No one is noticing not even me

I feel exactly the same after a little over 4 months and 56lbs. I see people that've lost 56lbs in success stories (even starting at my weight) and they look like new people... I literally look exactly the same (I even took photos the day after I started and look the same on them)... Totally illogical >.>

I know the feeling all to well, this is the rough part. But the scale isn't lying, you are loosing. Just keep going! You are doing a great job! You will soon notice a shirt that was to tight loosening up or pants that you used to be your squeeze into parts aren't a challenge. If it helps try taking measurements once a month. I didn't start to see it in myself until i was over 20 pounds personally and my boyfriend starting saying he could see it after 15. Don't let the lack of visual changes discourage you so early in the game!

You don't need people to notice all that matters is how you feel, do you feel better? Do you have more energy? Are your pants a little loose? Congratulations on losing 11 pounds woo! Don't fall off the wagon trust me you will feel SO much worse keep going

Keep up the great work. People will notice eventually (and some of them probably already do, but have good manners and don't bring up your weight when you see them (yay for those people)).

Your guy probably doesn't notice yet because he sees you every day (same reason you don't notice). But 11 lbs is a lot, and it comes off from all over the whole body. So ya, right now your might not notice you clothes being that much looser on you but its right around the corner.

1 - take progress pics...you look at yourself every single day...it is very difficult to notice the small changes that occur over a very long period of time while you are losing weight. this issue will be exacerbated if you have body image issues to begin with.

2 - sometimes people notice and don't say anything. nobody really said anything to me until I was about 30 Lbs down...this is due in large part to the fact that commenting on someone's weight, even if it is to say, "wow...you look great...you've lost some weight" is rather taboo. A lot of people would take that and think, "so....you thought I was a nasty fat *kitten* before?" Talking about another person's weight is just a bit taboo.

3 - you're really going to have to get your head wrapped around the fact that this is a very long haul..a month is absolutely nothing...I've been here for almost a 18 months now and still have a lifetime to go. Just by your comments I can tell that you are taking the small think view...the one that says, I can't wait to get to such and such weight and then I can be done with this...reality is that THIS...your health, fitness, and nutrition are lifetime endeavors...there is no finish line...you are never "done". You will never be able to maintain long run if you look at this as something to eventually be completed and done with.

Also note that I'm not talking about logging...I don't log and I've maintained for the past 8 months or so without logging...you should be using this time to learn proper nutrition, portion control and moderation as well as setting independent fitness goals. These are the tools that will help you maintain your health, weight, and fitness long term...MFP is just training wheels...eventually they have to come off. When I say you are never done I mean that you never cease to set new goals and continue to rock your fitness and nutrition.

4 - The more you have to lose, the less noticeable small changes in weight are going to be...as you lean out, changes of a few pounds here and there are more drastic. I went from 220 to 200 Lbs and looked almost exactly the same...from 200 to 190 was some pretty substantial change and that's when people started commenting...it was to the point of being obvious and not commenting would have just gotten more and more awkward. 190 to 180 was even more dramatic and people at this point didn't so much comment on my weight loss as much as they commented on how fit I was looking. I'm actually heavier now than when I hit my initial goal and people still comment...what they don't realize is that I'm actually heavier but I look more rockin' because I've been putting a little muscle on while still burning some fat in a re-comp.

5 - you have to just keep on keepin' on...you're going to have good days and bad days and good weeks and bad weeks...you're going to miss workouts from time to time due to illness or injury or just ****ing life gets in the way...it happens. You're going to overindulge at so and so birthday party or the holidays or just because it's Saturday and you're off to a rando neighborhood BBQ. These things happen...but they don't make up the bulk of your lifestyle...this is about what you're doing 80-90% of the time, not 20-30% of the time. You're never going to be perfect and 100% on...that's just not realistic.

I found that people didn't really notice until I started to act like a smaller person. I used to hide myself, wear baggy clothes, stand in the back, sit with a pillow on my lap, carry myself slumped over, etc. I continued to do that for a while after I was losing. Eventually I started carrying myself differently, dressing differently, putting myself out there. And that's when people really noticed.

It wasn't that I lost X amount of pounds. It was that my attitude and confidence changed. And then people realized I'd lost a significant amount of weight.

You have to figure out why you are doing it...


In the end, if you are going to stick with it, it needs to be about you. Do it for yourself. Find internal motivation and use that to maintain focus when outside motivation isn't available.

Here's a question that you need to ask yourself and answer HONESTLY: "Who are you doing this for?" Yourself or everyone else?

So nobody's noticed that you've lost weight. So?! :grumble: Yeah, it kinda sucks when you feel you've come a long way, but do THEY know you spend so much time at the gym? Probably not.

What you need to do is focus on the non-scale victories. For example: Before you started your journey, did you even step foot into the gym? Now you go several times a week and you push yourself harder than you thought you could, right? VICTORY! With your eating, do you do your absolute best to track EVERYTHING and not stray from your healthy eating habits? VICTORY!! Are you STILL going even with that little voice in your head? VICTORY!! Find little things to be proud of yourself for to keep you going! Doesn't have to be a HUGE thing... make a list of goals you want to accomplish in a month... at the end of the month, if you've stuck to your guns and done all the goals (or even some)... VICTORY!!!

Keep in mind that you didn't put the weight on in a month, you won't take it off in a month. And don't compare yourself to everyone else who lost as much as you. Everyone loses differently at different rates. And take pics on the net for face-value... photoshop is all to easy to use these days!! Seriously.

Nevermind anyone else. You're not doing it for compliments (if you are, you're doing it for ALL the wrong reasons and you're missing the point in getting healthy!) nor are you doing it to please anyone else. You've GOT to do it for yourself or you'll never succeed. The compliments and junk are all extra!!

Might depend on how tall you are.. I have friends that lose 20lbs and I can see it because they're 5"2'... I'm 5"10', so I lose 20lbs and it may as well be day to day weight fluctuation... lol. I think I'd have to lose 50lbs before anyone but myself noticed.

I found that people didn't really notice until I started to act like a smaller person. I used to hide myself, wear baggy clothes, stand in the back, sit with a pillow on my lap, carry myself slumped over, etc. I continued to do that for a while after I was losing. Eventually I started carrying myself differently, dressing differently, putting myself out there. And that's when people really noticed.

It wasn't that I lost X amount of pounds. It was that my attitude and confidence changed. And then people realized I'd lost a significant amount of weight.

This is interesting, and it makes total sense.