Don't understand my own thoughts/feelings

I know you are going through a lot, and not being happy with your body is tough... I've been there. Sometimes the number on the scale can be the same but your body composition may be different. For example I weigh 10 lbs more than I did last year but I LOOK more fit. I am unhappy with the scale weight but happy with the visual. Check your body fat %. The amount of Muscle vs. Fat makes a difference when it comes to how FIT you look and or feel. When I finish my weight loss journey I will be aiming to maintain a good amount of muscle and keep the body fat percentage low!


Do you lift weights?
How quickly did you lose all the weight?
did you eat a healthy diet?
These things all matter.

BEST of luck!

Hey girl!

I'm 5'11 and know how you feel! I used to weigh about 140lbs and gained a good 10 pounds a year until I hit 205. I'm down to 183 and feel better than ever. I sometimes look in the mirror and see a trim, beautiful girl, but other times see a girl who needs to lose at least 20 more pounds. I attribute a lot of this to height. I think that being so tall has always made me feel very "big" next to other girls and I just want to be "small" and have people stop commenting on how "not normal" I am. The emphasis on height makes me want to control my weight because it's something I can control.

At 165, I can tell you that you look FABulous! My goal weight is 160, but I'll be very, very lean at that weight! Look in the mirror again and see how beautiful your body is! A lot of times we still see the chubby girl with off of her insecurities and look right past how great we really look! Hope this helps, oxox

Yes I too think that it takes time for our vision of ourselves in the mirror to be 20:20, there is so much to adjust to and especially where negative feelings are wrapped up in there too. Do bear in mind that your body could well be different post pregnancy to pre pregnancy regardless of what the scale tells you (for me it is age I weigh what I did 20 years ago BUT my bod aint the same lol!)

Give yourself time to adjust, try to enjoy your change in stats on an intellectual level and try to note the benefits to you for having dropped the weight and eventually your emotional responses may just get their act together.

IF you find that your negative feelings continue or grow, do consider seeking professional help as there is always the possibility that there could be post natal depression to some degree - and this is eminently treatable if it is the case get treated!

lastly congratulations on your return to a healthy weight, you have done fantastically well!

I completely understand sweetheart ***HUG***

First off, I think its hard to visualize the new me when we've spent so much time angry and miserable with the old me. My brain still doesn't accept the fact that I've lost weight even when my pants sizes are so much smaller. This isn't every day and that thought process is beginning to change. Take a deep breath, and give yourself some time. Look at where you've come from and where you are now. Clothes are such a great factor.

Another thing is, this was PRE-baby. When I was thin before I had my son...which would have been when I was 16, I never doubted what I put in or out of my mouth and just felt great. Our bodies are different now whether you have stretch marks or not. You've had two beautiful children! Your body paid the price. We are getting older...there are SO many odds working against us!

One thing that I've been doing to help combat the mirror is really work out. Its my me time. Its the time that I fight the negative voices in my head and I say HEY! I'm doing what I need to do to stay toned and fit! Zumba, kickboxing and running! My three go to's! And you don't have to belong to a gym to do them! ) Find what out what your nitch is and do it! And 8 times out of ten...my three year old is right there doing the moves with me...or jumping on my back for floor work...SO! Ha ha! It makes the workout way more intense!!

One last ***HUG*** and one last...you have done the work lady....now ENJOY IT! )

I feel what your going through, I am 5 3 and before pregnancy I weight 150, which is slightly over weight, I never got compliments like you, however I felt good in my own skin, I knew that I needed to loose about 10 but I was fine. I have 2 children 3 and 1.5. While pregnant I went from 150 to 170ish after I had her I didnt loose the weight and I gained a bit, then with my son I felt so bad I did the best I could not to gain and gained only 4lbs. After all was said and done I weighed in at a wopping 177lbs I felt horrible, fat, lazy and depressed, so I started my weight loss journy over a year ago now. I went from 177 to 131, I havent been this small since in my early 20's. I feel great, I feel confident and beatiful, I get compliments all the time about how great I look and how slim I am and how lucky I am to look so wonderful after 2 babies. However, when I look in the mirror I still see the fat girl, and feel her. I was a size 14 before my weight loss and now I am a size 4, yet every time I put on my new closes or my skinny freinds clothes I feel like I am stretching them,that I really dont fit them, I'm just squishing in them, then I look at a picture and I am like wow look how slim I am. I think for me I felt bad about myself for so long, that my head feels comfy there, if I dont feel good about myself maybe I wont be dissapointed. Or maybe I am in some kind of denial about how good I really do look. However, its slowly getting better, I now look in the mirror and sometimes see that my arms are skinny, or I have a tiny waist. I now put on my size 4 clothes and new ones too, and think I am streching, but its fallowed by I cant strech EVERYTHING, especially jeans So then I know I am not streching or squising into my clothes and feel truly good about myself that I have to go check my self out. Then my husband catches me. I think these thoughts and feeling are normal for a person after loosing weight, I have 2 freinds whom join me on my quest to loose the weight and they too went from large sizes down to smaller then pre preggy sizes and have the same thoughts and feelings, and they too are slowly adjusting those thoughts and feelings.

Hope this helps, sorry about spelling and puntuation, not a strong point
Candice