My weight loss has nothing to do with your weight

Welcome jofjltncb6... You just happened to come in during a sensitive subject debate, so please don't let it scare you off.

You might want to look up the poster's history....trust me, he's been here a long time and he's not one to shy away... :laugh:

Welcome jofjltncb6... You just happened to come in during a sensitive subject debate, so please don't let it scare you off.

*looks around for the "debate"* Yea. Not really seeing much of that.

That's exactly why I try to not even bring up my goals to anyone besides my husband anymore! There's no nice way to say "I don't really care about your opinion on this," especially to family or close friends!

People are taking this as though you are speaking the them personally.
It's clear that you are speaking as if you are talking to that person that the rant was meant for.
People are just attacking you and being rude for no reason.
As for an actual response-- I completely understand how you feel. My own mother complains and rags on me for bettering myself, eating healthier, and getting into shape. Just because she is 200+ lbs and I am 140 lbs she thinks that since I already weigh so much less than HER that I have no reason to better myself and make myself happy with my health and my body. Your post took the words right out of my mouth that I would love to say to her every day. (We don't get along well anyways and that's a whole other history and story).

huh? who cares?

Welcome jofjltncb6... You just happened to come in during a sensitive subject debate, so please don't let it scare you off.

You might want to look up the poster's history....trust me, he's been here a long time and he's not one to shy away... :laugh:

Don't listen to this guy.

I'm actually very sensitive, frequently confused, and my feelings are easily hurt.

I'll try not to get scared...

...and will just hide over here in the corner...

...in the fetal position...

...sucking my thumb...

...sobbing inconsolably.

See what you people did with your rant shaming...

Now we'll never get to hear how he feels about this.

I know exactly what you are saying! and amen! I too have the same 5 to lose. Say what you want and be who you want. People get so serious on here, its why I don't ever come to the forums!

Yes!!!! I want to lose 5 more pounds

Yes !!! I know that you weight more than I do

No, me wanting to lower my body fat % is not a critique about your weight.

I know you would kill to look like me

I work hard to be healthy and I do it for myself and my family.......it has nothing to do with you.

(End rant)

I understand. It can get frustrating when you are doing something for your own reasons, and people with issues on that subject take it as an insult. It's an important life lesson to learn - in general, what someone else does is not about you, it's about them.

Yes!!!! I want to lose 5 more pounds

Yes !!! I know that you weight more than I do

No, me wanting to lower my body fat % is not a critique about your weight.

I know you would kill to look like me

I work hard to be healthy and I do it for myself and my family.......it has nothing to do with you.

(End rant)

I understand. It can get frustrating when you are doing something for your own reasons, and people with issues on that subject take it as an insult. It's an important life lesson to learn - in general, what someone else does is not about you, it's about them.

The sad part is, currently I don't tell people I'm losing weight b/c I know they wouldn't disagree and say that I should stay how I am but would chime in with crazy ideas. Then when I'm closer to goal weight I won't be able to say it and show off my almost there status b/c they will be telling me that I should just stay how I am. Then at maintenance it will just sound like a brag. Overall I really don't see when IRL it's a good idea to talk about weight goals with ppl.

I wish I could edit my first post.

I was ranting because last week I was invited to diner at a friend, her other friend I did not know was there also. When we made a list of our goals and wishes for 2014, one of the item was to lose the last 5 pounds. The lady said " if you think you need to lose 5 pounds what does that make me? A whale? If I looked like you I would not complain about it"

End of story

Shoulda said, "If I looked like you I would not draw attention to my weight."

End of story.

Just kidding, in the moment it's so hard to think of the right come back and most ppl don't like to be rude back to a rude person. HOWEVER i am getting to the point where I like to reply almost verbatim to a rude person b/c if I am using precisely their sentence structure or logic flaw they cannot call me rude without pointing the finger at themselves. This is after years and years and years of sucking it up when any comeback to someone else's rude comment would only put me on blast. Ppls rude comments are waning.

I wish I could edit my first post.

I was ranting because last week I was invited to diner at a friend, her other friend I did not know was there also. When we made a list of our goals and wishes for 2014, one of the item was to lose the last 5 pounds. The lady said " if you think you need to lose 5 pounds what does that make me? A whale? If I looked like you I would not complain about it"

End of story

No wonder you were upset. There is no reason for anyone to make comments like that. Comments like that are all about the other person.

People are taking this as though you are speaking the them personally.
It's clear that you are speaking as if you are talking to that person that the rant was meant for.
People are just attacking you and being rude for no reason.
As for an actual response-- I completely understand how you feel. My own mother complains and rags on me for bettering myself, eating healthier, and getting into shape. Just because she is 200+ lbs and I am 140 lbs she thinks that since I already weigh so much less than HER that I have no reason to better myself and make myself happy with my health and my body. Your post took the words right out of my mouth that I would love to say to her every day. (We don't get along well anyways and that's a whole other history and story).

^this!

Yep....

But if you 'know I would kill to look like you', then you made it about me. No, your loss has nothing to do with my weight, and who I would kill to look like is none of your damned business, either.

I hope that was a quote from someone Otherwise the logic is a bit faulty. You do your thing and I'll do mine, and please don't assume everyone is just jealous of you. That's obnoxious as hell!

Lol I am not that full of myself believe me. It has been said to me. I don't believe people are jealous of me, what hurt is that because I am "thinner then they are" I have no right to be unhappy about my body.

Am I missing something here? Do you personally know all the responses that assume you are saying that they are jealous or want to be you noise...like offline?

I just took it as an old fashion rant. Didn't think it applied to me.

But then again, I could be wrong.

I wish I could edit my first post.

I was ranting because last week I was invited to diner at a friend, her other friend I did not know was there also. When we made a list of our goals and wishes for 2014, one of the item was to lose the last 5 pounds. The lady said " if you think you need to lose 5 pounds what does that make me? A whale? If I looked like you I would not complain about it"

End of story

I understand why you were upset and it was out of line for the person to say anything. However, I kind of get where she's coming from. My husband had gained a lot of weight, then worked hard, took it all off, and is now in maintenance. I'm currently trying to lose the baby weight from the second child. Sometimes he makes comments about stuff that bothers him about his body, which I get - he hasn't hit quite where he wants to be yet. But the way it comes out, I end up feeling like "wow, if he's so disgusted by that tiny issue when he looks great, what must he think of me?" Not his fault, not his issue, and he's not making me feel that way - but I do.

Again, I don't think she should have said anything, but I don't think it was done to attack you as much as seeking some kind of reassurance from the group that they don't find her repulsive.