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marleybarnes4
marleybarnes4 Posts: 1
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I'm 58,and have tried to lose weight my whole life. I quite smoking 8 yrs,ago and gain more 65 pounds, so I need to lose like 100.pounds. I always start out on the best foot forward but it doesn't last more than a few weeks something always sets me back.
I have had a lot of tragedies in my life, but I'm married to my soul mate now almost ten years, and he supports me no matter what, I just don't get why I'm always falling

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  • AcaciaHavens
    AcaciaHavens Posts: 4
    Falling is relapsing. You need to forgive yourself for that, but then pick yourself up & get back on the wagon. If you keep doing the same "diet" & expect different results, you will never get the results you desire. I just joined this site, but I have been committed to a plan that works for me & I still have months to go before I reach my goal. One of my challenges was (being prepared). I had to learn to plan out my meals, shopping, etc. Then came learning the art if discipline. For me this journey to a healthy, longer, quality filled life requires me to plan & be discipline. Good luck on your journey. Remember - this is your journey, & you control it.
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    You are being too hard on yourself:

    i.e. There are many differing answers on how many times Thomas Edison failed before he successfully invented the light bulb. Some say that it was 10,000, while others say it was 1,000. Another source says he tried 3,000 times. It's safe to say that he tried over 1,000 times. When a reporter asked him about his many failures, Edison simply said, 'It just meant that I was that many times closer to success.'
  • LVCeltGirl
    LVCeltGirl Posts: 473
    You can do this. As the other comment mentioned, you have to forgive yourself for the times "you fall off the wagon". This is a journey, you are going to stumble and fall. The key to succeeding in this is to pick yourself up after the fall and get right back into the swing of things. If you were walking and you stumbled and fell, would you just sit where you fell and say "I can't go any further" never getting back up? If you're like me and say "No, I'd get back up and keep moving forward". Then why with relearning how you eat and how you move to keep your body in shape, you also won't get up and get moving?

    Always remember this is a journey. You didn't put the weight on overnight, so don't expect it to come off overnight either. That's the other thing that can derail a person's journey on weightloss and discovering the healthy person within themselves, the expectation that weightloss will be instantaneous.
  • Krikit34
    Krikit34 Posts: 125 Member
    In the same boat...I've fought (and mostly just gained) weight all my life. This time around I'm learning that a set back for a day doesn't have to mean a set back for a week, month, year or life time. It's a day. Even a week long set back doesn't have to mean a lifetime. I'm finding this site really helpful, have gained some very encouraging friends, but I know that every day I am the only one responsible for what I eat or if I move. Getting on the site and logging food is helping me stay focused and accountable. There are great success stories on here to that help me to see that it CAN be done!
  • meltedsno
    meltedsno Posts: 208 Member
    I am also 58 and have always been overweight. My wake up call came to me on July 1, 2013...not sure what happened on that day except that when I woke up that morning I decided I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I finally realized that dieting wasn't the answer -- instead, I needed to change from the inside out. No one could do it for me... it was all up to me. It took me 58 years to realize that only I can make the changes that need to be made. I don't know how much I've lost to date,, but can tell you that between July 1 and Nov 22 (was weighed before having surgery for a broken wrist) I lost 52 lbs. Since then, I would guess I dropped another 15 lbs. I don't really know. I can tell you this, though.... yesterday I bought my very first pair of size 10 jeans. I have NEVER worn a size 10. When I fit in an 8, I will weigh again, and then begin working on maintenance.

    I have had a few days where I ate something I normally wouldn't have, but with the help of MFP, I could incorporate the calories into my food plan.... and with the help of my FitBit, could adjust my walking to burn extra calories if needed.... in the past, if I would have eaten something I "shouldn't have" I'd say "screw it" and stuff myself until I could puke and still look for more food.

    I've resigned myself to the fact that this is something that I will have to deal with the rest of my life -- except for the first time in my life, I am in control.. Krikit34 said it so nicely: " a set back for a day doesn't have to mean a set back for a week, month, year year or life time" SO TRUE! We will ALL conquer!!! :-)

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