will have to want it, if you are going to trust this person and follow the meal plan. By trying to "bargain" with the dietician, or trying to manipulate the plan, you will just be standing in your own way. It is up to you to decide whether or not you have the willingness. Like the above poster, I have struggled with eating disorders for my whole life, and I have realized that recovery is about being honest with myself about the problem, and being willing to live in the solution.
  • splixi
    splixi Posts: 86 Member
    I was diagnosed with an ED months ago.... I go through cycles where sometimes i'm interested in recovering and other times i'm not because it feels too hard. Reality of it is though that I need to change because i've been in hospital a few times already and had my heart almost stop. The hardest part is trying to make myself want to get better- because it is definitely the hardest of the two options.

    It is completely free for me to see the dietician but I know that looking at a meal plan my head would automatically decide what needs to be cut out. It is a vicious cycle.... if I worked up to more food I think i'd feel better about it- I can't just go all out at once. There are so many "rules" for which the plan must hold to. I think i'll be a dieticians worst nightmare....