Need Help w/Picky Eaters

have separate meals

that is the only thing I could say here sorry - spaghetti squash has a very mild taste if you haven't tried it

Find a cookbook that would fit well with your diabetic diet. And then let him choose recipes for you to make. Im sorry but I have a hard time imagining what he does eat. Very hard to make suggestions . Clearly with all of these restrictions he's placing on you, it seems only fair he put in effort to find foods you both will eat. I do worry for your husbands health though, it seems he's cutting alotof vital nutrition out of his diet.

What about omelets? They are made to serve (but cook quickly) and each can have different items in them. You could add cut veggies, cheese, bacon/ham to yours and kids, and he can request what goes in his. Purchased spaghetti sauce doesn't usually have tomato chunks. Salads with romaine lettuce, and cut up separate additional veggies for yours and the kids. You are in a bit of a quandary. Try checking cook books out at the library and have him mark recipes he likes (I believe someone else suggested this) and maybe have him make his own side dishes while you make yours and the kids? Crock pot meals would cut down on time too since they would be ready when you get home...if you can agree on a recipe. Good luck!

What about making a big batch of stuff he will eat when you have time and freezing individual portions that he can eat when he wants and just making yourself healthy food when you want to eat?

I completely understand what it is like living with someone that has those food quirks... and how it is impossible to tell them to grow up.

What I do is cook the protein the same, then change up how I serve it to accommodate my diet and his weirdness. For example: I will grill beef or chicken, then serve his with rice and mine with veggies and add whatever sauce I want. I keep those Uncle Ben microwavable pouches around that cook in 90 seconds to plop on his plate and while that is in the microwave I can usually get my veggies ready. Really doesn't take that much longer to do. So although our plates look totally different, the hard and time consuming part of the meal is the same.

if you are pre diabetic then maybe the doctor can make an app't for you with the dietician. They should be able to help you considerably. my hubby is diabetic and in Canada you don't have to pay to see a dietician but only if you are diabetic. me just wanting to lose weight would be a cost then. so see if that would work for you. it's their job to have ideas that would work for you

I must ask, does your husband have Aspergers Syndrome? My 13 yo son has it, and my husband has adult residual AS. Both are very picky eaters. Sometimes I end up making 3 separate meals, but they aren't time consuming, so it's not an issue. That said, when I made my commitment to lose this weight, I knew there were some foods that I was not going to be able to eat much anymore if I was going to be successful. I am insulin resistant, so all the carby foods my hubby likes, are horrible for my diet.

I sat down with him and told him that I had to change my diet back to what it was before we got married, but I would do what I could to make sure he had food he liked as well. I explained how certain foods would be very difficult for me to cook and not want to eat, like mac and cheese, but would make him other pastas and things I could easily go without.

I make a main meat, and fix veggies for me, and a side he likes for him. Most of the time, he is fine with just meat and a salad, which he eats more often now that he sees how he can lose weight without all the carbs as well. And he hates for me to have to make something just for him. I will fix him potatoes, rice, or pasta a couple of times a week, and he has even tried a few different things he didn't think he liked, such as spaggetti squash, and grilled Salmon with teriyaki marinade. He is even ok with mashed potatoes made with half pureed cauliflower. With gravy on it, he can't tell the difference.

I buy the big bags of frozen mixed veggies for me and make a big pot of them, then I can just throw a serving in the microwave and it is ready in a couple of minutes.

It really isn't that difficult to maneuver. If you sit down with your hubby and make a list of all the foods he will eat, and find a way to make them lower cal for you, perhaps, you can figure out a system. If you explain to your husband that you need his help to prevent Diabetes for you, then surely he loves you enough to work with you to figure it out.

It basically comes down to focusing more on a solution rather than the problem.
Best of luck to you!

If he's that darn picky I think I'd let him cook his own dinner! My husband was extremely picky when we first married but I'm not limiting my own intake nor that of our kids to his narrow spectrum of "acceptable". He's a grown man who managed to survive before we married, he was welcome to make himself something different if he didn't like what I made. Now, more than 22 years later he eats all kinds of things he never would have in the beginning. Sure, most of the reason he ate my food was laziness but he learned to like a lot of good stuff. I adore my husband but I have four children and didn't need another. And my kids eat what's put before them or they wait until the next meal.

I have picky eaters at home a son who only wants to eat meat,and a husband who is sure if it isn't itallian he prob won't like it. I have started making Sunday my prep day. I make batches of stuff this week stuffed peppers and Mexican chicken. I make them dinner and then grab a serving of what I have made for me add a salad and we both eat without having to "make" two dinners everynight. Find some good crock pot recipes that way dinner is done when I walk though the door. I also have them both take a bite of what I make for me on Sunday, that way they are trying new things and I have found a few things they will eat as well. Hope this helps.