How do I get over my fear of Sugar?

MizzTweezy
MizzTweezy Posts: 250 Member
in Food and Nutrition
Oh gosh where do I begin? I cut out sugar in my life for a year, replaced it with splenda, still ate fruit and stuff and sometimes ate some no added sugar products like 40 calorie fudge pops, but around the holidays I lost control... I gained back 30 pounds or so.... I went ballistic! I finally said ok, I'm going to try this again... I wasn't tracking crap... I have an issue with moderation, once I start I can't stop.. I have not found the willpower to do it yet. Once I get the taste of something I really want, cake, ice cream, cookies whatever it is I will eat it ALL!!! I am so afraid of sugar unless it comes from fruits. But I know the holidays will come again, and it will be a repeated cycle. I know women are supposed to have 20 grams of sugar a day or so. I am also a lap band patient . I am on quite a strict calorie intake, and they have in my brain PROTIEN PROTIEN! I don't have my band very tight right now. I am in the middle of switching providers since my Dr retired, and trying to get a little closer to home, so the paperwork is being sent to this new place, that will hopefully accept me.

I know also that if I stay under my calorie intake that sugar won't stop weight loss. But I read something about keeping your blood sugar levels balanced, aids in weight loss as well. Me being on such a low calorie restriction, I would really hate to use up all my calories on junk. But man I need a fix sometimes too.. LOL I guess I might be all over the place with this post.. Maybe I am just wishing one day I can eat things I enjoy in moderation like normal people. Or maybe I am afraid I will never be able to because of the surgery I had, and will lead to failure anyways.. I guess I feel confused. Looking for advise and support...

I mean if I eat a piece of cake, If I could just eat a piece of cake with frosting, I'm sure that would be my entire calorie intake for the day... It can't be a small piece though.. I want the piece with the flower :tongue:

Somebody talk to me...

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  • AlabasterVerve
    AlabasterVerve Posts: 3,171 Member
    Moderation isn't for everyone. You know that, you've experienced it... you've had SURGERY because you couldn't moderate what you're eating. Why torture yourself and make everyday a struggle by trying to eat like a "normal" person?

    Cut out the junk and trigger foods, reduce your carbs and eat plenty of protein and fat like your doctor recommends. The cravings will go away. You can deal with the holidays again next year -- just get back on track now. I really feel your pain and hope you work it out. Best wishes.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    So I'm 100% clear...you regained 30 pounds *after* having the band installed?
  • MizzTweezy
    MizzTweezy Posts: 250 Member
    Yes the junk food is the easiest thing to get through the band to be honest. Right now my band is not at the level it should be, I haven't had a fill in a year and a half, I need to get readjusted. So right now is like excuse my language Hell trying to do 800 calories a day...
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    You simply have to find the discipline.

    You *are* capable of doing it, it *is* a choice.

    There is no other answer.
  • MizzTweezy
    MizzTweezy Posts: 250 Member
    Yes, I am trying my best. I am sure I will feel better when I actually have the fill done to the right restriction. It's just this time inbetween. I shouldn't have went this long without transferring, so I blame myself for that. I am guessing I will feel better when I am feeling full again. I guess I just got to accept I will never be a moderation person, and start looking up some recipes that might at least satisfy me in some way.
  • TexanRose01
    TexanRose01 Posts: 5
    I know this sounds odd but there are actual therapies for this. I had a 6 yo foster that was actually addicted to sugar if we totally removed it 100% she was ok but if it was within 10 feet she consumed it all she would literally eat plain sugar straight out of the bag. You obviously are not that bad but even without a full out addiction you could benefit from this
  • MizzTweezy
    MizzTweezy Posts: 250 Member
    I know this sounds odd but there are actual therapies for this. I had a 6 yo foster that was actually addicted to sugar if we totally removed it 100% she was ok but if it was within 10 feet she consumed it all she would literally eat plain sugar straight out of the bag. You obviously are not that bad but even without a full out addiction you could benefit from this

    Really? Hey I have had therapy for things before, like my car accident, it was odd but it worked, I don't remember what it was called but I held these vibrating buds in my hands and I don't know how it worked, but it stopped the vivid flashbacks, it worked so well. So I really have faith in these things. Do you know what kind of therapy it was? Thanks
  • mniakm
    mniakm Posts: 12
    Honestly, I am no psychotherapist but I am similar in my "need for the junk food fix" and I am aware of how it affects me. For me, it is not just sugar, it is salty foods like chips too. I have struggled with this too and what I have figured out is that when I binge like that, it is because I am trying to get some sort of satisfaction. But, I realize that after eating "whatever it was this time", I still feel that same feeling of lack. Bottom line - food is not going to fill that void, so start to look deeper in you to find out what you are really looking for. There is an acronym called FLAB, and describes the 4 reasons we binge/overeat - because we are Frustrated, Lonely, Angry or Bored. This really sums it up. Maybe you do not have any serious issues, but you eat because you like it! Well, there is nothing wrong with food/sugar as long as you control it and IT does NOT control you...be aware of that...good luck.
  • AlabasterVerve
    AlabasterVerve Posts: 3,171 Member
    Honestly, I am no psychotherapist but I am similar in my "need for the junk food fix" and I am aware of how it affects me. For me, it is not just sugar, it is salty foods like chips too. I have struggled with this too and what I have figured out is that when I binge like that, it is because I am trying to get some sort of satisfaction. But, I realize that after eating "whatever it was this time", I still feel that same feeling of lack. Bottom line - food is not going to fill that void, so start to look deeper in you to find out what you are really looking for. There is an acronym called FLAB, and describes the 4 reasons we binge/overeat - because we are Frustrated, Lonely, Angry or Bored. This really sums it up. Maybe you do not have any serious issues, but you eat because you like it! Well, there is nothing wrong with food/sugar as long as you control it and IT does NOT control you...be aware of that...good luck.
    Or perhaps it really is the food you're eating (or not eating) that's driving that compulsion to overeat and the emotions you were feeling at the time were a coincidence? Just a thought.
  • prattiger65
    prattiger65 Posts: 1,657 Member
    Stop making excuses. If you need help, get it now, whether that is a therapist, a doctor, or a personal trainer. Stop making excuses and get it done. You absolutely CAN do this!!!
  • neanderthin
    neanderthin Posts: 10,217 Member
    Get some professional help with your eating disorder, it will help.
  • Shellz31
    Shellz31 Posts: 214 Member
    Honestly, I am no psychotherapist but I am similar in my "need for the junk food fix" and I am aware of how it affects me. For me, it is not just sugar, it is salty foods like chips too. I have struggled with this too and what I have figured out is that when I binge like that, it is because I am trying to get some sort of satisfaction. But, I realize that after eating "whatever it was this time", I still feel that same feeling of lack. Bottom line - food is not going to fill that void, so start to look deeper in you to find out what you are really looking for. There is an acronym called FLAB, and describes the 4 reasons we binge/overeat - because we are Frustrated, Lonely, Angry or Bored. This really sums it up. Maybe you do not have any serious issues, but you eat because you like it! Well, there is nothing wrong with food/sugar as long as you control it and IT does NOT control you...be aware of that...good luck.
    Or perhaps it really is the food you're eating (or not eating) that's driving that compulsion to overeat and the emotions you were feeling at the time were a coincidence? Just a thought.

    Food can contribute to how you feel more than most care to admit. I dealt with depression for years. While I've had it under control for quite a while now, when I have a bad eating week it's quickly followed by low mood, very poor quality sleep, and slower body movements, all of which are markers of depression. The bad eating comes first, the symptoms second. But the symptoms dampen motivation and can lead to bad eating, then you get stuck in a downward spiral.

    I know, for me, eating right contributes greatly to feeling better.
  • ernestbecker
    ernestbecker Posts: 232 Member
    overeating is no more a food issue than alcoholism is an alcohol issue or a pornography a sex issue. It's either a self-control issue or a cover-up to a deeper problem. See a counselor and find out what's really going on so you can live healthy. It's bad enough when we get messed up on the inside and doubled when we get messed up on the outside.

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