Every day I fail

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  • 4daluvof_candice
    4daluvof_candice Posts: 483 Member
    Honest truth.. nobody here is going to make you succeed.. we can give you support but if you don't even make it 1 day (that is if your not eating in an extreme deficit) then you obviously aren't ready to lose weight.

    You're definitely not the type I wanted to respond. I came to the forum *for* support, not for you to give me a magic weight loss spell.

    Maybe you shold try the motivation thread instead of the general diet and weightloss help thread. :wink:
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,261 Member
    When I feel I did not live up to my expectations. I ask myself what did I learn? What manageable change can I make. I just heard the quote, "Losing weight is a marathon not a sprint." in the book What am I Hungry For. Everyone has good days and not so good days. Hopefully as time goes on the good out weigh the bad and you make the progress you seek. Take care. I find their are more supportive than not supportive people here. I find it best just to ignore those who are not supportive. Good luck to you.
  • ils_1231
    ils_1231 Posts: 249 Member
    maybe what you need to do is just log an entire day without adhering to mfp-- don't go nuts, but eat what you would eat if you weren't adhering to a calorie limit. Once you find this number try cutting out 200 calories, and then the next week try cutting out 300 calories, etc. it might help you get used to the idea of eating less, and it would ease you into it. i'm a slow and steady wins the race kind of girl and maybe its too big of a change for you at the moment to go from x amount of calories to say 1200 ( using this bc that seems to be the mfp magic starting number).
  • smithalexar
    smithalexar Posts: 3 Member
    Making mistakes means that you are trying and that is half the battle!!!

    Check into your diet, are you geting enough calories to maintain your body? Are they they right calories and are you eating them at the right time of the day? I eat all day long and I am rarely ever hungry. It's all about what you are eating and when you are eating it! I would love to help on a more personal level - just message me!
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
    Well, not to make my night sound any better, but did I mention I did this while watching KILL BILL! Oh yeah, it was THAT kind of good.

    I agree with a lot of the advice you're getting, original poster, from the other ladies. Eat more raw fruits and veggies. Before each meal, eat two servings of fruit or veggie, drink two big glasses of water, then eat your meal.

    Also, just exercise more. If you exercise like mad, you can somewhat justify some of those little splurges.

    Lastly, practice makes perfect. Trying IS half the battle. If you keep at it, this will become more routine. It just takes time. I understand getting frustrated. I'm still pissed I don't look better after all of my awful holiday splurging (curse you winter beer!).
  • poppyetpear
    poppyetpear Posts: 15 Member
    Thanks everyone! and I will swing over to the motivation thread. I'm new to this site, but it definitely has helped so far. Maybe I'm just feeling a bit defeated today, but don't we all have our days where we feel defeated, but then do something that makes us feel good about ourselves :)
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    Kallie,

    All I can say is to take it one day at a time. It sounds like you are on the right track with just logging your food, using a tape measure to keep track of your weight loss, and just being aware of what you put into your mouth.

    I advise you eat what you've always eaten, and what you like, but stay conscious of food portions. Weigh your solid food and measure your liquids. For the solid food, don't trust any MFP entires that say a small, medium, or large anything ,but instead look for grams or ounces and then weigh food accordingly. This includes fruit, vegetables, peanut butter, nuts, etc.

    If you want support, there is plenty here but it often comes in the form of blatant honesty. Just hang in there, take it one day at a time, and work hard to get rid of that "every day I fail" mentality. :smile:
  • callyart
    callyart Posts: 209
    Definitely baby steps

    I started by cutting out fizzy drinks, and having water or peppermint tea instead. Then I cut out take aways, and started cooking more at home (We were having 2 take aways a week so this has helped me so much)

    Then I started doing smaller portions, and eating healthier.

    If I feel hungry, I eat a piece of fruit, a rice cake, some nuts, or a cereal bar. These are much better options than crisps, cookies, and all the other junk I used to eat.

    You have to *want* to change in order to do this. There's plenty of times I have asked myself why don't I just order dinner tonight, or pop into maccies for a burger? Then I remind myself of the reasons why I am losing weight.

    - To feel healthier
    - Be more confident
    - Wear smaller size clothes
    - To have more energy

    These reasons are more important to me then the cravings, so I let it slide. I busy myself and think of other things.

    Also, I would recommend planning meals, purchasing weighing scales so you aren't just guessing at your calorie intake, gain the support of the people around you (in real life and on here - add people on here, there's so much support!)

    Slow and steady wins the race. Don't count on losing lots and fast, but keep reminding yourself.

    Don't be afraid to treat yourself. I eat what I want when I want, but I moderate so I don't go over my calories. If I do go over my calories, I try not to beat myself up, because tomorrow is another day

    Also, take a look at the 'Success stories' threads. There are amazing weight losses on this site that help remind me why I am doing this.

    Good luck!!
  • RockinTerri
    RockinTerri Posts: 499 Member
    Kallie - Advice does come in all forms, and sometimes it is hard to hear the advice through negativity. I know, as it was hard for me at first too.

    That said, in order to achieve your goals and be successful, you do need something to measure your progress. A scale would definitely be one of the best ways, but there are others. If you have a measuring tape, take your measurements. If your clothes are fitting better or become loose, that's another way. As for measuring your foods, measuring cups, measuring spoons, and even using a guideline (such as a fist is about a cup) are all various ways of judging the amounts.

    Don't be too restrictive either - that can also be damaging. Make sure to have plenty of water in your diet, and a good balance of proteins, fiber, and healthy fats.