Getting used to eating "Fear foods"

Hey!
For me, when I was losing weight I completely cut out any food that I couldn't accurately count, I know that this probably wasn't the smartest thing to do but to be honest I found it pretty easy and it helped me lose weight.
Well While losing weight I told myself that when I lost it I'd be able to eat that food again, but now I find myself afraid to eat it because I only ever ate it when I was overweight.

Last night for dinner we had shepherds pie which was my favorite food when I was overweight. I found it incredibly difficult to eat, even though I did manage a little bowl of it.
However, I just wondering what some of you fear foods are and, now that you're maintaining, do you find it easier, harder, or no difference in letting yourself eat them c=
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  • Hey There,

    I am facing same problem right now...i havnt eaten my fav food from last 10 months :/


    You talk about pies? i even fear eating bread once a day...coz when i was on weight loss..i used to skip bread sometimes..i know i was not the smartest but it helped me losing weight..
  • laineybz
    laineybz Posts: 704 Member
    I don't think there's any food i fear, just food that i don't think are worth the calories anymore. I cut out chocolate initially but i eat it now....in moderation and i'm fine.
  • chezjuan
    chezjuan Posts: 747 Member
    I don't think there's any food i fear, just food that i don't think are worth the calories anymore.

    ^^ This.

    Interestingly, getting fit has actually taught me to not fear foods. Spending my formative years in the 80s hammered in the "fat is bad" mindset, which led the overweight me to avoid bacon, drink skim milk, etc. I now realize that I can be healthy and eat the so-called "bad" foods of my youth (in moderation within my goals, of course).
  • Arnegard
    Arnegard Posts: 22 Member
    I am not the best eater. I realize that I exercise so that I can eat the comfort foods that I want. I also have small kids so I am not about to switch their meals to something that is more diet friendly. I have to maintain my weight in the real world, so I might as well learn to lose weight in the real world as well.
  • editorgrrl
    editorgrrl Posts: 7,060 Member
    All the calorie counts are estimates. Some database entries are more accurate than others, but they're all just estimates. You can eat anything in moderation—any thing.

    Eat "good" or "clean" or "healthy" (whatever those words mean to you) 80% of the time. Fit yummy, portion-controlled treats into your calorie goal. Deprivation can lead to binges.

    Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-Sexypants
  • LauraBest2013
    LauraBest2013 Posts: 50 Member
    I have to maintain my weight in the real world, so I might as well learn to lose weight in the real world as well.

    Spot on. This is what irritates me most when friends ask me advice on losing weight and keeping it off. They complain about sticking to a diet, and then putting any weight they've managed to lose right back on again because a diet isn't a long term fix.
    I always say that it's a lifestyle change, not a diet.

    x
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
    Hey!
    For me, when I was losing weight I completely cut out any food that I couldn't accurately count, I know that this probably wasn't the smartest thing to do but to be honest I found it pretty easy and it helped me lose weight.
    Well While losing weight I told myself that when I lost it I'd be able to eat that food again, but now I find myself afraid to eat it because I only ever ate it when I was overweight.

    Last night for dinner we had shepherds pie which was my favorite food when I was overweight. I found it incredibly difficult to eat, even though I did manage a little bowl of it.
    However, I just wondering what some of you fear foods are and, now that you're maintaining, do you find it easier, harder, or no difference in letting yourself eat them c=

    If you are carefully tracking, let the number of calories at the end of your day, showing that you are under your calorie goal, be your guide. Let yourself know that it's okay that you ate that food, because you know that you have enjoyed your food and still kept your calories under your goal for the day.
  • hmmmm I have had shepherds pie but what I do is measure everything as I am cooking, put the information in the recipe builder part of diary, then portion everything out before serving anybody. That is if the recipe makes 6 servings then I actually cut it into 6 and set aside the ones not being eaten now for lunch or dinners later in week. That way I know how many calories and nutrients I am getting. If the recipe builder tells me something is very high in sodium or fat or carbs or calories or whatever it is I might change how many servings it makes and just give my husband 2 so that he has more and I still stay within my numbers

    I am losing not maintaining but the topic caught my eye and I hope it is okay to chime in... esp since I am scared of eating a lot of salt and getting all water retention just before weigh day. Tomorrow is weigh in day for me and I am really anticipating having salty buttery popcorn. 0.o
  • This concept was revolutionary to me: http://ellynsatterinstitute.org/hte/eatingcompetence.php

    Eating competence -- not fearing food, realizing and being comfortable with the social element of eating, learning to trust (or help heal) my body's self-regulating impulses -- is so important, even (especially?) for folks who are "dieting." It's about COMPETENCE, long-term, not restriction.

    I count calories, but it's because I have goals, one of which is to help retrain my body's natural on and off switch, which has been severely damaged by out-of-control eating. I will not count calories for the rest of my life (though I may have a "booster shot" now and then if I feel too bingey), because I trust that my body is not permanently broken, just in need of a reset.
  • einzweidrei
    einzweidrei Posts: 381 Member
    No fear. My diet is really not the best right now either. (When you work nights, you do things like eat pizza for breakfast.)

    I eat everything I love. I don't say NO to anything.

    What do I say no to?
    -I say no to eating it EVERYDAY. I love you salt n' vinegar chips but I cannot eat you everyday. (I still have you more than once a week though.) I have one day where I eat like a bird.
    -I say no to overindulging all of the time. (Instead of eating two bowls of cereal post-dinner, how about just a light snack? Or how about just one bowl of cereal for breakfast? Or how about a small bag of salt n vinegar instead of a huge one with a giant Arizona iced tea for lunch?)

    I don't avoid. I know it will just inevitably lead to me eating everything around me. And then I won't stop. I love food too much to say no. Just take it slowly---reintroduce the things you love in small portions that fit into your calories for the day.
  • stuffinmuffin
    stuffinmuffin Posts: 985 Member
    I used to fear fat when I was losing weight and pretty much completely wiped it out of my diet. Big mistake as it is needed for the body!!!

    Now I'm maintaining I have loved incorporating good fats into my diet - frying food in butter and like today eating a whole avocado (which would have been completely unheard of a year or so ago).

    I did however get a bit squeamish when faced with a toasted cheese sandwich at a motorway services at the weekend and had to scrape some of the abundance of oil oozing cheddar out! Also I will probably never eat Domino's pizza again or McCoys crisps are realising that they really are just full of cr@p.
  • iRun_Butterfly
    iRun_Butterfly Posts: 483 Member
    I'm apprehensive eating pretty much anything that I haven't prepared myself. Most recipies I make I can accurately figure out with help of the recipe builder, but I get a little twitchy when someone else cooks for me. I'm working on getting over this, its hard to let go of that control sometimes. But I realize its part of real life and I need to adapt to it.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    < does not have any fear foods..I try to eat whatever it is that I want/like for that day and say within my macros and hit a calorie deficit or maintenance deepening on what my goals are…

    OP - you can eat what you want just try to stay in a deficit or maintenance. I find that the 80/20 rule helps..80% healthy and 20% whatever you want...
  • freddi11e
    freddi11e Posts: 317 Member
    BUMP
  • ken_m
    ken_m Posts: 128
    I would say that I'm afraid most to eat a bear or some other wild animal that would, while tasting delicious and be more enjoyable for the thrill of the hunt, possibly kill and eat me instead.

    That seems like the scariest food I can think of but pie is scary too
  • rabblerabble
    rabblerabble Posts: 471 Member
    Nuts (almonds, pistachios, cashews, brazils, etc) are my kryptonite. Healthy in small portions, but loaded in calories. I just buy the occasional snack sized bag (1.5 oz or so) when I want some. Bigger bags get wiped out far too fast.
  • dnawalsh
    dnawalsh Posts: 1 Member
    Nuts are my fear food too! I never ate them when I was on weight watchers because they had such a high point value. But after doing research, I realize they are way too good for me (and so delicious too!) that I SHOULD be eating them, not avoiding them. Now, I measure out an ounce a day and incorporate into my calorie counting. They are a pretty filling snack so I have been successful so far in eating them and not going over my calories!
  • I now have a morbid fear of potato chips (crisps). This is probably a good thing.
  • jfauci
    jfauci Posts: 531 Member
    The only food that I truly fear now is trail mix. It's the only food that I am unable to just eat just one servicn of. I will go through 1000 calories if you let me. Trail mix is now a no-no for me.
  • milf4k
    milf4k Posts: 1 Member
    For me the "fear" in my "fear foods" is not that I won't be able to accurately count the calories, but, that it's a binge, or trigger food for me, and that I won't be able to stop after the right portion. I'm sure that some day I'll tackle eating these foods in moderation but, for now, I've just cut them out and am not looking back. :)
  • ChrisS30V
    ChrisS30V Posts: 157 Member
    I don't fear any food, but I definitely have a healthy respect for the more calorie-dense foods and try to limit my portion sizes when I do eat them. When I make something from scratch that could end up being a calorie bomb (pizza, mac & cheese, etc.) I always enter the ingredients into the MFP recipe calculator to get a rough estimate of how many calories I'll be eating per specific serving size and adjust the serving size to whatever my particular goal is for that day. If you watch your portions you can eat pretty much whatever you want and still maintain.
  • LeahFerri
    LeahFerri Posts: 186 Member
    I don't fear any food, but I definitely have a healthy respect for the more calorie-dense foods and try to limit my portion sizes when I do eat them. When I make something from scratch that could end up being a calorie bomb (pizza, mac & cheese, etc.) I always enter the ingredients into the MFP recipe calculator to get a rough estimate of how many calories I'll be eating per specific serving size and adjust the serving size to whatever my particular goal is for that day. If you watch your portions you can eat pretty much whatever you want and still maintain.

    ^^QFT. Macaroni and cheese is awesome, but SUCH a calorie sink! I made a big batch of it the other day and am slowly working my way through it (I cook pretty much only for myself and occasionally share food with a friend or two). Fitting it into my calories might mean I have to adjust my entire day around it, and it definitely meant I had to portion it out, but I did that and that means when I open a foil packet from the fridge, I can plop it on my plate and eat it, no questions asked!
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
    No fear. My diet is really not the best right now either. (When you work nights, you do things like eat pizza for breakfast.)

    I eat everything I love. I don't say NO to anything.

    What do I say no to?
    -I say no to eating it EVERYDAY. I love you salt n' vinegar chips but I cannot eat you everyday. (I still have you more than once a week though.) I have one day where I eat like a bird.
    -I say no to overindulging all of the time. (Instead of eating two bowls of cereal post-dinner, how about just a light snack? Or how about just one bowl of cereal for breakfast? Or how about a small bag of salt n vinegar instead of a huge one with a giant Arizona iced tea for lunch?)

    I don't avoid. I know it will just inevitably lead to me eating everything around me. And then I won't stop. I love food too much to say no. Just take it slowly---reintroduce the things you love in small portions that fit into your calories for the day.

    I like this !
  • HealthyMakeover
    HealthyMakeover Posts: 142 Member
    I was terrified of eating a lot of certain foods. My main concerns were Little Debbies snacks, processed frozen meats and other foods, and especially pizza and oily foods.
    I started to tackle my "fear foods" slowly at first, because I started eating the "healthier" versions of the foods. For example, I really missed Little Debbies brownies. But I started off by eating a 90 calorie Fiber brownie. As I was able to tackle those foods, I slowly built back up to the foods I loved before. But I still eat them in moderation, and I can't say that I'm completely find with eating my "fear foods." Someday, I want to build a more healthy relationship with these snacks!
  • GiGiBeans
    GiGiBeans Posts: 1,062 Member
    I followed the Atkins plan to lose weight so all the restricted foods were gradually added back in small amounts to test for tolerance during the pre-maintenance and maintenance stages of the plan. This made life easier since it's really all about learning portion control in the end. It was a bit scary but I found a lot of things didn't taste as good as I remembered them. Too bland, too sweet.

    There is one item I no longer eat - sour gummy candies. If I ate one I use to eat the whole bag, which is like 1k cals. The sight of them still strikes fear in me tho, even tho I'd probably gag on them now.
  • girliegirlie1
    girliegirlie1 Posts: 1 Member
    Ive just started a LEAP programme (NHS Dieticians )and have been told to have 8 portions of bread/carbs a day. This is so much more than I have been used to and so I am petrified of putting on whilst eating these amounts. Protein is only 3 portions which I def wanted more. Still im not the expert....
  • MelissaPhippsFeagins
    MelissaPhippsFeagins Posts: 8,063 Member
    I fear shellfish due to anaphylactic shock. I fear gluten because celiac disease HURTS! I fear egg yolks because I hate throwing up. I am afraid of the foods that make me sick.

    I didn't stop eatong anything while I was losing. Especially not sheopherd's pie. I modified some favorites to use leaner meats and more veggies. I discovered I am less hungry when when I add more protein to my breakfast, so I eat less cereal and more yogurt. I don't really enjoy potato chips anymore, but I love Five Guys fries. I discovered I like almonds. I gave myself permission to eat more pecans.

    I am at maintenance now. I eat the same as always. You can measure anything and eat it without fear.
  • MelissaPhippsFeagins
    MelissaPhippsFeagins Posts: 8,063 Member
    I would say that I'm afraid most to eat a bear or some other wild animal that would, while tasting delicious and be more enjoyable for the thrill of the hunt, possibly kill and eat me instead.

    That seems like the scariest food I can think of but pie is scary too

    I have eaten bear because he was coming after the deer my dad's good friend shot. Good thing Buddy is a good shot. He now has a 10 point rack over the fireplace and a bearskin rug in front of it. The bear was tough and really greasy. Not good, but if you kill it then you eat it and if there is enough you share. I would eat it if I had to kill it, but I am definitely not going looking for it.
  • CattOfTheGarage
    CattOfTheGarage Posts: 2,745 Member
    Thanks for starting this, it's an interesting discussion. I had seen all the advice elsewhere on the forums that cutting things out can be a bad idea as it makes you more prone to 'falling off the wagon', binging and getting discouraged, but I hadn't realised it had this other disadvantage too of creating 'scary foods'. So I will joyfully continue with my approach of eating whatever I want in smaller portions, logging religiously and going over once in a while, in no particular pattern, because I feel like it. I am going to the Chinese Buffet tomorrow night, and I now know it's for the good of my mental health. Hooray!

    OP, this sounds like a real challenge for you, but I believe you can do it. If you could adjust your eating patterns so effectively that you got this far, you can adjust them again to get a healthier attitude to food. Just remember, even if t'm numbers aren't exactly precise on one meal, if you're trying to be accurate, it will all balance out.

    I say this as someone who, for work, has to calculate the weight of enormous ships by adding up rough estimates of the weight of every item on board, from engines and cabling to cutlery and armchairs. A million little rough guesses can add up to a pretty accurate end result. It all really does come out in the wash.
  • kennedyer627
    kennedyer627 Posts: 10 Member
    I think the key is moderation. I have not reached my maintain weight yet, however my sister is. If you continue with exercise and don't over do it, then you shouldn't be afraid to enjoy.