How did you learn to accept compliments?

Usually I just respond with "Psshhht, about friggin time you noticed. I've known I was awesome for years!!" (I may have had too little or too much attention as a kid. I really don't remember much.)

Yes, I can relate, big time. Having a great supportive crew on MFP has helped a lot because they shower me with compliments and are so encouraging. I have learned to receive and accept their compliments and even if I may not agree or see it in myself yet, I say thank you and try to tell myself that someone sees *something* that I'm not seeing and to get out of my head to realize that I've come a long way. Many days I still see the fat girl in the mirror....I dunno when she'll go away in my head...because she's no where to be found in my house. I also get a little embarrassed when my extended family makes comments/compliments. I feel great, don't get me wrong, but really weird (especially if it's an uncle or something, hahahh). And then there are my in-person friends who don't say much at all and I wish they would just acknowledge it/me but I know that they haven't got the motivation to change yet and many are just battling the green beast of envy. There are a range of emotions that have come with the weight loss - learning to deal with them and how to respond is only a small part of it. Just smile and say thank you...even if you are beet red. YOu earned it!

Yes, I can relate, big time. Having a great supportive crew on MFP has helped a lot because they shower me with compliments and are so encouraging. I have learned to receive and accept their compliments and even if I may not agree or see it in myself yet, I say thank you and try to tell myself that someone sees *something* that I'm not seeing and to get out of my head to realize that I've come a long way. Many days I still see the fat girl in the mirror....I dunno when she'll go away in my head...because she's no where to be found in my house. I also get a little embarrassed when my extended family makes comments/compliments. I feel great, don't get me wrong, but really weird (especially if it's an uncle or something, hahahh). And then there are my in-person friends who don't say much at all and I wish they would just acknowledge it/me but I know that they haven't got the motivation to change yet and many are just battling the green beast of envy. There are a range of emotions that have come with the weight loss - learning to deal with them and how to respond is only a small part of it. Just smile and say thank you...even if you are beet red. YOu earned it!

Such a genuinely sweet person. And what she said is true.

My foster brother hadn't seen me for a while and he said, "You've lost a lot of weight--you going through a mid-life crisis or something?"

After I stopped laughing, I said, "No, I'm going through a mid-life EXCELLENCE!"

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My foster brother hadn't seen me for a while and he said, "You've lost a lot of weight--you going through a mid-life crisis or something?"

After I stopped laughing, I said, "No, I'm going through a mid-life EXCELLENCE!"

Ha!! This is awesome. I had a friend who lost a bunch of weight due to anxiety (and unfortunately didn't keep it off), so if people ask if something is wrong, I will tell them I'm becoming more excellent.

It is interesting to hear how so many have difficulty with this. I have been told by different people recently that I look fit, but all I think of when I hear this is the bits of goop I still am working to get rid of. My reactions tend to vary and I need to work at this so I don't come off as an unappreciative dbag. I think the process of removing that fat person mindset is almost as big a struggle as losing the weight.

I find it very hard to accept compliments. I doubt very much whether they are genuine. Don't think I ever will accept compliments