the healthier i get the worse it is

How many calories are you consuming? It's probably time to up them.

how much weight are you losing at one time? This is often a sign of losing weight in an unhealthy way. I would talk with a doctor asap

You have to eat 3500 calories over maintenance to gain one pound of fat. I would suggest you eat 1700 calories and not weigh for a month. You are obviously have been undereating for so long !!!!!

i have not lost any weight in over a year...i fluctuate between 160-170 depending on what i eat....ive tried the increased fats and protein and lower carbs and that helps me to maintain between those ranges. i lost the 60 lbs in appox 9 months time and started losing my hair...i increased calories and put on 10 lbs in a week...took a month to lose it back...back at 164 currently but i just stick there...and hair breakage is back....ive been to the dr and all my vitamins are within normal ranges...vitamin d is a little low but i also work night shift and dont see the sun much in the winter

I noticed in your picture, you're holding a baby. I'm not sure how old that picture is, but if you're nursing, you may need to double check the amount of vitamins you're taking.

Another thought was hair coloring. I know that my hair breaks much more easily when I've over-colored it and I am using the blow dryer constantly. I could be way off the mark, but thought it was worth mentioning as a possibility.

I am a total newb so really have no business saying anything but I cannot resist…. hair falling out and breaking off is not a sign of being healthier it is a sign of trauma/stress and generally marks a period of unhealthiness. What you meant to say was the thinner you get the worse it is.

As a person with long hair {well beyond waist} I suggest you spend some time on the long hair community and learn how to take care of your hair. Breakage is more likely due to past behavior… that is your hair is like a tree and grows at a certain rate so if your hair is breaking off 6" from end that marks a period when you were not getting good nutrition or were sick. Stress could account for the falling out and not be a matter of nutrition. By stress I don't only mean emotional but also physical {nutritional or illness}. If your body is trying to deal with stress and you are not giving it plenty of healthy nutrients and rest you are only making it that much more difficult to cope/heal. Plus of course your hair may be breaking due to whatever you use on it… strait irons, curlers, dye, high protein shampoo, even if you pull it into the same pony or bun on a regular basis those rubber bands can damage your hair at that point.

I am not going to comment on long term low calorie intake because I have over 100 lbs to lose to have a 'healthy' BMI {i put that in quotes because I know BMI tables do not factor in muscles etc and are a general benchmark} so will probably be eating on the lower end for quite a while. Although, to be honest, you seem scared of going over 1200 and since 1200 is generally considered the lowest possible you can get and still obtain all your necessary nutrients I wonder if you are staying a bit under on a day to day basis. I cannot personally fathom hitting 1200 on the dot every day for years.

good luck to you :-D

editing to add link to LHC: http://www.longhaircommunity.com

The closer you are to goal, the more slowly you lose. Set your goal to .5 lb. per week.

Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

hes not my baby...its my nephew...that picture was in november...my hair has lost half its length since that pic...and ive not dyed it since august...the breakage has just started again in december....it happened the same time last year as well and ive not lost any weight since march of last year

Have you had your vitamin D level checked recently? That it seems to be happening each year in December stood out to me-a vitamin D deficiency can cause hair breakage/loss and that could correlate with colder temps/not being outside during the winter time (if you live in an area that has colder winters). Many people are D deficient and don't know it, and that can get worse during the winter time. A simple blood test will tell you your number and it's an easy fix, with either a prescription for D or an over the counter, higher D3 vitamin.

Eta: a D deficiency could also cause issues with weight loss-here's a thread from a while ago about it
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/759088-vitamin-d-deficient-and-stall

First, I'm sorry to hear of your problem. Second, congrats on the healthy choices you've made part of you!

I don't know if these help, but here are some links of resources that I have been finding helpful.
- Why Weight Loss Can Be So Difficult (http://mariamindbodyhealth.com/why-weight-loss-can-be-so-difficult-and-success/)
- Leptin (our appetite-suppressing hormone can be off) - http://www.pinterest.com/pin/87327680248510010/
- Hair Loss - some possible causes - http://mariamindbodyhealth.com/french-silk-pie-and-hair-loss/

I have also been going to someone who can do muscle response testing. She's identified various nutrients that I've been lacking in and what systems in my body have needed help via supplements and diet. One thing that is important to note is that, if our organs or bodies are struggling, it is possible for us to take supplements and get nutrition into our bodies BUT our bodies can't absorb what we're giving them. Thus, I have found it very helpful to have her assistance.

If you have any questions about it, feel free to private message me. I am passionate about nourishing my body and sharing what I'm learning with others.

Again, I'm so sorry to hear of this scary thing.