Insult affecting motivation

dbart93
dbart93 Posts: 1
in Motivation and Support
Some person I know who I have seen in a while said 'god you've gotten fat' I am now tempted to go back to what's caused the weight gain...cider and sweets. Any tips to feel better and less depressed so I won't cheat? I feel so small at the moment, any advice would be great.

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  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    Ask yourself: how will eating more help me reach my goals?
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
    You can't be responsible for other people's bad manners. You can let their terrible manners bring you down, or you can just chalk it up to what it is. Ignorance.

    Put that sugary fattening treat down, and do something nice for you, like take a walk to clear that garbage out of your head. That person is not worth your worry.
  • osothefinn
    osothefinn Posts: 163 Member
    If one bump in the road throws you into the ditch you're likely bound to fail. Ignore the crude comment and carry on.
  • wrenegade64
    wrenegade64 Posts: 410 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!
  • Commander_Keen
    Commander_Keen Posts: 1,179 Member
    just let that person know that he's still an *kitten*
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    Why are you letting another person control you?

    Brush it off, that person is not worthy of having any say in who you are or what you do.
  • Lisawalmsley1989
    Lisawalmsley1989 Posts: 4 Member
    Someone yelled something horrible at me over Christmas and I satisfied myself with the knowledge that I'd rather be a 'fatty' than a nasty person any day, the fact I'm doing this means it'll soon be 2-nil to me!
  • keeptehpeace
    keeptehpeace Posts: 189 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    this... is surprisingly inspiring, thank you :flowerforyou:
  • myfuture14
    myfuture14 Posts: 12
    Well, I used to get talked to like that from family and friends. It took a long time but I got to the point where I decided I could love them and accept the fact that they were just bitter and ugly on the inside sometimes. And that I may have gotten fat but im doing something about it now. Making myself healthy, strong and trying to make make my outside beauty as close to my inside beauty as possible. As hard as it may sound don't let them get you down. You are worth more than that. And those are just stupid words that someone thoughtlessly spoke. And that bag of chips or buffett dinner isnt going to make what they said go away. It will only then become an excuse. But if you train, be it a walk listening to your music or going to the gym whatever your vice. That is redemption. And will make you forget those hurtful words. Key word there WORDS. That's all it was dont let them become your excuse for failure your so much better than that. Good luck!!!
  • hearthemelody
    hearthemelody Posts: 1,025 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    this... is surprisingly inspiring, thank you :flowerforyou:

    My thoughts exactly!!
  • liftreadphilosophize
    liftreadphilosophize Posts: 180 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    I like you. :drinker:
  • greengnome1977
    greengnome1977 Posts: 6 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    So very true!!!
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    youre stronger than that.
    brush it off and keep forging ahead.

    dont ever let the words of one person get you that low.
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,276 Member
    Some person I know who I have seen in a while said 'god you've gotten fat'

    Sometimes you have to wonder where people's brains are.

    My mantra is "Don't go out of your WEIGH to please anyone but yourself." YOU are the only one that counts...not the meathead with the lack brains.
  • mortuseon
    mortuseon Posts: 579 Member
    You can lose the weight, but no matter what they do, they'll still be a ****.
  • MissySpring
    MissySpring Posts: 442 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    You rock, Renegade64! Wonderful, uplifting comment.
  • FreshKrisKreash
    FreshKrisKreash Posts: 444 Member
    Let the insult fuel your workouts. There's power behind rage. :explode:
  • acogg
    acogg Posts: 1,870 Member
    People are stupid and say stupid things. A person who would say such a thing is not worthy of your time. Do not give this person any more power in your life.
  • handyrunner
    handyrunner Posts: 32,662 Member
    could be they are jealous because you are making a change..and they seem by willing...don't give them the fuel
  • aquarabbit
    aquarabbit Posts: 1,622 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    Very good advice.
  • Mojoman02
    Mojoman02 Posts: 146 Member
    Prove them wrong! Cuz you are MORE than their definition of you!!!!
  • tbogey
    tbogey Posts: 4
    Remember that people who talk like that are usually trying to boost their own self image...It helps me to focus on the fact that they feel bad enough to need to put someone down in order to make themselves feel better. At least you aren't that bad off. AND you're doing something about it! In a month or two will they be feeling any better about themselves?
  • Carnline2
    Carnline2 Posts: 4
    Talk yourself out of the funk. You got yourself to where you are today. You are taking steps to reduce weight. You won't be fat forever if you keep working on it. Put out negative retain the positive
  • jmp463
    jmp463 Posts: 266 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    I have been on here since May and I think that is the best damn pep talk I have seen. You are a good man. OP you should embrace these words and use them to fight back and take control.
  • amandakev88
    amandakev88 Posts: 328 Member
    i have felt like this before when somebody asked me if i was expecting in the past. as a matter of fact, i think i went downstairs [it was at work] and got mcdonalds. because eating made me happy. somebody calls you fat. you feel fat. feeling fat makes you feel sad. eating **** makes you feel happy. vicious cycle.

    if YOU want to lose weight, don't fall into the vicious cycle. i did and i gained. if you DON'T CARE about how your body looks and feels, then eat whatever you want.

    dont make it about them. whatever they say is a product of their own brain and does not affect you at all.

    i know it hurts. people are cruel. **** just slips out, often without them thinking. ignore it and move on. if you want this you can get this.. why let the other persons negativity pull to under?

    do something else that makes you happy, besides eating. treat yourself to something that isnt food. something that makes you feel good about yourself. pumice your feet and watch a dumb film lol.
  • Mangopickle
    Mangopickle Posts: 1,509 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    Excellent advice!!
  • 1ZenGirl
    1ZenGirl Posts: 432 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    Dang dude that was darn motivating!
  • MsJulielicious
    MsJulielicious Posts: 708 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    You are awesome.
  • krawhitham
    krawhitham Posts: 831 Member
    I say "EMBRACE IT!" Yep, you heard me right. That person is one of many you will encounter who will attempt to rain on your parade while you are on your journey. I promise you....everybody...and I mean EVERYBODY has a demon----a skeleton in the closet----a flaw. The person who insulted you today and all the others down the road are trying to offset their demon by dragging you down because you have the courage to tackle yours. That person is hurting for one reason or another and they lack the courage to tackle whatever their demon is.
    YOU ARE DIFFERENT----YOU ARE BOLD---YOU HAVE PRIDE---AND YOU HAVE US! Keep your eye on the prize and take heart in the fact that you are a better person for taking steps to make your life better as opposed to making others worse like that person tried to. You don't know me, but I am proud of you for reaching out. Don't EVER give anybody the satisfaction of dragging you down to their level. Your better than that. ROCK ON!!!

    I agree with ^^ When my mother commented on how fat I've gotten, I said "Yep, I have gotten fat!"

    I admit it. I have. Not my fault that someone else is rude, but hey, it's the truth! Time to go to the gym & eat well because those two things lift my mood better than any junk food ever has!
  • Amadbro
    Amadbro Posts: 750 Member
    Some person I know who I have seen in a while said 'god you've gotten fat' I am now tempted to go back to what's caused the weight gain...cider and sweets. Any tips to feel better and less depressed so I won't cheat? I feel so small at the moment, any advice would be great.

    Good idea..lets go ahead and eat our emotions...stop feeling bad for yourself and do something about it. Use the negative words for motivation. I may be a little harsh or blunt at times but all of this "I feel so bad about myself" stuff has got to go. Get your diet in order, put in the work and prove them wrong. You will always be fat unless you do something about it (which it sounds like you are, so good job). Coming to the MFP forums for coddling isn't going to change your body composition.

    I'm sure I'll get some flaming for this but oh well. As a former fat guy I can truly say that you can mope, you can hate yourself, you can hate others and you can always find an excuse to participate or revert back to bad habits. It isn't until you put your feet into ACTION that things start to change. No one here can motivate you. Only YOU can motivate you. Good luck.

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