Newlywed food advice

Have you spoken to him? Would he be willing to indulge in his irresistible favorites say at lunch and make choices that you can both enjoy for the meals you eat together?

I know what you mean as it's the same in my newlywed household: here are some ways which I manage staying on track with a junk food loving husband:

Designate "junk food nights" like maybe one night once a week or every two weeks that you are able to have a calorie splurge on the better part of a pizza, or chicken wings with lots and lots of blue cheese dip or whatever other indulgence there is.

Cook yummy yet healthy dinners that you guys can enjoy together - that solves the problem of not having the bad food in the house all the time, but hopefully with awesome dinners like a steak salad, or asian summer rolls, or burgers on a whole wheat bun with xtra lean ground beef or ground turkey he won't feel "deprived". Example: my chip loving husband also looks forward to kale chips or broccoli roasted with sea salt. There are a lot of healthier foods that you can jazz up to make taste "unhealthy". Even pizza for example, you could do home made, and use a whole wheat crust or cauliflower crust and add healthy toppings like lots of veggies and skim mozzarella instead of double cheese/double chorizo or whatever man pizza he probably orders?!

In our house, we try and eat a meal that is tasty/relatively healthy most nights, and then my husband makes up for the meal by splurging on dessert that he brings in the house and are out of sight out of mind to me until he is having twinkies or a reese chocolate bar..while I am having my dessert of no sugar jello and cool whip - to be honest, most nights I look forward to my low cal dessert and am totally satsified.

Good luck!!!!!

I agree with those who suggest that your husband needs to support you. There are ways to do that without necessarily cutting out things he enjoys, though. For example, if you get pizza, set aside one serving each, then wrap and freeze/refrigerate the rest before you sit down to eat. Have celery or salad on hand for eating after you finish the pizza. A big problem with a lot of junk food, and other things that encourage overeating (a good pizza isn't necessarily junk, after all) is that they can encourage you to take a little more, and then a little more after that…. By measuring out portions ahead of time, you can include them in your daily planning. I do that with things I cook, too: I use MFP's recipe builder to enter all the ingredients, figure out calories per serving, then divide up the food into 2-serving containers for my wife and me: one for dinner, one for later in the week, and if it's a big batch, additional containers for the freezer. Then when I thaw them out, I know I have two servings and won't be tempted to pick at leftovers.

If your dwelling has room, you might also give him his own pantry, maybe even with a lock, where he can keep snacks that he wants to eat but you want to avoid.

I agree with those who suggest that your husband needs to support you. There are ways to do that without necessarily cutting out things he enjoys, though. For example, if you get pizza, set aside one serving each, then wrap and freeze/refrigerate the rest before you sit down to eat. Have celery or salad on hand for eating after you finish the pizza. A big problem with a lot of junk food, and other things that encourage overeating (a good pizza isn't necessarily junk, after all) is that they can encourage you to take a little more, and then a little more after that…. By measuring out portions ahead of time, you can include them in your daily planning. I do that with things I cook, too: I use MFP's recipe builder to enter all the ingredients, figure out calories per serving, then divide up the food into 2-serving containers for my wife and me: one for dinner, one for later in the week, and if it's a big batch, additional containers for the freezer. Then when I thaw them out, I know I have two servings and won't be tempted to pick at leftovers.

If your dwelling has room, you might also give him his own pantry, maybe even with a lock, where he can keep snacks that he wants to eat but you want to avoid.

My husband and I do the same thing with pre-portioning. We bought an extra freezer with wedding present money and keep lots of pre-portioned, healthy food out there. So, if I am absolutely starved, I have to thaw and reheat extras (which gives me time to evaluate my hunger), as well as keeps me from eating the whole container of enchiladas!

So the last time I did this I lost about 70 pounds. Then I got lazy. I gained every last pound back. Sigh.... So I'm starting over. However, I have a new concern that I didn't have last time. I just got married a little over 2 months ago and am now living with my husband. My husband is about 100 pounds lighter than me and can pretty much eat whatever he wants. It's so maddening!

Here's my concern: He always says it's about calories in/calories out. Which is true. However, when he can just be satisfied eating 2 pieces of pizza I want to eat the whole dang thing!! It's easier for me if all of the junk food is out of sight out of mind, but he doesn't understand that it's so much harder for me to say "no" than it is for him. When I lived alone the junk didn't come in unless I purchased it, and I didn't purchase it because I didn't want to eat it. I realize that this is my journey and he shouldn't be penalized for my complete lack of willpower, but what do I do?!

it sounds like you've got a few wires crossed. you say your husband can eat whatever he wants, yet you state that he only has two slices of pizza and is satisfied, while you want to eat the whole thing.

i think that you should try and draw some inspiration from your husband and just have the two slices. if he does bring home a whole pizza, take half of it and wrap it in tinfoil and put it in the freezer for another day.

I think it is unfair to decide to lose weight and ask a spouse, who has no problem with weight, to not have the foods they like to eat in their own home.

I do think that spouses should be supportive but this only extends so far. My husband tries to be mindful when cooking and shopping but, in the end, I think it is up to me to learn how to say no. So, if he makes something that I don't want to eat (for whatever reason) I make something for myself. Or, if it is calorie dense but I still want some I'll have a small portion and then supplement with extra veggies.

But, I think it is unfair to tell him that he can't save his nightly ice cream just because I don't think I can control myself.

I think it is unfair to decide to lose weight and ask a spouse, who has no problem with weight, to not have the foods they like to eat in their own home.

I do think that spouses should be supportive but this only extends so far. My husband tries to be mindful when cooking and shopping but, in the end, I think it is up to me to learn how to say no. So, if he makes something that I don't want to eat (for whatever reason) I make something for myself. Or, if it is calorie dense but I still want some I'll have a small portion and then supplement with extra veggies.

But, I think it is unfair to tell him that he can't save his nightly ice cream just because I don't think I can control myself.

^ All of that. If you can't control yourself, OP, then that is your problem and your issues that need resolving.

At first I thought this was going to be the typical thing where both partners eat the same thing and therefore the wife gains weight because of lower metabolic rate. It sounds like you might have a bingeing problem though, which is entirely your responsibility and will take time and practice to fix. It has nothing to do with being a newlywed.

That said, there are compromises. My fiance definitely eats a lot healthier now that I'm around. I try to keep my portions smaller than his, sometimes adding a salad or something. Or like last night I made burgers but instead of having a bun I put mine on a portabello mushroom and had less cheese. I make a lot of casseroles and pastas and things where he can add extras while I don't. We don't keep a lot of junk in the house. I am not a big chip eater so I don't mind having those around, and then we keep some frozen yogurt that I have once in a while. That said, he's pretty health conscious too and also wants to keep his weight down.

But yeah, sounds more like a personal bingeing problem than a relationship problem :-/

Hi I am a newly wed got married 16th December 13, feel free to add me. I too have been frustrated with my husbands lack of interest in making healthier choices, but once he has seen the effort I put in and that I've lost 5kg he has now been more supportive and going to start him an account on here so we can go down the journey together. I feel that being on same page helps, see if he can support you more hun

I am in the same boat as you, I have just recently married last September. My husband is much smaller than I am, he eats almost anything at anytime. He supports me, he cooks healthy meals for me; however, he still brings home pizza, chicken wings, and other unhealthy junks. My point is that you can talk to him and he may support you but that doesn't he mean he is going to follow the same diet as you, so the rest is up to you. You need to have willpower and set limits because at the end of the day it is your goal.