I suck at birthday parties---Rant

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  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    I don't make accommodations for those coming to a party I'm hosting. If you know you're allergic to peanuts and you don't tell me, don't get upset to find peanut butter cookies hanging around. It's a party, I would assume soda would be available to drink. If I didn't drink soda, I would bring something for myself. My husband actually doesn't drink soda, so he brings lemonade wherever he goes because he doesn't expect anyone to cater to him.
  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    Seriously...don't worry about it. I'm always somewhat shocked what parents go through nowadays for b-day parties for their kids...when I was growing up, we just ordered pizza and I had 2 or 3 friends over to spend the night. It was always a blast, and I don't feel I missed out on childhood for not having massive parties. Relax!

    PS...if *I* had refused to drink the water growing up and complained about being thirsty, my mom probably would have taken me and spanked me for not being a gracious guest. :laugh:
  • Trostlegirl33
    Trostlegirl33 Posts: 6 Member
    I love how a good vent or "rant" in my case can help move the crazy out! lol :wink: thanks guys! Officially changed title in my mind to, party was kick a**...because we liked it.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    First off, stop beating yourself up. You made a mistake. You're human - we all do it!! Your friend is a complete jerk for rubbing your face in it... Maybe instead she should've noticed that you were a nervous wreck, felt bad about forgetting and offered to go to the store for you. And if her kid is that fussy about tap water, she should make sure she brings her precious child's drink of choice with her all the time, not expect everyone else to cater to her. Seriously...what is wrong with people these days?

    Second, instead of feeling bad for yourself, read over some of these suggestions, put some thought into how to handle it better next time. Definitely start asking for help. It's impossible to make everyone happy and you can drive yourself nuts making sure you cover all the allergies, intolerances and preferences. So maybe next time you ask the parents to bring their child's favorite beverage. You could still provide something to drink but that way some of the pressure is off.

    Or in the future if you forget and someone brings it up maybe say "would you mind going to the store to pick up a case or a few gallons of bottled water? I'll watch your kids and reimburse you when you return".
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    her daughter doesn't want to drink faucet water so she keeps saying she is thirsty.

    Oh hell with that. A starving dog will not die in front of a full bowl of food. The KID doesn't care, that is a reflection of the MOTHER. Try not to let it bother you, you will never make all the moms happy. Someone will ALWAYS be catty about SOMETHING.

    ETA this gem:
    PS...if *I* had refused to drink the water growing up and complained about being thirsty, my mom probably would have taken me and spanked me for not being a gracious guest.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    I love how a good vent or "rant" in my case can help move the crazy out! lol :wink: thanks guys! Officially changed title in my mind to, party was kick a**...because we liked it.

    LIKE!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I feel like you should be proud that your kid isn't a whiny little brat like hers. She shouldn't be so spoiled that she could turn her nose up at something offered to her.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    My family is about as high maintenance as you can get! We're gluten free, corn free and have several food allergies. I would never assume that the person throwing a party should cater to our needs so if my kids go to a party we always bring things we know we can eat and drink. Often my friends will let me know they've made sure they have a gluten free pizza or something like that but that's because I have wonderful friends.

    My opinion is that it's your friends who suck, not you!
  • kittenful
    kittenful Posts: 318 Member
    I love how a good vent or "rant" in my case can help move the crazy out! lol :wink: thanks guys! Officially changed title in my mind to, party was kick a**...because we liked it.

    This is excellent! ^_^
  • KrazyDaizy
    KrazyDaizy Posts: 815 Member
    In the grand scheme of life this stuff isn't important. If someone has a problem with the FREE stuff you provided to them tell them to STFU. Life is too short to take people seriously who criticize you for something so minimal. I get being a perfectionist, but we all make mistakes. All we can do is learn from them and, in my case, laugh at myself A LOT.

    Is your child healthy? Are you healthy? Is your child happy? Are you happy? Are you trying to help make this world more tolerable and happy for others? These are things that are important.
  • MooMooooo
    MooMooooo Posts: 306 Member
    Your friend is kind of a dilhole.

    She could also be referred to as a 'frenemy'

    Seriously, I know you're feeling much better now but this so called 'friend' of yours isn't good for you.

    If you get flustered easily and have obvious difficulty throwing kids parties then why is she making things harder for you?

    Not only that, but bringing up her issues with you the next day?

    Toxic, toxic, toxic.

    You need friends who calm your nerves and reassure you kindly, not frazzle you unkindly and unsympathetically.

    Take responsibility and get some real friends before you ruin your life.

    This would be the best birthday gift for your daughter - a mother who stands up for herself and demands kindness and gratitude.

    *kisses*
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    meanwhile in africa...

    girl-collecting-water.jpg

    Underrated post.

    We used to drink from the freakin hose for crying out loud. I didn't die.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    You apolgoized- the only other VIABLE (realistic) option- knowing it was a forgotten thing (and water is a thing- it's not like a completely superflous extra- it's water- there should be water somewhere- which clearly there was so again- NOT a crisis)...
    anyway- since she didn't OFFER to go get some- the next best thing would have been for you to say-
    "Oh I'm sorry I forgot-my mistake- here's five bucks- can you go to the gas station and buy a 24 pack for us so we can continue to clutter up the land fills with plastic wasteful bottles because your kid is to picky to drink clean water from the tap"


    or some such.

    You did great- a club house- for a 3 year old? that's a feat. Come on- I was happy I got ONE surprise party as a kid. My parents made my birthday's specials but they certainly didn't jump through hoops and over the moon for me. They are kids- not royalty.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    You're overthinking this WAY too much.

    This was meant to be about YOUR DAUGHTER, not the rest of the people.

    1.) Did YOUR daughter have a good time? If the answer is yes, FORGET if anyone else had a good time, as it was your daughter's special day AND NOT the rest of the people. They're just lucky enough to have come along for the ride to celebrate her special day.

    Don't sweat it.

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