Pregnant & need to eat better!

So I'm taking the advice of my doctor & midwife and I'm now going to be watching what I eat instead of just eating whatever the hell I want because "hey I'm pregnant!"

Being clinically "obese", I have a calorie target of around 1620-1800 calls per day - even whilst pregnant. (If I hear anymore diet police go on about how I'm supposed to not be dieting right now and that I need to gain about 30lbs etc.... I kindly refer you to do some research first - or talk to my midwife / doctor before you post negative comments. A simple Google search will explain that obese women need to only gain around 11 -15 lbs throughout pregnancy or they'll be at increased risk of complications, most of this in the third trimester where you only need an additional 200cals per day) - sorry I've just heard nothing but negativity from friends & family who of course know better than the health professionals I'm under the care of! It's nutritional value which baby needs, not empty calories.

Anyway that's why I'm here. I would love to find some mums to be who are in the same boat as me. Nowhere else have I managed to find any support (other than my husband - but he's not exactly clued up on healthy eating), without people saying things like "so? Just eat it - you're pregnant you're allowed!" Or "now is not the time to be dieting! you MUST gain weight for the baby - it's a FACT"..... It's an ignorant misconception! If I'm going from eating 2500 calories worth of fatty crap, to eating salads and fresh fruit etc, then my calories are naturally going to drop, resulting in less weight gain throughout pregnancy, which is what my midwife told me the aim was - less weight gain rather than weight loss.

I'm trying to eat very colourful salads, lots of veggies & fruit etc.... But after looking at my food diary yesterday that quickly turned into an epic fail! Chocolate bars, biscuits & a giant bowl of sugar puffs found its way into my day.

I thought dieting was hard before pregnancy but with food cravings & aversions I feel like there's a brick wall in front of me! I desperately want to find people who love clean eating and are encouraging. I want to fill my food diary with lots of nutrient rich meals... I just fall off the wagon too easily. I did join Slimming World for a bit, but even then I had so many "friends" of mine act like I was swearing at them as soon as I showed a little excitement for having lost a little bit whenever I had a successful week. Personally I can't ignore the comments, especially being a hormonal wreck right now... So I've stopped talking about it all and I'm on here without their knowledge looking for support elsewhere. Hopefully I will find it!

Again apologies if I came across so defensive about what I'm doing - unfortunately it's gotten to this stage now for me! Xx

Ps, please don't read too much into my display name - I've been on here for about 5 years xx