Need support, third times a charm right?

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This will be my third time here to try and keep myself motivated to eat healthier and finally lose some weight. My weight this time is 308.2 which is better than the 335 I started in weight watchers 3 years ago and the 318 from my last stint with MFP. We cook at home, everything from scratch nothing processed. My problem is portion control and exercise. I am a stress eater, if I know money is going to run thin I'll eat more to "stock" up, and when I'm under stress (which is most of the time) I will tend to eat more, it also doesn't help that my family will say at the dinner tableware "here finish mine I'm done" and of course instead of saying no, I just take it. I am also thinking if starting a blog, we will see how that goes. Wish me luck all!

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  • ladylattier
    ladylattier Posts: 18 Member
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    I just posted with that same title (kinda). I, too, am here for the third time. Maybe we can be friends and encourage each other. :)
  • twinmommy7411
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    Third time IS a charm. Big applause to you for coming back! I struggled with over eating and slowly but surely I figured out what worked best for me and learned portion control I'm slowly getting to my goal and I know with the right tools you can too! Best of luck! If you need any motivation or pointers add me, I'll be more than happy to help :)
  • CraigM42
    CraigM42 Posts: 7 Member
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    Thanks, yeah I could use all the help I can get!! Kodo's to you for your progress too!!!
  • CraigM42
    CraigM42 Posts: 7 Member
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    Sure thanks for the help! You look like your on your way too!
  • GerritTheBlacksmith
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    i am on my third attempt as well
    feel free to add me too.
  • trogalicious
    trogalicious Posts: 4,583 Member
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    I put this together a while back. It seems to have helped some folks. It worked for me and tons of others.

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/
    Make the cart easier to stay on. If you view it like a diet and it isn't sustainable, it WILL fail again.
  • Trishsimon
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    Seems like 3rd time is a charm for everyone me included I did weight watchers in 2011 didnt get anywhere then joined Slimming World in 2012-2013 and lost 2 stone 2 lbs but I put some back on and have now found this site I am still doing Slimming World as all their food is cooked from fresh not processed so very healthy but I felt this would be my extra push.
    For portion control buy a smaller plate fill it up you will trick your stomach into feeling its full whilst eating less food, just say NO to the family offering their left overs are they big ? its always slimmer people offering you more food. If that approach doesn't work explain to them you are doing this for them too that you want to be around for them in later life and not dead from a heart attack or diabetes and sorry to to so blunt but that is the reality for some people.

    I myself have in total another 4 stone 11lbs to lose before I am at my correct weight I am determined this year and I feel I will do it. :smile:
  • Trishsimon
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    Whilst I am on here I will ask what is better for you low fat milk or full fat milk as in the sugar content?
  • tbratz
    tbratz Posts: 9 Member
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    Third time here as well...or maybe more? haha! But really want to stick to it this time. Feel free to add me if you like. I keep my food diary open, I find it helps me to know others eat real foods like me and slip up from time to time. No one is perfect right? Also makes me a little more accountable and I second guess eating something bad because I know everyone is going to see it.

    Good luck everyone!!
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
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    I put this together a while back. It seems to have helped some folks. It worked for me and tons of others.

    1. don't trust the initial setup that MFP provides. If you put in the wrong/inaccurate information, it'll tell you to eat an amount that may not be applicable.
    2. Make sure you eat enough.
    3. Figure out what works for you and is sustainable/healthy/long term.
    4. avoid fads. don't buy in to any "Hey, try the twinkie and vodka diet"
    5. Don't cut out anything now that you don't plan on literally giving up forever.
    6. GET A FOOD SCALE. Weigh everything. No, seriously.
    7. Get an HRM with a chest strap. You'll at least have a better idea of what you're burning. It'll be more accurate than the generic info in the exercise database.. and even more than the cardio machines. This is great for steady state cardio (run/walk/etc)
    8. Don't go balls out. You'll burn out. I see 300 lb people show up here, instantly start working out and cutting their intake SEVERELY... trying to cut out all of their carbs at once.. whatever. Take it slow. Figure out how much you need to eat FIRST in order to lose.. then incorporate exercise.
    9. Don't cardio yourself to death.
    10. Take the information on the forums with a grain of salt. A lot of people that have been here for a while.. and have been successful, may seem jaded. They give out GREAT advice day after day, only to be met with people that refuse to listen.
    11. Eat real food. Not diet food. Not "low fat, sugar free, now without X." It's easier to get/find/count.
    12. don't set time restrictions.
    13. measure yourself weekly. Don't just weigh. Measure and take pictures.
    14 BE PATIENT.
    15. Avoid forum topics that have "1200" in the title. It's just full of butthurt. Lots of it.
    16. This isn't a game, it's about changing your lifestyle. Do that.

    pretty much that.

    ...and don't fall into the "1200 calorie" vertigo of suck because of:

    the typical MFP users does this:
    1. I wanna lose weight, let's try MFP.
    2. OH! Wow, it tells me I can lose 2 lbs a WEEK? AWESOME!
    3. I just sit at a desk when I'm not working out, I guess I'm sedentary.
    4. MFP tells them 1200 calories, and they don't even eat that.. then they work out on top of it.. creating an even bigger deficit.
    5. Lose a lot, fast, brag about 1200 calorie success.
    6. Come back in a few months trying to figure out why they're dizzy, tired, not losing weight.
    7. Get on the forums, ask why they aren't losing.
    8. Get two responses (I eat 1200 and lose) (I eat 2200 and lose)
    9. Argument ensues about who is right.

    Now. That being said. These threads happen hundreds of times per day. Most times, and I mean really.. seriously.. 95% of the time.. people get the 1200 number because they don't put the right information in when they set up the account. There are a great number of people that are trying to help. I'm one of 'em.

    I'm a hardcore advocate of actually finding out what works for the individual.. by means of other calculators, averages, time, practice, and patience.

    Blanket prescriptions of 1200 calories "because it worked for me" is more harmful to the generic new user than the "figure out what you need to eat." Unfortunately, one is a LOT easier to type.

    Find out what you need: http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/
    Make the cart easier to stay on. If you view it like a diet and it isn't sustainable, it WILL fail again.

    +1
  • j3nn14er
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    Hey, this is my 3rd or 4th time back too! I've been pretty hit or miss about logging my food but this time I will be better I swear... Every time I log on all my friends are like nonexistent, so anyone feel free to add me!