I feel terrible

spchandr
spchandr Posts: 22
in Motivation and Support
While waiting for steady / slow weight loss, I feel terrible about my current weight. I've never been so heavy in my entire life and I feel very unattractive as a result.

How can I feel more confident in my own skin, when I feel so "fat" ?

I wish I could speed up my weight loss somehow, but I'm already at 1200 calories doing the best I can.

:-(

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  • Shuuma
    Shuuma Posts: 465 Member
    What helps me is knowing that I am already the size I want to be and I have to just work to get rid of the layers to show what that size is.

    Use your discomfort as motivation to keep moving and eating a deficit. Log everything and weighing your food helps too. You will start to see changes that will keep you going!

    Hang in there!
  • bluesy8899
    bluesy8899 Posts: 68 Member
    I still have quite a ways to go but am gaining an appreciation of my body through exercise. I am appreciating how my body gets stronger and how my endurance is increasing. That alone makes me feel more confident in myself regardless of the weight I have to lose. I feel good about my progress and that helps with negative thoughts I have about my attractiveness or self confidence.
  • Joannesmith2818
    Joannesmith2818 Posts: 438 Member
    Patience is really the key here. It can be frustrating when its slow, but just focus on going in the right direction day by day and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel :)
  • allen_ac
    allen_ac Posts: 64 Member
    Positive thinking!

    Think about what you want to be, not what you don't want to be.
    Tell yourself "I want to be healthier, I want to be fit" rather than "I don't like feeling unattractive
    You have your mindset of this negative outlook on yourself and it plays somewhat of a factor in what you accomplish
    Be happy with who you are, no matter how you look, how much you weigh or what other people think of you
    As long as you are on the mission to be a stronger version of yourself, you are on the right track
    You should be proud that you are at least taking the steps to a healthier you, which many other people struggle to start with in the first place

    The way i think of it is, If you've learnt how to count calories and you are counting calories, your efforts are already so much better than those who decide to sit on the couch and not even give their own health and safety a second thought.

    Take little steps in what you want to accomplish. Instead of wanting to lose 10lbs, aim for 5lbs first. Don't dwell on your thoughts everyday, live your life with some enjoyment, take the stress from your brain and body by feeling good. You may not think you feel good physically, but that doesn't mean you can't feel good mentally, it helps both ways

    Don't give up and stay strong. People will support you here and your friends and family will too, because you've taken positive steps forward already, just keep on that path as best as you can. Expect to fall off a little here and there, but the big picture is what's important. You will look better than you do now in a few months time, 6 months time, in 1 year.

    Remember it's a marathon not a sprint
  • Mellyajc
    Mellyajc Posts: 142 Member
    Try to focus less on what your body looks like (and especially what number a scale shows) and more on what your body can DO! Our bodies are awesome and help us do so many things! Fitness isn't just about making our body look a certain way, it's about honoring ourselves and appreciating all it gives us. I have legs, so I run! The more I worked to lose weight, the less my weight mattered. I exercise in part because it feels good, and I want to honor myself to be healthy.

    Set multiple goals, not just about weight loss. What about effort? Can you do more reps of something today than you could yesterday? Celebrate that! Know you're taking the right steps? Be proud of that!
  • notnikkisixx
    notnikkisixx Posts: 375 Member
    There's no trick here, you just need to appreciate the fact that you have a body that works and that you started your weight-loss journey before things got worse!

    On a different note, your profile says you only have 15 pounds to lose. 1200 calories is INCREDIBLY low for such a low weight loss and you may find yourself starving. Try upping your calories to 1400, I've been steadily losing weight by staying around 1400 and am finding it much easier than when I was trying to stick around 1200.

    Good luck!
  • hmaddpear
    hmaddpear Posts: 610 Member
    I still have quite a ways to go but am gaining an appreciation of my body through exercise. I am appreciating how my body gets stronger and how my endurance is increasing. That alone makes me feel more confident in myself regardless of the weight I have to lose. I feel good about my progress and that helps with negative thoughts I have about my attractiveness or self confidence.

    This. I also am very self-conscious about my weight, but the walking and body resistance exercises I'm doing mean that I'm getting stronger and fitter. It's quite a bump to the old self-esteem when you find you can now do something (e.g. climb five flights of stairs) which you couldn't do five weeks ago.

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