I feel ugly

fangmouse
fangmouse Posts: 119
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I have been having a really low self esteem lately. I feel incredibly ugly and everytime I see myself in photographs, I just feel like crying and I feel so depressed and upset. I feel ashamed of myself and I feel fat and disgusting. I don't know if I'm feeling this way because I'm currently ill (flu) or because my period is coming, but I'm just wondering if anyone feels the same, like you just literally feel like the ugliest person on the planet.

Lately, too, I have a crush on this guy and I just feel like I'm not good enough for him or anyone, for that matter. Sometimes when I see myself in the mirror, I'll feel okay about myself but when I see myself in pictures, I just get incredibly depressed and upset.

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  • fangmouse
    fangmouse Posts: 119
    Anyone of you people have been through this before? How do you all deal with this? I'm 19 this year by the way, if you all are wondering. I feel really self conscious and uncomfortable when I'm around my crush as well which really sucks. He's in the same sports team as I but I've never spoken to him before (the girls don't ever talk to the guys) and I don't know how to start talking to him :(
  • hurricanegirl13
    hurricanegirl13 Posts: 109
    I don't know about advice on how to talk to a guy... but I CAN share my experiences from high school up until now (I'm 22).

    I've always been considered "beautiful"... well according to my mom. I never saw that person she was talking about, and usually thought that she was just saying those things because she's supposed to, because she's my mom. I HATED when ever a picture of me would get tagged on a social media site, because I'd see that woman and cringe- and think to myself, "Am I really that big? Is my face really that round? Gosh- she's ugly." I had this weird thing going on, and still do, I'll admit... where I'd almost be in denial. I'd see other over weight women, and I know it's horrible, but I'd be happy I wasn't "that" big. Maybe I have a skewed perception of my body, or maybe I'm looking for validation. But I never think I'm THAT fat... until I see a picture. It was just recently I saw a picture from sometime in August, and noticed that I was looking at the pillsbury dough girl, and not myself.

    Now- that's a lot of weight stuff... which directly contributed to my self-esteem and self-perception of my own looks. There have been countless days where I have curled up in bed and cried all day. I've cried because I'm fat. I've cried because I was too lazy to do anything about it. I've cried because I thought, no KNEW, I was ugly. I cried because all it took was for me to get up and change. But I've always had that Monday mentality (I'll get started on Monday....) and never did anything.

    I finally hit rock bottom (again) and one day decided I was done being fat and ugly. Through my determination I feel prettier. I've only lost 4 pounds... but the pure confidence I have has made me feel so much prettier and more attractive. I'm so excited to continue, and find that the fact that I actually look forward to getting up in the morning makes the day and myself so much more beautiful!
  • TansieEye
    TansieEye Posts: 25
    19 is a tough age. Try to take some focus off of yourself. If you feel ugly or bad, do some push ups, pet the dog, offer to help your Mom fold laundry or take out the trash. Basically anything that keeps you busy and is productive. You'll have the cleanest room on the block and the push ups will be really good after a few weeks! The more you worry the more you spiral and the bag of chips starts to look like an option. Better not to go there.
  • mimieon
    mimieon Posts: 182 Member
    This may very well have something to do with hormones for your period. About three days before my period for instance, I usually feel really really bad - seemingly for no reason - about how I look, my career, relationship, the world, feel fat, etc. Try paying attention to your cycle, and try to be extra kind to yourself. For me it helps (just a little) to know 'this feeling is just hormones, and it will pass within a few days'. In the meantime, I distract myself with other things.

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