Hubby's non weght loss

fit4me33
fit4me33 Posts: 11
edited September 22 in Health and Weight Loss
We can't figure out why hubby is not losing weight. He eats less, and healthier food, he drink less pop, and get's more exercise than he used to.I could understand if he was just losing small amounts, but he's not losing any...(he says cause I don't give it up enough..lol) What else can he do? I'm having some trouble, but I think it's cause I keep giving in to temptation and don't do all the cardio I need to. Can anyone give a daily regimine to follow that may help?

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  • chanstriste13
    chanstriste13 Posts: 3,277 Member
    how long has he been working on this? sometimes it just takes a bit for your body to catch up with what is going on. also, how much water is he drinking? water uptake can help a lot in many cases. here's a link to a good eating guideline chart - shoot to eat from only the top 3 levels:

    http://www.beachbody.com/category/michis_ladder.do

    hope this helps some! good luck!
  • SJSchwartz
    SJSchwartz Posts: 131
    Not sure about your hubby, but mine usally "sneaks" candy & junk when he goes to work :)
  • TaneeisFitforLife
    TaneeisFitforLife Posts: 433
    Mine eats healthy at home but not when he's gone to work. If he's not tracking what he's eating there is no telling why he isn't losing weight...
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Is he tracking calories? Just "eating less" may still be eating too much.

    Example: You're eating enough calories to gain a pound a week. You cut back your calories, and are eating LESS, but still eating more than your body needs, so you will either stay the same or gain more slowly, but you won't lose.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    he says cause I don't give it up enough..lol
    Increased cardio is important for weight loss. naughty.gif Seriously, how long has he been at this?
  • fit4me33
    fit4me33 Posts: 11
    It's been about 2 months now. I don't think he drinks ANY water, and I probably can't get him too. I tried to get him to write down everything he eats, but he leaves that all up to me. It's gets tireing doing it for the both of us and I end up not tracking for a while...which is bad. I'll ask him to start his own MFP page, maybe that will help him DO more and eat less junk.

    P.S. He eats pork rhinds B4 bed as a snack..I asked him to stop, but he says they're not bad for him...is that true?
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    It's been about 2 months now. I don't think he drinks ANY water, and I probably can't get him too. I tried to get him to write down everything he eats, but he leaves that all up to me. It's gets tireing doing it for the both of us and I end up not tracking for a while...which is bad. I'll ask him to start his own MFP page, maybe that will help him DO more and eat less junk.

    P.S. He eats pork rhinds B4 bed as a snack..I asked him to stop, but he says they're not bad for him...is that true?
    PORK RINDS

    Why you think they're bad: These puffy snacks are literally cut from pigskin. Then they're deep-fried.

    Why they're not: A 1-ounce serving contains zero carbohydrates, 17 grams (g) of protein, and 9 g fat. That's nine times the protein and less fat than you'll find in a serving of carb-packed potato chips. Even better, 43 percent of a pork rind's fat is unsaturated, and most of that is oleic acid -- the same healthy fat found in olive oil. Another 13 percent of its fat content is stearic acid, a type of saturated fat that's considered harmless, because it doesn't raise cholesterol levels.

    Eat this: J&J Critters Microwave Pork Rinds ($6.50 for a 10-ounce container; www.micro waveporkrinds.com). Because the rinds are cooked and puffed in a microwave instead of deep-fried, each serving contains only 4 g fat -- meaning they're lower in calories and less greasy than regular pork rinds.



    If you are doing all the work, it seems like he is not committed. If he is anything like me, that means eating what I want, when i want. I won't lose any weight that way.
  • morganadk2_deleted
    morganadk2_deleted Posts: 1,696 Member
    Oh i really do know how you feel!!! My husband understands it sometimes logs it, but more often than not i log it for him!

    He does have a long way to go, but they have to want to do it , we can't do it for them ! so now we both weigh once a week and to be fair he has lost over 60lbs in a year and a half.

    thought this link might help too. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/61706-guide-to-calorie-deficits

    good luck add me as a friend if you like we can moan about husbands!
  • pinbotchick
    pinbotchick Posts: 3,904
    LOL!! Read the pork rind bag to check for cal and serving size, # servings per bag and sodium content. Share this info with hubby. I bet there are at least 4 servings in the bag with a min of 100 cals a pop. Your DH will not not lose weight until he decides to take an active role in self monitoring. I've been there. You can only be a great example for him and cook healthy meals. If he eats out, you can look up cal contents and share info with him. Think of the old saying "you can lead a horse to water nut you can't make it drink!". Good luck - you will need it if he thinks pork rinds are healthy (*wink*). An apple would be a much better snack.

    Have hope that he will come around. My husband started out great a year ago and lost 20 pounds but stopped and gained it all back. He finally realized he needs to make it a lifestyle change and has been doing better the last month with eating and exercise - he's lost 7 of the pounds he gained back. Crossing my fingers for both of us that the men will get (and keep) a clue about healthy lifestlyes!!!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It's been about 2 months now. I don't think he drinks ANY water, and I probably can't get him too. I tried to get him to write down everything he eats, but he leaves that all up to me. It's gets tireing doing it for the both of us and I end up not tracking for a while...which is bad. I'll ask him to start his own MFP page, maybe that will help him DO more and eat less junk.

    P.S. He eats pork rhinds B4 bed as a snack..I asked him to stop, but he says they're not bad for him...is that true?

    It sounds to me like you want him to lose weight and he really doesn't care. If he cared, he would take control. I say leave him be and worry about yourself.
  • leanmass24
    leanmass24 Posts: 304 Member
    Yeah, if he isnt ready then it isnt gonna happen... he has to want to lose weight and take the active role. He needs to do it on his own. If he cant do it for himself then he more than likely wont be successful. You said that he doesnt drink water... what do you drink if you dont drink water... that is pretty much all I drink...It is the building block for life... juice and milk I drink occasionally... I dont drink soda. Soda is just bad. even the "diet" ones make you gain weight or prevent you from losing. I know that you want to see him lose weight and get healthier, but you cant make him if he isnt serious about it. It takes a lot of hard work and a concious effort to lose, and to maintain.
  • Sporty98
    Sporty98 Posts: 320 Member
    I agree with rml_16.....You need to let him take control of his own weight and/or weight loss. My husband sees what I'm doing here, and "wants" to lose some weight too.....BUT, he doesn't want the hassle of keeping track of everything he eats and drinks. So, that's his decision! He is making some better choices, but not losing weight either.

    We are all responsible for our own weight loss and fitness.....Encouraging him is a great way to help him though! You sound very encouraging and compassionate. That will help him to make his decision and reach his goals! :happy:
  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    We can't figure out why hubby is not losing weight. He eats less, and healthier food, he drink less pop, and get's more exercise than he used to.I could understand if he was just losing small amounts, but he's not losing any...(he says cause I don't give it up enough..lol) What else can he do? I'm having some trouble, but I think it's cause I keep giving in to temptation and don't do all the cardio I need to. Can anyone give a daily regimine to follow that may help?

    He needs to decide what he wants to do. Is he going to a gym? Is he interested in cardio or lifting weights? If he is interested you can PM me for some ideas
  • fit4me33
    fit4me33 Posts: 11
    What I do...exercise in front of him, or tell him all I did while he's at work. Count my own calories out loud. Look at the nutritional value at the grocerie store...he hates it when I say "I can't eat that", and I try to suggest to him things he can do to get a little workout or cardio in...if he's home I try to get him to go for a 1 mile walk with me...he won't do 2 yet. Plus we have a weight gym IN THE HOUSE...he bought it and I use it more. I don't want to harp at him cause that just makes him do less....hmmm. I'll keep trying I guess. If anything I'll get him next summer, better late than never.

    Both his dad and bio-dad died a few years after we got married...I use that as incentive...be around longer for the kids ya know.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    What I do...exercise in front of him, or tell him all I did while he's at work. Count my own calories out loud. Look at the nutritional value at the grocerie store...he hates it when I say "I can't eat that", and I try to suggest to him things he can do to get a little workout or cardio in...if he's home I try to get him to go for a 1 mile walk with me...he won't do 2 yet. Plus we have a weight gym IN THE HOUSE...he bought it and I use it more. I don't want to harp at him cause that just makes him do less....hmmm. I'll keep trying I guess. If anything I'll get him next summer, better late than never.

    Both his dad and bio-dad died a few years after we got married...I use that as incentive...be around longer for the kids ya know.

    I repeat: HE IS NOT INTERESTED. You cannot make him do this. Trying to make someone diet and exercise who doesn't WANT to diet and exercise is like trying to get a drug addict to stop doing drugs just by nagging him. Not gonna work. Leave him alone.
  • MzBug
    MzBug Posts: 2,173 Member
    If yours is like my ex, the more I "talked at him" the less he did, or the more he DIDN'T! By that I mean, if I "talked at him" about eatting less sugar more than a couple times a week, he ate MORE of it. Then I found out it wasn't just sugar he was addicted to. He didn't see 40.

    My opinion (for what it's worth) is to back off him. Sit him down and talk to him. Let him know that you realize that he is just going through the motions to make you happy. Let him know you don't want to cause bad feelings between you because of this. That you are going to continue to feed him healthy food at home, but not "talk at" him about it. Turn the logging and such of his efforts over to him. Ask him nicely to not bring home what ever it is.... in the effort not to hinder or tempt you in your efforts. Go for the walks you want to go on. Just let it go. When he is ready he will do what he needs to do.
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