Too fat to date to hot single mom..

My confidence is through the roof now :bigsmile:

And as far as guys that wouldn't date me then but would now, to be honest, I kind of get it. It really depends on the guy. If he was a douche back then, then for sure no BUT if he was nice and we remained friends or acquaintances then yeah, I think I would give it a shot

There was a guy I was paired up to walk in a wedding with. I was the maid of honor and he best man. This guy was just a guy to me. I had no interest. Well halfway through the wedding he pulled me aside and said to me. "Look you are a nice girl, but you're too big for me". I looked at him and asked. "Are you effing smoking crack?" Basically, I have always been confident. However to be honest now days, I feel that I can publicly tell Aholes to go Phuck themselves.

My confidence has nothing to do with my weight. I had to 'fake it 'til I made it' for my job, so it naturally spilled over into my personal life.

My boss is the service excellence manager at my hospital, which means she pretty much handles complaints coming from everywhere, from employees, from doctors, from patients & their families... it's a tough job. She's passed her knowledge of how to talk with people effectively, and it's helped me tremendously. I hold my head up in the halls, I greet everyone I see, I've even started talking with random people, at work and out in stores and whatnot. It took a lot of work and well, courage, on my part, but I'm so glad I had someone to back me up and help me along.

When I turned 35, I decided I didn't want to be the shy wall-flower any longer. I had moved to a day-shift position from midnights, and it was the turn around I needed. I HAD to be more talkative and confident, so those I dealt with in other departments would take me seriously as a Lead (I have always been the youngest in my dept). I'd say it's taken just over a year to build up my confidence level to a point I can even carry on a normal conversation with the hot EMS guys, without blushing! :laugh:

OP, that guy lost out. Just sayin'. You're probably a really awesome person, and he's probably sitting at home right now pullin' his pud and watching *kitten*.

Two years ago I got the, " You are just too big" speech from a guy that I wanted to date. Have recently heard comments about being a hot single mom. I still have a long way to go but being more than half way to goal my confidence is increasing day by day.

How has your weight loss, healthy living, eating better affected your confidence?

Umm.. Where have i heard that before?

Orh Yeah..my own cardiologist doctor said that to my face in year 2008 when I was 242lbs, went for health screening package.

Now..I am one 'hot mama'. My age doesnt show well of how I look now..
From a sentence of my doctor ' You didnt broke the treadmill machine..did you?' ,enough to change me ..now you see how I am :laugh: :laugh:

You all are welcome to view my profile photos..if curious to see how obese I was last time.

In clothes, my confidence is a million percent better....without clothes, ehhh...that one is still tough. :ohwell:

My confidence hasn't really changed much. I have never had much confidence regarding my looks, no matter my weight. Actually being on MFP and interacting with my awesome friends has done more for my confidence than the weight loss.

Nope, my weight has never made a difference to me in regards to dating. There is always going to be someone who is/isn't attracted to me for whatever reason, and the same applies in reverse. I tend not to worry too much about it.

BINGO it hasn't change one bit people don't like me period. i don't play sports, i don't drink, but i'm honest and loyal. just looking for my equal half sad

Never been fat but since I've been lifting I now have the confidence to pick fights with random strangers.

"This week, each one of you has a homework assignment. You're gonna go out, you're gonna start a fight with a total stranger...(pause, drooling blood)...You're gonna start a fight and you're gonna lose."

Hey! Hey! Hey! The first rule of Fight Club is; you do not talk about Fight Club!

In clothes, my confidence is a million percent better....without clothes, ehhh...that one is still tough. :ohwell:

I feel you on the with out clothes thing

I am so wary of dating now ... the loose skin ...pretty sure no one would want to get naked with me now

*sigh* weight loss is so weird

I feel you too..w/out clothes, i dont think I look good enough..all those loose skins,flabby arms..darn..:noway:

I'm with you ladies. I have confidence but the moment clothes come off I'm using the sheets for a toga to hide my body.

I will never be completely confident and have a ton of self-esteem. But I have way more than I did. For a while after my ex cheated I felt totally disposable, and invisible. But losing weight and looking better now than I did before has made a big difference. I still see a fat girl when I look in the mirror a lot. And I still sometimes am surprised when an attractive person approaches me. It's weird losing weight.