Newlywed food advice

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,042 Member
    You need to ask yourself if you're willing to give up pizza the rest of your life? If not, then keeping it out of the house isn't the issue. It's learning how to not over eat it. And that happens to be the problem with 65% of overweight people in the US.

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  • KayNowayJose
    KayNowayJose Posts: 138 Member
    I think it is unfair to decide to lose weight and ask a spouse, who has no problem with weight, to not have the foods they like to eat in their own home.

    I do think that spouses should be supportive but this only extends so far. My husband tries to be mindful when cooking and shopping but, in the end, I think it is up to me to learn how to say no. So, if he makes something that I don't want to eat (for whatever reason) I make something for myself. Or, if it is calorie dense but I still want some I'll have a small portion and then supplement with extra veggies.

    But, I think it is unfair to tell him that he can't save his nightly ice cream just because I don't think I can control myself.

    ^ All of that. If you can't control yourself, OP, then that is your problem and your issues that need resolving.

    This.

    Although my fiance and I aren't getting married until later this year, we are currently living together, and he too is much more fit than I. But because of his muscle weight (he's at 12% and I'm at 28%) he can get away with eating more 'unhealthy foods. Every week at the store, he buys his potato chips, and snack cakes. But we still eat dinner together. And yeah, I may occasionally tease him to put the 'nasty' food down because I don't want him to die of a heart attack, if I were to dare ever approach the subject of removing them from the house, I think it would be our biggest argument yet. I just control myself. He supports my diet, and well I support his. All of his junk food is separated from mine. And then, another example, I made him chocolate chip cookies tonight before he came home(which he loves), but he gave me the tiny last piece of steak and took the last of veggies because he knows my diet requires more protein than carbs. I mean, we're talking about a man giving up steak!...it probably helped that I had potatoes for him as well. :wink: (those were only for him because of the carbs, but he loves potatoes!). It's a matter of compromise, knowing each other's diet, needs, and weaknesses.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    divorce is always an option ...

    If she takes away his pizza I think it's the only option

    oh hell no….you be getting smacked for dat up in dis house!
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    divorce is always an option ...

    If she takes away his pizza I think it's the only option

    oh hell no….you be getting smacked for dat up in dis house!

    Abuse!


    I mean, of course, for withholding pizza
  • KimiSteinbach
    KimiSteinbach Posts: 224 Member
    Listen. If he's 100 pounds lighter and can eat two pieces of pizza and be satisfied... He's doing it right. Be like hubs. Absolutely not fair to expect him to change OR to "understand" you--this is on you. The two of you have a whole life coming up. Set up for health and wellness and fitness.

    Completely disagree with this statement. In a marriage you need to support each other. If wife is struggling, lend her a hand of support, not blindly expect her to "be like hubs." That's short sighted and ignorant.

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