He didn't see me for me all he saw was my weight
Soulgrl323
Posts: 3
My story about being dumped because of my weight. I know my story is not unique and from what I have had read I am not the only one who's been in the same boat as me and I feel so much better to talk about it here. I'm in my early thirties and like many people I have battle with gaining weight through the years. I was usually average never passed the 2 digit number on my jean side until my late twenties. I think the stress of work and school got the best of me yet I tried to eat healthy and be positive. But all changes once a date someone and when things don't work out that's when my weight seem to be at it's worst. I learned through the years not to take it to heart but I am devoted lover. I guess sometimes I give more then I received, and that gets me in trouble sometimes I guess I still believe the one day I will have my own happy ending.
So after finding out that the guy I was with for almost a year was getting married and lost y job at the same my life took a bad turn. I was alone in a state where I had no family support and If things couldn't get any worst I was about to lose my place, so my best friend asked me to move in with her and her family to St. Louis. So I used what I had left to drive up from California and start over fresh with the hope things will be better and maybe find me a good guy at the same time. Well once I got there I needed to find a job which at first was difficult I applied to many places nothing. I started to be more depress because I couldn't find a job but also i was alone no one to talk really and living with a family was making things worst so I decided to join a dating website and that's where I meet him. I had read his profile and he seem like a nice guy with good morals and fun and it seem we were a good match. I emailed him but never responded so I moved on until one day I was working this temp job and I saw him at his job. I smile and said hi I couldn't believe It was him. He was a good looking guy in uniform (military) so I went home and email him telling him I had have see him at work and within days he email me back saying that he felt bad because he wasn't able to talk at the time I saw him and then we started to talk about everything including a surgery he had gone through to fix his nose and sent me pictures and look bad but didn't care and and my care side came out and I talked to him making sure he was ok and things like that. Because I have seen him I knew how fit he was and because of my depression I had gain a lot weight I was scare he might reject me so before we were getting serious I told him straight I had gain some weight but I was working on losing it he told me it was fine no matter what he will still be there for me which i believe him. So after weeks of talking on the phone we agree to meet in person at this point he was calling me babe which I was ok with. I felt finally I meet a guy who likes me for me. I knew he couldn't remember me the day we first saw each other. I had pass by his cubicle for less then a minute so I had a better look then he did but he was ok with that. So after weeks of late talks and sweet text we decided it to meet and watch a movie and just chill. Well after doing some errands I went to his house, yet I was a little scare because of my weight I didn't want him to change his mind about me but keep thinking of what he had said that no matter what he would still talk to me so I stayed positive. Yeah I wanted to be honest I had told him i had gain some weight but I was working out to lose the weight and he said it was fine he will still find me beautiful. Well my biggest worry became reality and my gut was not wrong we meet and things couldn't be any more awkward! He would not even look at me we watched the movie and to make things easier I guess we decided to drink wine well that made it worst. You could tell he wanted me out of his apartment and by that he show me pictures of his last two exes who were in excellent shape and then to make things worst he told me he would never go out with girls with small chests! I have small chest I felt horrible, I tried to keep my cool so polite said I had to go which I did. I did ask if he wanted to hang out another day (just to see what he would say) and he was "yeah sure just let me know when" I was ok I will let you know. So after that we keep talking but not like before I knew he had change I would text him asking if everything was ok and he would text me hours later not like he used too saying things are fine. Than our conversations became only text he started to ignore my text more and more. I felt so hurt I ask my self why? At this point we not longer talk he had ignore my text and I didn't want to be seen like a crazy person so I walk away like I always do. All I ever wanted was someone to be with and I felt betrayed. I really think it was my weight that had change his mind. How two people who had lots to talk had nothing to say to each other? don't take me wrong if he had said "oh there is nothing here from our first conversation" I had move on but because I believe him I felt worst. We had see each other at work a couple of time but he ignores me like he never meet me. No one knows about this not even my friends because I know they will judge me for using a dating website but I wanted to meet someone to make feel special but he made me feel worst.
PS.
Sorry for y spelling I was not race here..
So after finding out that the guy I was with for almost a year was getting married and lost y job at the same my life took a bad turn. I was alone in a state where I had no family support and If things couldn't get any worst I was about to lose my place, so my best friend asked me to move in with her and her family to St. Louis. So I used what I had left to drive up from California and start over fresh with the hope things will be better and maybe find me a good guy at the same time. Well once I got there I needed to find a job which at first was difficult I applied to many places nothing. I started to be more depress because I couldn't find a job but also i was alone no one to talk really and living with a family was making things worst so I decided to join a dating website and that's where I meet him. I had read his profile and he seem like a nice guy with good morals and fun and it seem we were a good match. I emailed him but never responded so I moved on until one day I was working this temp job and I saw him at his job. I smile and said hi I couldn't believe It was him. He was a good looking guy in uniform (military) so I went home and email him telling him I had have see him at work and within days he email me back saying that he felt bad because he wasn't able to talk at the time I saw him and then we started to talk about everything including a surgery he had gone through to fix his nose and sent me pictures and look bad but didn't care and and my care side came out and I talked to him making sure he was ok and things like that. Because I have seen him I knew how fit he was and because of my depression I had gain a lot weight I was scare he might reject me so before we were getting serious I told him straight I had gain some weight but I was working on losing it he told me it was fine no matter what he will still be there for me which i believe him. So after weeks of talking on the phone we agree to meet in person at this point he was calling me babe which I was ok with. I felt finally I meet a guy who likes me for me. I knew he couldn't remember me the day we first saw each other. I had pass by his cubicle for less then a minute so I had a better look then he did but he was ok with that. So after weeks of late talks and sweet text we decided it to meet and watch a movie and just chill. Well after doing some errands I went to his house, yet I was a little scare because of my weight I didn't want him to change his mind about me but keep thinking of what he had said that no matter what he would still talk to me so I stayed positive. Yeah I wanted to be honest I had told him i had gain some weight but I was working out to lose the weight and he said it was fine he will still find me beautiful. Well my biggest worry became reality and my gut was not wrong we meet and things couldn't be any more awkward! He would not even look at me we watched the movie and to make things easier I guess we decided to drink wine well that made it worst. You could tell he wanted me out of his apartment and by that he show me pictures of his last two exes who were in excellent shape and then to make things worst he told me he would never go out with girls with small chests! I have small chest I felt horrible, I tried to keep my cool so polite said I had to go which I did. I did ask if he wanted to hang out another day (just to see what he would say) and he was "yeah sure just let me know when" I was ok I will let you know. So after that we keep talking but not like before I knew he had change I would text him asking if everything was ok and he would text me hours later not like he used too saying things are fine. Than our conversations became only text he started to ignore my text more and more. I felt so hurt I ask my self why? At this point we not longer talk he had ignore my text and I didn't want to be seen like a crazy person so I walk away like I always do. All I ever wanted was someone to be with and I felt betrayed. I really think it was my weight that had change his mind. How two people who had lots to talk had nothing to say to each other? don't take me wrong if he had said "oh there is nothing here from our first conversation" I had move on but because I believe him I felt worst. We had see each other at work a couple of time but he ignores me like he never meet me. No one knows about this not even my friends because I know they will judge me for using a dating website but I wanted to meet someone to make feel special but he made me feel worst.
PS.
Sorry for y spelling I was not race here..
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When you sent him pictures did you send current pictures? Were you honest with him? I know you said you told him you had gained weight, but........ what was he expecting? Either way he could have reacted better.0
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Your friends shouldn't judge you for using a dating website, or they're not your friends! I know many people who have used those sites, and some even got married to the person they met there or are in a relationship. He sounds like a jerk anyways, you don't need him. Think of it as an amusing online dating story to tell later on.0
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Well, you're on here now so after you do lose some weight you can walk back by his cube and say, "I can lose the weight, but you will always be an *kitten*."0
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I did I sent him Pictures of me but whenever i gain wait you can't tell much on my face.0
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Thank you Everybody for the support. Just to let you know I have lost 15 pounds and counting from this experience and I will be running my first 5K in april:)0
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