Feeling deflated :(

People may not want to say things like "You've lost weight" since it implies they thought you were fat before. It is a manners thing. Also, it may be that what you have lost so far is mostly visceral fat. Once you get rid of that stuff, you will start losing the subcutaneous fat and you will see more of a difference.

Keep your head up and be patient. You might not notice visually for quite a while since you see yourself every day and it is a gradual process.

Also, if you are engaged, then that means your soon-to-be is already in love with you... You may not be pleased with your body (I am very familiar with that feeling), but chances are you are more critical of yourself than the person you are marrying.

You lost 9 lbs in a month and you're wondering what you're doing "wrong"?

Not giving yourself credit for phenomenal success is what you're doing wrong.

I'm not seeing a problem here that can be fixed anywhere but in your head. You're losing weight, and scale fluctuations are normal. Everyone's weight fluctuates, even over the course of a day, and as long as there is a downward trend, you're doing fine. I'm not sure what results you expected after only a month, but you need to be realistic about this. It's not a quick process by any means, much like putting the weight on was not a quick process. You need to make peace with that and trust that it's working, otherwise you are going to drive yourself crazy.

Honestly, people probably are not going to notice unless you lose a huge amount of weight, and even fewer are actually going to say something. I've lost 15 lbs so far, have not gone down any clothes sizes (some things are looser), and exactly zero people have noticed. It really has nothing to do with you or how hard you are working, people in general are just way more into themselves and really aren't thinking about you and how much you weigh. Remember you are doing this for you. :flowerforyou:

ETA: I didn't notice your ticker…9 lbs lost? You are way ahead of the curve, especially for someone with so little to lose.

Congratulations on your recent weight loss and up coming nuptials!
Please be patient with yourself and do not stop your hard work.
Remember to log all foods and EAT ENOUGH. Drink plenty of water and if you're strength training, then make sure your getting the right amount of protein.
Take photos to document progress.
You'll see, by your April wedding everyone will notice how your body has changed.
These links are helpful to keeping you on the right trek.....

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=sexypants

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819925-the-basics-don-t-complicate-it

Best of luck to you!!:flowerforyou:

Took people about 6 months to notice mine. A few didn't even notice until after a full year.

Took people about 6 months to notice mine. A few didn't even notice until after a full year.

Someone beat me to it! You're doing great. People will notice soon.

Hello,

So basically for the past month I have been dieting by cutting calories and working out 6 times a week with a mix of cardio & strength training.

I Have lost weight according to the scales however this fluctuates weekly and nobody has noticed that I have lost anything which is really upsetting. I am still in the same clothes which although feel slightly looser around my bottom are still tight everywhere else. I went to the Hair Salon today and saw myself in a full length mirror and just wanted to cry I despise my body and how it looks I wasn't expecting to look skinny but I really thought I would have felt different now. I am getting married this April and am so nervous about the way I will look. I feel so disappointed, I don't know what I am doing wrong? I have done so well cutting out all junk food and eating plenty of fruit veggies and lean meats, I have been much more active and working my butt off with exercise. Any advice would be so helpful as at the minute I just feel trapped.

x x

A couple of things to point out which is the truth as i don't do the support nonsense that most go for

Do not judge your progress in the mirror i lost 37lbs and for most of that didn't think i looked any different only every know and then did i think i had lost weight, i never understood anorexia before but the mind is a very strange thing, you look at the negatives, but you will have a moment when you think wow i have changed

I work with people day in day out and most have never mentioned my weight loss but recently i saw some friends i hadn't seen for months and they were shocked how much weight i had lost

And lastly the first part of weight loss is a lot of water, once you get past the stone mark(14lbs) your body will slim down noticeably, if you haven't done so take a picture and compare each month you will see it, the camera never lies but your mind does

Your doing very well the only thing that can halt your progress is the doubts in your head

Congrats on your success in your weight loss, beautiful kids and up and coming wedding. That's all so exciting.

My mum didn't say anything to me until I'd lost about 15kgs/ 30 odd pounds and even then it was only because someone else said something at the same time. Sometimes people are too scared to say anything because are worried it may offend.

Sometimes we worry so much about what the number on the scale is saying but forget that we have achieved so many other things when losing weight. For me it's things like I can now go for a run where before I couldn't walk very far and I don't feel tired during the day as I never had any energy. Playing with the kids is no much more fun, last night we played under the sprinklers for ages before I would have only watched the kids and not joined in.

Just remember it needs to be about how you feel about yourself. You're doing great.